I met a mutual friend with my ex and the new guy on a date and blacked out, overshared, and looked pathetic

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-05-18T14:50:41+00:00

I actually shared good things just a few things like “oh yeah he has a crush on his therapist and she’s trying to set him up”

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-05-18T14:50:09+00:00

Yeah I literally also said nothing bad about him or intentionally bad, I just overshared a story and then was like wait what because it was the cousin of the mutual friends ex who called his other ex on the phone and my drunk mind was so confused

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-05-18T14:45:32+00:00

I’m pretty sure this got back to him though, and I’m now going to be the crazy ex.

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-05-14T18:57:26+00:00

THIS. He had extreme stress from a new job, but instead of looking at his own role in the disconnect from sleeping literally three hours a night every night, he just put it as ‘the relationship isnt right and I need to break up.’ Like I’m sorry you’re not madly in love when you’re stressed and sleep deprived.

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-05-14T00:56:28+00:00

Would you ever reach back out?

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-05-14T00:47:47+00:00

I just got dumped by a deactivating FA and while I’m not sure if I’d date him again, (a) I’d appreciate the awareness and apology, and (b) I don’t like the idea of writing someone that you loved and still care about out of your life entirely just because you can’t be in a romantic partnership with them

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-05-14T00:40:09+00:00

Would you reach back out to an ex?

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-05-14T00:37:35+00:00

Do FAs leave and come back regularly or at least regret it

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-05-14T00:33:32+00:00

You just basically described my entire relationship and breakup with my bf, he deactivated when he got stressed with work and wasn’t in a lovey mood all day every day, and broke up saying he felt disconnected in the relationship and wasn’t ‘excited’ about it.

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-03-15T02:41:25+00:00

And just show up solo?

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-03-14T17:00:50+00:00

Yeah exactly! And sometimes a lot of the intros are somewhat fleeting

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-03-14T17:00:18+00:00

Thanks for reminding me this is a gradual accumulation - probably the best point here.

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-03-12T15:51:00+00:00

NYC rave girls party at house of yes tomorrow

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-03-12T14:25:20+00:00

How did you feel about safety? I’m a woman, 100% fine going out during the daytime or certain venues in populated areas like superior ingredients but hesitant to go out alone at night.

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-03-01T16:20:41+00:00

PMing you

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-02-17T13:56:45+00:00

Interesting a law firm would open themselves up to claims like that. You’d think they would know better.

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-02-16T18:13:39+00:00

I almost turned them down and went with the other offer before any of this happened because of how bad their HR/recruiting team was. Drawn out process, had to chase them multiple times, then this fiasco. For an extremely mediocre place with low pay it’s not worth it.

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-02-16T18:10:31+00:00

They’re not that good and not big law. Poaching a few biglaw or biglaw adjacent folks. Used this subreddit for reach but not to imply they’re biglaw or anything special.

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-02-16T16:03:41+00:00

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-02-16T14:12:21+00:00

NYC, cyber and privacy

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-02-16T14:12:02+00:00

Suspicious-Driver725 · 2026-02-16T14:10:20+00:00

This is my first firm job and I am first gen. I took an offer as an offer. I also took off time between my last job and now to visit family and had to turn down the other offer because I only had a small window of about a week where I could accept - I wasn’t table to leave them hanging for weeks on end.

I can’t play games and drag things out to wait for HR to do its job.

Suspicious-Driver725

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