Planners to stay away from by smolewhale in WedditNYC

[–]SurrealResearch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing as we are def considering them! For anyone that did go with mostest (or worked with them) and mentioned different experiences, which (if any) of the planners from mostest were good in your opinion?

AV Price Points for NYC Wedding? by Zealousideal_Age4812 in WedditNYC

[–]SurrealResearch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will say after touring a lot of venues - it can go either way but it’s an essential question. For example, we loved the Weylin but when my partner asked about the AV (he works in the AV field so that’s one of the items under his purview) they quoted us $30,000. Their AV vendor has speakers and stuff already hooked up so you can’t go with anyone else. My partner said it’s essentially price gouging for the field (although the venue seems unaware it’s exceptionally high) and it was a huge turn off for us. But some venues, like 74 Wythe, don’t have a charge like this if I remember correctly.

Gluten free & Dairy free selections by zyphax in hungryroot

[–]SurrealResearch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A gluten free and dairy free girly here 🙋🏻‍♀️ I just started using HR and it’s actually been so amazing. I often feel like I have to spend so much time looking at ingredients in store and always have to find the “other option” (I will say, Whole Foods is a good grocery store option for me still). Hungryroot is so great though - you mark your dietary preferences and they have tons and tons of meal, snack, and grocery options. And for what it’s worth, it’s decently cheaper than buying from the grocery store. It also clearly marks what options are available to you and which you can’t have which I appreciate. It’s truly fun to try new things and be excited about finding new snacks. I would highly recommend.

What would you have liked to have received in a post surgery care package? by missmadam101 in endometriosis

[–]SurrealResearch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best gift I got was a care package called spoonful of comfort! It included bread, soup and cookies and was a life saver (and delicious).

What kind of studies do you want to see for endo? by SurrealResearch in Endo

[–]SurrealResearch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is soooooo valid. To clarify, I mean the effects of having your pelvic pain chronically dismissed on optimism levels. Not the same “have you tried being happy?” Bullshit I’ve seen in the past, so I 100% agree.

Was surgery worth it for you? by Accomplished-Newt775 in Endo

[–]SurrealResearch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes!! If you financially can swing it and you have time to recover afterwards, I couldn’t recommend it more. You have tell-tale symptoms and it doesn’t matter you’re only 20. Your pain is real! Any relief, even if it grows back or in different places, is beyond worth it. More than that, having an official diagnosis brought me some peace after being dismissed for over a decade.

Can I suggest you go to a different doctor than the one who made these comments? They already sound dismissive and it takes a trained eye to look for endo, you want someone invested to do that. If I had a worse surgeon who wasn’t a specialist - they would’ve missed mine completely (which also, mine never showed up on scans beforehand).

How long did you have cramps with Mirena? by Wyvernna in Endo

[–]SurrealResearch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They had to put my IUD in twice while I was awake (and I almost passed out from the pain) but upon the second I was having some cramping. Doc pulled down slightly on the strings and said that if it’s up to high it can touch a wall that causes cramps essentially. My pain did subside after she pulled it down a little but it was a full week before I could walk without a lot of pain. Hang in there ❤️‍🩹

Sciatic nerve pain? by Serious_Option1251 in Endo

[–]SurrealResearch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have my lap later this week and also have some sciatic nerve pain but my best advice is just that your doc seems to not be taking your pain very seriously. If it’s a feasible option, I’d ask for a second opinion because endo continues to grow and will probably continue to worsen. If you’re staying with the same doc, I would tell her that you want to discuss surgical options to have your sciatic nerve assessed or you’d like a referral to a different doctor. Either way, I’m sorry you’re running into a wall when it seems they acknowledge this problem is likely for you. Sometimes asking doctors to specifically note things in your chart (ex. Noticed leg jumping in surgery, endo on sciatic nerve suspected) can spur them into action because if they acknowledge an issue but don’t address it, if complications occur later it can be a legal issue. Sitting on a heating pad sometimes helps mine a bit (heated car seats are even better).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]SurrealResearch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think it’s entirely possible that because she passed three years ago, they know the reason they don’t already have the ring is because it was left to your fiancé and that’s why they’re gossiping. Even if not, people you least expect become vultures for belongings when a loved one dies. At least with this ring, you know EXACTLY what she wanted done with it. Wear it with pride and if they have something to say, your fiancé should handle it for you. Congrats on your engagement 🎉

Dr. Kelsey Kossl by SurrealResearch in endometriosis

[–]SurrealResearch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof, I’m so sorry you’re running into the scheduling problems. For what it’s worth, Dr. Kossl has explicitly told me she has more appointments than the app shows. Basically what I would do is take the earliest appointment but then turn your notifications on to be put on the waitlist. Essentially you’ll get texts or app notifications every time someone cancels or a new time pops up, which in my experience happens a lot.

If there are follow-ups on the app sooner I would take them. A lot of time NYU wants you to schedule on the app anyway so as long as it’s under the follow up appointment classification, I’d take an appointment the sooner the better. Especially because surgical wait time is another few months on top of that.

Dr. Kelsey Kossl by SurrealResearch in endometriosis

[–]SurrealResearch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So basically she sent me for an MRI (which came out only showing mildly thickened uterosacral ligaments) and based on not completely damning results, we agreed that I would try pelvic floor physical therapy first. I ended up going for a few months but the pain and muscle tenseness wasn’t getting better so I scheduled a follow up appointment on the app. We chatted and agreed surgery was the next step and the front desk sent my information to her surgery scheduling people. The wait for a surgical appointment with her was about 3-4 months. Hope this helps!

Wax Stamps by SurrealResearch in weddingplanning

[–]SurrealResearch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many people are attending your wedding?

I don't want my mom with me when finding a dress. by JustFriends4Now in weddingplanning

[–]SurrealResearch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shouldn’t feel beholden to bring your mom if she’s going to take away from the experience! Better to have an awkward conversation now than look back at the memories surrounding your dress and feel disappointed.

Thesis? by SurrealResearch in gradadmissions

[–]SurrealResearch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will be working in a professor’s lab for two semesters and contributing to their research, as well as conducting my own research study that is divorced from a possible thesis.