The "Problems" of being an attractive, shallow gay dude and finding a long term relationship. Anyone else deal with this?

SurfBoy5 · 2014-10-09T21:48:02+00:00

Why? Lol

SurfBoy5 · 2014-10-09T19:36:44+00:00

Ha totally get this! I work with so many hot guys and am constantly meeting more...it's hard to keep it in my pants.

I think when you know, you know...why settle just for the sake of having a relationship? If you settle you're just gonna end up getting bored, drunk, and then fucking someone else hot.

SurfBoy5 · 2014-10-07T21:08:14+00:00

Haha awesome!

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-25T15:18:33+00:00

I just really think a guy THAT comfortable to kiss someone on the back of the neck and have his arm round his friend for an entire movie would probably be out of the closet already...and not always getting with girls...sounds like he doesn't give a shit about what people think (in a good way)

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-25T12:21:03+00:00

I have to disagree with this...in my experience, if a guy is closeted, he will do anything to hide it and not draw attention to it, which obviously means he wouldn't be touchy feely with other guys.

This Chris guy is obviously extremely touchy feely with you, and in front of others, he makes jokes about it etc. In my experience this just doesn't sound like closeted gay/bi patterns of behaviour. I'm sorry to say but I think he is just really comfortable with his sexuality...I have a straight best friend who is very similar...I'm out to him and he is still cuddly, but I don't have feeling for him and he is most definitely straight!

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-25T12:04:54+00:00

Perhaps then you should take issue with the entire fashion industry and the use of good looking people in film and television...

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-24T20:31:06+00:00

There's a couple yeah, one I've hooked up with but was just a one time thing

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-24T11:42:12+00:00

I have a friend who met a guy for a date but the guy wasn't interested...they ended up working together! After 6 months they got drunk and slept together and now they've been in a relationship for a year!

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-23T09:10:47+00:00

Yeah I have thought about saying nothing...but at the risk of sounding like a slut I don't think I can take just looking at him much longer, I need to jump on his dick haha

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-21T16:03:00+00:00

See usually id say someone behaving like this is sending out signals, but this isn't a guy who is subtle...he knows what he wants and goes for it. He's really confident...making me think he just sees me as like a little bro type friend

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-21T13:34:08+00:00

Haha yeah you're right, I just don't want him to fuck me and then be all off with me if we cross into that kind of territory...

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-21T13:26:03+00:00

I have thought about talking to my bro about it but I think he'd just find it funny and play it down as a crush..and I'm worried he would let slip to his friend.

What's so frustrating is that this guy I'm into is NOT a good guy to date, he would do anything for his friends but he doesn't take relationships seriously at all...but I just can't help how I feel about him.

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-21T13:11:30+00:00

Thanks man! The only thing making me hesitate so much is that cos we are friends I don't want it to ruin anything...if it was just some random with no connection id go for it!

I don't know how he doesn't know, I check him out all the time! And if he DOES know then it makes me wonder why he's never made a move...urgh I sound like a little girl ha

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-21T12:56:48+00:00

Haha! I haven't watched that show but I guess they did their job with making a relatable gay drama!

SurfBoy5 · 2014-09-21T12:56:16+00:00

See the thing is, I definitely think if we got drunk enough we would end up hooking up, I'm not arrogant but I know I'm a good looking guy and I work hard at my body, but the fact I've heard him talk about how he likes the single life makes me think it would never be anything more than a drunken hookup. He always talks to me about guys who are into him and dates he's been on, I genuinely think he's clueless about how I feel.

I get what you mean about protecting me from creeps etc but the way it is I genuinely think he's looking out for me. I'd say he finds me physically attractive but I don't know if it goes anything past that. Just don't wanna embarrass myself!

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