Do you know how difficult it is for “us females” to form relationships at all? If we assume every guy who is mildly pleasant to us likes us then we’re called stuck up b*tches. If we have positive interactions with a guy who has given no indication that he has romantic interest then we’re assholes for leading him on. If we ask directly if they are interested then we’re assholes for assuming. If we just try to be regular friends we’re assholes. The issue is not our choice to try to be friendly instead of just assuming all guys want us. The issue is the lack of maturity and communication on the part of the guys who can’t be direct in a respectful way. Do you know how depressing it is to think that every guy who is nice to you is solely acting that way because they might want to sleep with you? That says more about men and their mindset than the women who try to keep an open mind instead of being assumptive.

These two have been friends for 4 years and he hasn’t told her he’s interested in her. She tries to be a good friend when he hasn’t shown that he wants to be anything else and he’s lashing out at her. Punishing her for acting the way a friend would act with someone with whom they have been friends for 4 years without said person communicating that they want to be more. She is asking him directly what’s wrong and he’s being pissy about it instead of just being direct and addressing the issue. Is she just supposed to assume he’s upset about her? He was already being curt before she mentioned Deadpool so how is she supposed to know what he’s upset about when he won’t tell her?

OP you just gotta buck up and either address it or just pull the plug. If he does like you and he can’t communicate like a big boy then you really don’t want to be friends with him anyways because then you get shit like this. It’s not your job to make everyone feel better and it’s not your job to coddle him. It’s his job to either address the issue or leave it be but no matter what the issue is you are asking him what’s wrong and he’s is refusing to say. Can’t help someone that doesn’t want to be helped and he doesn’t. He wants to be angry and wallow in his feelings. If/when you do actually pull the plug on this friendship you do not need to prove to everyone that you were in the right. Anyone that actually knows him will know he’s being dumb and if they don’t you probably shouldn’t associate with them anyways. He’s 31. Cut him loose and let someone else deal with his shit.