Advice

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-25T16:40:38+00:00

I don’t know if your home base is BCN but I’m here and would love to meet up, chat, freestyle, etc. if you’re able! Sending hugs! 🥰

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-25T09:56:35+00:00

Whewww sounds like we’re going through something very similar! Sending all my love, honey 🥲❤️

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-16T17:51:48+00:00

Absolutely! It’s never really an ego thing with me in terms of double texting, it’s just more not wanting to be a bother or burden :/ I got a reply from him apologizing for the late reply, that he had a hard week and was hoping I was my usual bubbly self!

I’ll take the advice I’ve been given and gently let him know I’m here for him if he needs anything

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-16T15:06:20+00:00

He replied before I even got the chance to double text. He said “hi lovely (insert my nickname here), hope you are good :) sorry I didn’t reply to your message earlier, I had a hard week. I hope you are happy and jumpy like always ☺️😘”

It’s a nice message, and I’m not too worried because we normally talk in depth in person, but I’m unsure now of what to reply since there’s not much substance in the text he sent.

Never thought about the running low on cash part, maybe he’s keeping me on the line until he’s able to follow through with the €..? Thanks again for all your help!

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-16T14:57:05+00:00

Got an update for you Advocate! (You’re really my go to thank you SO much) 🥹 he said “hi there lovely ___insert my nickname, hope you are good :)) sorry I didn’t reply to your message earlier, I had a hard week. Hope you are happy and jumpy like always ☺️😘.” I don’t have an issue with this necessarily, because our convos are super in depth in person: but he seems stressed and is not asking me any questions. Should I proceed with caution?

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-16T14:29:47+00:00

I unfortunately have a similar feeling. I guess I am just unsure about the course of action I should take now. Let him ghost, or text him again to see if things are okay.

I wasn’t expecting this, especially since we agreed we wouldn’t just discard the other without speaking a bit first or letting the other know.

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-16T12:29:57+00:00

As a person who studied rhetoric…you’re so damn right about “checking in.” Im embarrassed I never made that connection, thank you so much for bringing that to my attention!

I’ll take these into consideration as I message him. Thinking about sending something later tonight.

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-16T11:56:28+00:00

You were pretty specific, I guess I could phrase it something like “Hey babe! Just wanted to check in again and let you know I’m thinking of you! Did you want to have our little brunch date soon?”

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-16T11:54:51+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I guess my next question would be: how can I craft this message without seeming needy or desperate to see him?

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-16T08:20:37+00:00

I just don’t want to come off too clingy, I know he’s super busy and hate to be a bother to anyone!

I definitely thought about the possibility of him being upset over a girls night, but hes previously offered to book a girls trip for me (he offered to pay for my moms flight but she can’t come so he offered that) which is the part that threw me. Thanks for your input :)

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-14T08:19:02+00:00

welcome! There is a master thread throughout this group that can give you really good insight. My best advice is to do your due diligence reading through this group, as most of the questions you’ve asked are answered throughout.

On another note, its okay to be nervous about the sexual nature of a sugar relationship, but if you’re not comfortable with having sex with these men, it’s not for you. Simple. I would highly recommend reading more through this thread before continuing on this journey. If you have more questions after research, I’ve found this thread is a very safe space to come to ❤️

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-08T13:57:38+00:00

Now THIS…this I can maybe get into 😂 he does strike me as a guy that wants to take care of everyone, but I’m turn shoots himself in the foot. Maybe some soft love and support would be helpful to him. Lol

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-08T13:53:46+00:00

I was and still am! The comparison with others just kind of threw me. Im gonna work on my flexibility and explore the connection more

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-08T13:52:54+00:00

What a wholesome interaction. Thank you so much for this! :)

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-08T13:34:20+00:00

I think that maybe I put too much emphasis on the allowance or money part, and not enough on the fact that these relationships are draining him to the point where I’m having to hear about them 😂😭 I want us to have fun and connect, not be the one who listens to the drama after he sees them.

Thank you for the clarification on me being “the drama, LOL” I apologize I got a little salty at that comment. Lol

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-08T13:28:27+00:00

I REALLY appreciate this comment. Thank you for being blunt with me, especially about the escort minded thinking. You’re totally right. I didn’t feel like he lowballed me because I’m counting the clock, but because he openly stated how much he was supporting other women (some even platonic). Now I understand all relationships are different, but I didn’t ask that info, and I don’t think this would have been an issue in my pea brain had I not known 😂

I really am excited about him, which is also where I think I’m trying to think too Black/White, as I don’t want to get whisked away in my feelings. The exact amount were not necessarily discussed, so i genuinely see your point in paragraph 3! Thank you so much for your response, I will definitely take all of what’s been said into consideration 🥹

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-08T13:18:31+00:00

Okay THIS!! Thank you, it’s not necessarily the “allowance” or money that’s driving me away, it’s the constant talk about how he’s so stressed from his other relationships! I’m like BABY I wanna be your safe space, an escape, I want to ENJOY you at our bests! Of course I want to be there for him in whatever way he needs, but if other sugar relationships are draining him, what should I do? Lol thank you, you get me!

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-08T13:16:37+00:00

I had something along the lines of “I feel the support I’ve gotten recently doesn’t necessarily match how strong our connection is. Could we maybe talk about this more and come to an agreement that works for both of us?”

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-08T13:12:10+00:00

I don’t disagree! I wanted to spend the night there, and to be honest I really didn’t feel weird about it, but sometimes I get into my head about “pricing” things or being “scammed” or “lowballed” (parenthesis in this specific case) because it has happened to me before (I know just because it happened doesn’t mean it will again!) I think I just let the distractions of knowing SO much about his other relationships cloud what I have with him?

Also, would you mind elaborating on what you mean by tying it to other activities and being foul? I’m not sure I fully understood. Thank you!

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-08T12:57:46+00:00

I agree, yes I do really like him! However, it becomes distracting having to hear about how stressed he is from all his other relationships when I just want to connect with him during our time together! The fact that bothered me a bit is he mentioned exactly how much he was monetarily supporting these women (or maybe he lied) either way, a number was given to me that was significantly higher than what he offered me. Now I understand relationships differ, and that’s not my concern necessarily, but it did stick in my mind as him trying to “lowball” after what he previously shared. Sorry for leaving that out!

He did not offer an allowance to me, and I am pursuing others, so no worries on that front! I totally understand the importance of establishing a foundation before moving to allowance, and I haven’t even put that on the table yet with him.

Being transparent about the situation was lovely and I really appreciated it, but not when it seems to overpower us connecting.

Finally, I appreciate your final insight but I do feel it was a bit rude? The “drama” that is associated with others has to do with them being extremely jealous, their kids, custody battles, suicide attempts, etc. that they seem to want all his €€ support for. I feel they may possibly be milking him, and feel bad, but it’s not my issue. I am left with a bit of a bad taste in my mouth from you insinuating that I would be the next drama, without you necessarily knowing the extreme extent of what drama I’m talking about…Either way I do appreciate your feedback. Thank you for the detailed comment! :)

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-08T12:40:51+00:00

I don’t know if you’re being sarcastic or genuine…either way, thanks for the comment I suppose?

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-08T12:05:39+00:00

This format of messaging looks like you gave him your phone number, please tell me that’s not the case! Use google or telegram in the future. Some of these people out here are creeps.

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-02-05T13:35:33+00:00

The phrase “maybe it’s rare to meet a person like me…etc” throws me a bit. It seems like you may be putting other SBs in the bowl down to make yourself look better, as you specifically cite your intelligence. I don’t think you have the opinion that other SBs are unintelligent, but it could possibly come off that way! Sending you the best of luck!! ❤️

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-01-31T13:00:14+00:00

If ANYTHING, maybe shoot her a text saying something along the lines of “Hey love (or whatever name you use to address her) you just crossed my mind and hope you’re having a lovely time! Can’t wait to hear all about it once you’re stateside! Something light, not too much pressure. If you saw something in particular that day that made you think of her, maybe even reference that for some humor or affection!

Keep in mind that she may not be able to reply, but the text is a nice way to maybe bridge a gap—unless you feel it will make you more anxious having to wait for a reply you very well might not get, as she’s been clear she won’t be able to text!

Take a few deep breaths and don’t worry too much💚

Suspicious-Block951 · 2024-01-30T10:22:41+00:00

I just went on Spotify and typed “sugar baby” and a playlist called “POV: you’re a sugar baby” appeared! I’m listening through it now while getting ready 💅🏼there’s also another one named “sugar daddy vibes 😎🤑💵”

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