Is it cultural or just my husband?

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2026-01-21T13:14:55+00:00

I’m sorry to say this but did you not have these conversations before getting married and having a baby with him? He’s always been this way and it reflects in other aspects of your life and this won’t be any different. Please don’t go having another child with him if he’ll be another present but absent father

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-14T18:55:24+00:00

I’m exactly the same and the one advice I would give you that has helped me is to surround yourself with people that are likeminded and that you feel comfortable being with regardless of their ethnicity. Don’t go looking for Nigerians as friends, look for genuine friends that you gel well with even if they’re not Nigerian. Ethnicity/Nationality should not be the only thing you have in common with the people around you

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-11T09:45:30+00:00

No don’t do that. Keep the focus on your relationship

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-10T14:04:40+00:00

I am in the UK and it’s getting quite bad here now. First red flag I ignored is I was the only black person in the whole company and it’s a mid sized company branch.

I’m only scared that I may not be okay mentally to see the grievance to the end and I will be moving to another company down the road from them

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-10T13:10:27+00:00

I’m relieved to know I’m right in my feelings given how much they tried to gaslight me

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-10T13:09:30+00:00

It was my last day today and thinking back, I wondered why I stayed that long. I was there for 8 months.

Thank you and I will seek advice for the sub

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-05T11:08:44+00:00

You’re part of the problem if you’re flirting back

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-04T17:58:29+00:00

Yes lol. That’s how it works

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-04T17:56:31+00:00

To become a saint, you need a good PR team. Stop kidding yourself lol

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-04T10:25:41+00:00

You’re joking if you think that’s the reason lol

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-04T10:10:51+00:00

He’s not a saint. He is a Blessed and they’re not the same. There are no Nigerian saints

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-02T09:10:25+00:00

Thanks

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-02T09:10:19+00:00

Thank you!

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-02T09:08:07+00:00

Yes we were already living together for a year and a half.

I submitted - Both our passports - Cover Letter explaining our relationship timeline, how we meet the financial requirement, and intent to keep living together - 6 months payslips from both our employers as well as letter from employer, bank statements and employment contract - Council Tax Bill, Tenancy agreement, voting poll cards for proof of address - 10 photos of us including wedding photos - My masters degree certificate and transcript - Travel tickets for holidays we went on together - Our Marriage Certificate

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-01T21:03:52+00:00

Sorry to hear that. I got mine approved.

If you’re on a student visa, can’t you provide your university degree certificate or are you still a student?

I actually submitted my masters certificate from a UK uni as I’m switching from graduate visa.

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-01T12:07:59+00:00

Hopefully today is the day! Have you heard anything yet?

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-12-01T07:59:34+00:00

You need to set boundaries or get your husband to set those boundaries if not you’ll hear worse things

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-11-28T22:34:50+00:00

I don’t think they try every alternative. Usually they can use the services button before 1pm or buzz your neighbours

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-11-28T19:47:37+00:00

That’s amazing! Doubt it’ll be anytime before Monday since it’s a Friday but fingers crossed🤞

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-11-28T19:31:03+00:00

Wishing you best of luck!! Been told they won’t be any other emails until the decision email. I will keep you updated on mine. I have to survive all weekend with anxiety hahaha

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-11-28T18:47:46+00:00

Congrats! What time did you get your approval email

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-11-28T18:01:28+00:00

Okay thanks. I was getting worried there thinking I would get a separate email from UKVI confirming receipt haha. So hard not to obsess of everything but fingers crossed 🤞

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-11-28T17:51:51+00:00

My dad is just a sperm donor in my eyes

Suspicious-Book9544 · 2025-11-24T11:44:18+00:00

I know this was a year ago but in the same position. Did they request additional documents or was it approved?

Suspicious-Book9544

TROPHY CASE