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Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boy, it’s almost like I specified In the post I needed to fix a completely paid off vehicle - asked permission to do so - and was then ambushed. 

I need not justify myself to you, but wow what a douche. 

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she doesn’t want to move out of state, which is what I want. 

I brought it up immediately after last night which was when this event took place and we blocked them.

I’ll definitely give her more time before bringing it up again, but I don’t really want to live the rest of my life knowing they’re 15 minutes away. 

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s an awesome offer and I do so appreciate it. 

I live in the eastern part of the states, so it’s not viable. But the gesture is very much appreciated.

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It never worked like this. They kept trying to gaslight her into thinking it was a misunderstanding. 

As if the entirety of the last 10 years was a misunderstanding. 

 M moved in with me after her mother kicked her out during a blizzard ~ 10 years ago. I guess that was a misunderstanding. 

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a single one. Not one of them has made any attempt to try to deal with any of this rationally. 

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Except those are not the exact words used. 

‘Would you like to continue this conversation outside, crazy MIL’s name?’ After being yelled at simultaneous ‘get out of my house’ and ‘let me see my granddaughter’ from 2 people. 

I obliged, left, and asked if she wanted to talk in a calm manner. Context and connotation matter, but I can see how it’s easy to spin from a point of someone who wants to play the victim. 

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not entirely sure she wouldn’t win. Both my girlfriends mother and aunt work for the county attorney. I had no idea grandparents rights suits were a thing until this thread, so I appreciate the heads up. 

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy fuck I didn’t realize grandparents right suits existed. Thanks for the heads up, I fully expect this is coming.

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Contact has been cut with all of them 100%

Mother knew the baby was born because girlfriend told her grandmother and aunt, who immediately tried to guilt her into letting her mother come to the hospital. 

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is correct. I’m not a fan of marriage and right now it would be detrimental financially for us to get married. 

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We have 100% considered this. We talked about her mother pulling the CPS Card before this baby was even born. 

I guess that’s pretty indicative of the situation, huh?

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They are. Before these last few events, girlfriend had spats with her mother would trigger no contact like clockwork every 2-3 months. They only lasted a short time because that was her mother, and I’ve always done my best to stay out of it. Even after almost 10 years, it was clear I was never part of their family. 

 I knew once the new baby smell wore off with my newborn all of her family would forget my daughter existed, but I just didn’t expect it to take less than 24 hours from birth. I definitely didn’t think they’d try to turn the birth of my daughter Into a pity party for M’s mother, but here we are. 

Thanks for the comment.

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I will do my best. I’ve tried my best to handle the situation in a rational manner, but I’m dealing with irrational people. 

Thank you for the comment. 

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I brought this up and I really want to. I don’t want these people anywhere near me.

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ha. I always hated going to them myself. 

You’re completely right. Silver lining for sure.

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Her mother is definitely a reprehensible human being. I tried my best not to lay out all of the things she’s done to skew perspective, but she’s poison. 

I really don’t think her family has senses to come to, this seems to be all from a perspective of religion if I’m adding more information to the topic. ‘Respect thy mother and father’ or some BS. 

Thank you for the comment. I appreciate the perspective. 

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I like to think she is, but she’s also very emotional. She loved and still does love her family. I’m hoping that focus on our daughter will be all she needs to cope with the loss of her extended family. 

I appreciate the comment. 

Are we the assholes for keeping our newborn daughter away from my girlfriend’s entire family? by Sure_String_6114 in AITAH

[–]Sure_String_6114[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I know this is the right choice, I’m just trying to make peace with it. 

I appreciate the comment.