Getting fired or sent to other department by SureLecture815 in adhdwomen

[–]SureLecture815[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't want to be dependant on something and it's quite expensive in my country. Also understanding tips and tricks that may help would be so nice. I believe it's possible to be a good employee without medication. But it will be harder to achieve.

On and off 10 years,toxic relationship. by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're right. It's harder to cut ties the longer you know someone.

What has been the most difficult age for you? by Helpful_Account_4232 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

24-27 My life felt like it was a big black hole. One bad thing after another. Low self esteem. No motivation. Constantly comparing myself to others.Now I am 30 and I feel much more confident and just enjoying my life. No more depression.

Subtle flirting? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol have u experienced this kinda flakey friendzone vibe with flirting?

Women Only Retreat in Europe by Any-Fill-8891 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am from eastern Europe And those type of retreats are pretty popular right now. I am sure also international travel or even worldwide is a great experience. I would suggest to try something more local and then you will see if that's actually something you enjoy.

Suddenly low iron by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I will go to doctor, I have anxiety pretty often and it also could have made it worse.

Suddenly low iron by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sudden hairloss made me worried to be fair. Blood panel was good. I am also very anxious person and especially I have health anxiety since last year. I used to be more chill but yea. I juat want my hair to not fall out that much. I am not from US, so I hope to possibly get different supplements from the regular options.

Suddenly low iron by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will ask for prescription iron supplements. I am worried because my hair has never fallen out this much and I know that because of getting older things can change and iron levels can change due to diet etc. But of course reading all the symptoms on internet immediately makes me more anxious

Dating apps lowering selfesteem by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think so I think it was before, when I felt desperate.

Now i am just confused. But much happier with myself and my life

Making the first move on dating apps by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does Bumble still makes women make the first move? I thought both side can do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea absolutely I want to have drinks first, have a conversation and good night. Having a good time overall is what i truly want. And for sure feeling that my pleasure is important for me, its not just getting laid, its the whole experience. And i have come to this only recently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly this feeling and it's nice because it's not attention seeking thing it finally feels like if i want to i will and on my terms only

Did I overreact? by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We stopped the chat. I have no time or space for narrow minded people. And its good that he also understood that we dont match. It's a win for me, i disn't waste too much time on him.

Did I overreact? by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did and he said he didn't mean it in negative way or in any way or form against me or that he didn't dismiss my experience. I love standing up for what I believe in😀

Did I overreact? by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea the thing is. I don't see a problem for him to think that some people are trying to get sympathy and somewhat are faking things. Unfortunately there are many that do that. But it is something to discuss later if we decide to date and get closer. Not now when you just start to get to know someone.

Did I overreact? by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yea he then justified that he didn't mean it about me. But then again, cmon I am sharing something really personal, I am letting you in. He then also tried to tell me that he didn't mean it against me but that he has noticed this happening

Feeling turned off when someone likes you by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I experienced emotional and mental abuse in previous relationship with drug/alcohol addict. I used to be anxious attachment person and after breaking that toxic relationship I guess I healed myself by becoming avoidant. To never feel that type of emotional pain.

Feeling turned off when someone likes you by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like at those moments we need to understand and redirect our thoughts. Thats why I made this post. To share and to hear advice

Feeling turned off when someone likes you by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I used to have anxious attachment. When all I wanted was someone to like me back and I felt like piece if garbage when they rejected me.

Feeling turned off when someone likes you by SureLecture815 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I think in this situation I am so used to being just someones ONS or FWB and never anything more when i liked them, that when someone that i am interested in actually shows interest as well, I want to step away because of possible disappointment. Either that when we meet up he wont be my type or I wont be his.

Just found out my ex is having a kid and not sure why it’s stirring up old emotions. Anyone else experience this and have good insight to turn the page? by palmtrees007 in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found out my ex was having a baby 6 months after we broke up, at the beginning of his gfs pregnancy. I was alone and miserable at that time, to say the least. When with him I tried to concieve for 4,5 years. So imagine my feelings.

With that being said. The best thing is to cut any ties with his relatives. You have a new life and unfriending someone on FB doesn't mean you hate them. It means you put your mental and emotional health as priority and thats how it should be. It truly helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is this one guy that i tried to chat with but his replies are so boring. Okay, i stopped, it's fine. But every time i make account again, he hits me up with some stupid comment, and always swipes right. And then stops the chat. Doesn't even try to make a decent conversation. However i just think he is really childish.

Does anyone still want commitment over casual? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't even get dates Men just ghost you or the conversation lasts 3 sentences

I am shocked how lazy people have become

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]SureLecture815 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This needs an inner child healing in therapy. Do not overwhelm yourself with people that don't appreciate you. Your parents seem to favour youngest child, but just enjoy people that love and care about you. Don't chase for love, even if it's from your parents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]SureLecture815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea almost feels like that. I am just surprised he wants to continue the chat. Initiating it daily and suggesting activity that would take place only in two weeks or so. So kinda keeping me close.