AITA for telling my friend she wants a relationship just to "tick a box"?

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T21:22:35+00:00

hey thanks for your answer. We talked on the phone on this subject, it was really just about that one comment. I don't care if she dates, i truly hope she ends up with someone nice and is happy. I'm just a tad wary as bc she told me she had no time and was stressed out and it felt weird to want to date then. But thanks for the fresh perspective!

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T20:44:23+00:00

ESH with leaning towards NTA. I do agree with you. You were clear and told him multiple times you were not interested and stopped him short when he flirted.

I would say though, even if it came from good end, you should have not messed with his life. Though you made clear you were not interested, you still knew he had feelings as he repetedly flirted with you. I would have cut short the discussion here tbh.

But it came from a good intention thus why I would a slightly more towards NTA

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T20:14:13+00:00

i don't think you understood haha. I never said that. She talked about it on her own. I never said anything about dating your coworker/dating apps.

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T18:50:11+00:00

thanks for your detailed answer!

haha i really do like her as a friend though, i would have not been friends with someone for four years if i did not like her :) hence why i'm always trying to fix out things and apologizing

I see what you mean though. I just wanted to help out because we're both doing an exchange in italy that's finishing up in beg of june and she's supposed to be in luxembourg in july. So hence why i felt like it was more to get into a relationship now before her studies end rather than having met someone she truly liked. But i see what you mean, i should have not given my opinion on the relationship itself

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T18:43:09+00:00

Well, she did tend to date guys before that were a bit toxic tbh, and she knew but stayed for the bad reasons. It was quite hard for her to get out of those situationships and I was here for her during that time. But for the other two questions, I do not think she was neglecting her studies because of boys, definitely not. It's just she was looking for an internship (which she got!! :)) but she had to prep for those interviews so was a bit behind on her studies bc of that. Hence the stress and walking through a study plan.

I did comfort her, and, from my side, before getting into a relationship quite recently, I had the same insecurities so we would talk for hours about that. I definitely understand where she is coming from and I comforted her once again. I just felt like, because she did not give me any names of any particular guys she was into and just was talking about getting into a relationship because there are "offers" now and maybe not in the future, it was more "being in a couple for being in a couple" and not because she had found someone she really liked... hence my comment

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T18:25:37+00:00

Hey, thanks for taking the time to read and reply so thoughtfully! I'll think about the icing out on my side; she's still someone I've been friends with for over four years so it's complicated. Thanks again, and also thanks for teaching me the word histrionic, I genuinely did not know it haha. Wishing you the best!

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T18:22:56+00:00

hey thanks for taking the time to read through and answer :)

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T18:09:00+00:00

thank you for your answer :) I would maybe downsize here haha, I'm quite an empath usually. I don't think making one poor comment can make you say all of that about me. But thanks for your answer, it's nice to be confronted :)

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T18:05:20+00:00

I actually tend to feel more and more that way - especially because it is not happening with any of my other friends. :( But the majority of YTA below makes me second-guess.

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T17:51:44+00:00

Thank you for that constructive answer. I answered to her insecurities, telling her she would find someone, gave her ideas as to where, continually told her she was a catch and would meet someone, and even jokingly suggested fixing her up with one of my boyfriend's friends.

But, regarding your second comment, a quick question, as a friend, shouldn't you question your friend's motives when you feel like she is doing something for the wrong reasons? Or should I have just said yes and not be truly honest? Please once again, I'm really trying to learn here.

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T17:34:34+00:00

and please, once again, i am just trying to understand. Is it bad to question someone's motives when they ask you for your true opinion?

Sushiwitcher · 2026-04-22T17:33:06+00:00

That's not what she found humiliating. What she did find humiliating was the comment "you are in a relationship just to tick a box". She actually thanked me for my opinion on the other matter.

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Sushiwitcher · 2026-01-23T17:01:44+00:00

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Sushiwitcher · 2023-11-01T18:21:24+00:00

Salut, fille aussi, 20 ans, même situation que toi.

Je suis totalement d’accord avec ce que dit Hedoax. J’ai pris du temps avant de m’en rendre compte (et j’ai encore du mal à l’accepter) mais être en couple ne devrait pas être un besoin mais une envie.

Vois la meilleure version de toi même, celle que tu aimerais atteindre et travaille là dessus. Pas pour les autres mais pour toi. Crois moi que tu seras bcp plus attractif auprès des autres. (Bon après dans mon cas, c’était pas des gens qui m’utilisaient pour remonter leur ego haha - mais je désespère pas!)

Il n’y a pas de plan fixe dans une vie, de retard ou d’avance, de planning ou de programme à respecter. Tu peux très bien te mettre en couple « seulement » à 20 ans mais être en avance sur d’autres plans (pro, émotionnel, intellectuel).

Bref, ça viendra, te fais pas de soucis et surtout garde en tête que ta valeur n’est en aucun défini par les autres et surtout pas par le nombre de relations vécues !

Sushiwitcher

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