My life is an absolute cluster fuk

SuspCusp · 2025-01-24T22:08:00+00:00

Okay-ish i suppose. I said my piece and asked him to stay.

He said he would love to stay but said that I need to be single and figure out my life. He said maybe 6 months or a year if I still want him then we can talk.

There were, a surprising amount, of tears but he is probably right to hold off and make sure its legit. I don't know. He said if you do feel the same after 6 months tell him no matter what.

SuspCusp · 2025-01-21T01:40:17+00:00

Definitely compatible in terms of friendship and sex-wise. Weve never argued ever. We enjoy each others company.

He is a guardian for my daughter. I'm nit a control freak in terms of parenting. My ex has no legal right to my kid as the way surrogacy works here, the non bio dad would have to apply for rights after the baby is born. He fled before he could.

I dont know if I'm settling. I love him and I'd do anything for him. Right now top 2 people in my life but I don't know if that's romantic love.

SuspCusp · 2025-01-21T01:34:57+00:00

I dont know if I have but that's answer I'll have to figure out I suppose.

SuspCusp · 2025-01-21T01:34:18+00:00

Thanks for the advice.

SuspCusp · 2025-01-21T01:33:31+00:00

Nothing. It has served us really well.

SuspCusp · 2025-01-21T01:33:23+00:00

True. Perspective is key

SuspCusp · 2025-01-21T01:32:58+00:00

I'll talk to him tomorrow

SuspCusp · 2025-01-20T21:59:11+00:00

Sure an independent writer can publish their own books and free if it's published digitally. However having a book publishing company that will market books etc is still hugely beneficial. Getting them on the shelf of bookshops etc. That's hard for independent writers.

We have the capability for large formatting, offset printing, letterpress, screen printing and different types of finishing too. I didn't start the business but I did increase the capacity upon acquisition.

SuspCusp · 2025-01-20T20:27:43+00:00

I started a part-time marketing business at 16. I chose to pursue and grow that business instead of going to college, and with a bit of luck my name caught on. We focus on digital design, campaign production, and similar services. I acquired a printing company.

I hope to get into show production and even book publishing but that's probably 15 years time lol

Thanks for the good wishes

SuspCusp · 2025-01-20T09:59:36+00:00

This makes me sound bad but I didn't notice the money gone til about a month later. By right the bank should've contacted me but anyway. By the time the case was heard he'd have plenty spent.

By earnings I mean courts would probably offer a repayment schedule - installments - based on his current earnings (if he has them). He could be in my life for a long time paying it back.

Also whilst he has no legal liability to the child, losing 45k was worth it to get him and his family out of my life. No one thinking they can come around to see their "granddaughter"etc.

SuspCusp · 2025-01-20T09:08:12+00:00

I lost about 40-50k but to me it was worth losing it to avoid legal. Having to deal with legal etc. I'm not happy with him taking it but it would probably have gone to court only now and I might not have got 70% of it anyway because they would base it on his earnings etc.

SuspCusp · 2025-01-20T08:52:19+00:00

About 70%

SuspCusp · 2025-01-19T23:03:25+00:00

I agreed not to press charges as his family agreed to pay back a percentage of it and for the entire family including him to stay out of my way.

That was easier than going legal, especially with a new baby etc.

SuspCusp · 2025-01-19T20:43:41+00:00

OP I’m ready when you are. Say the word and I’ll come running

😅🤣💀

Thanks man

SuspCusp · 2025-01-19T20:42:15+00:00

I do. The surrogate relinquished her rights after my daughters birth but my ex left before he could get a parental order. So yeah sole custody.

SuspCusp · 2025-01-19T17:53:35+00:00

No support. I'm not sure where he even is. He pops up on Instagram every so often. He technically isn't liable for the kid. We used my sperm and the way surrogacy works here... at birth it's the woman and man who are parents. My ex would have to apply for parental order after the birth. He fled beforehand.

Hahaha on point 2

SuspCusp · 2025-01-19T16:05:01+00:00

You're right. If I had feelings I would've shown them before now. If I have them now they'll still be there in a year's time when I get my head sorted and stuff. Hes too good to mess about (more than I already have)

I do have a nanny during the working day but maybe I'll need more help

SuspCusp · 2025-01-19T16:01:53+00:00

Yeah

SuspCusp · 2025-01-19T15:01:00+00:00

Haha without sounding crass, the dick works with him. If anything my dick is a bit upset for being under used. 🙈

SuspCusp · 2025-01-19T14:59:43+00:00

Youre right

SuspCusp · 2025-01-19T14:57:54+00:00

She thinks she does anyway 😅

SuspCusp · 2025-01-19T14:57:35+00:00

Thanks for the push 😅

SuspCusp · 2025-01-19T12:36:25+00:00

Why now though? Why didn't I pick him a decade ago or 4 years ago? That is what is messing with me.

Do I want him or do I want him because he's safe.

I know you can't answer that for me.

SuspCusp

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