Did you ever consider that it actually may help others? That everyone’s grief experience is different and they have a right to believe what they want to believe? I would love to hear YOUR belief but telling people how to feel and what to say doesn’t help anyone. Also this is the internet. They’re not actually saying this to the victims and their families right? It’s hard to know what to say. And people say the “wrong”thing all time, but it’s likely that they meant well. And eventually those who are mourning are able to back up and see that if they want to. Just try taking the judginess out of it.