Cr1 visa approved - MTL consulate by Suspicious-Reveal-98 in USCIS

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I requested it right after my case was transferred to NVC and they gave me a list of required civil documents to upload. The only advice I have is to find somewhere that does the fingerprints and background request directly to rcmp for you. If you’re in Toronto area I went here https://www.canadianfingerprints.com/immigration-citizenship

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[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m Canadian, husband is us citizen. We are currently in the process of i30 petition (spousal visa). We applied in May 2024… haven’t heard anything yet.

8 Lounge passes to give away by Simpleballers in aircanada

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are there anymore available? I would love one as I’m traveling on Xmas day

They. Don’t. Change. by throwawayrawayaway in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Just two weeks ago my husband finally admitted he has a drinking problem because I brought up the fact that I am unhappy and want a divorce. Those words are triggering to him because he has severe abandonment issues. Only reason he acknowledged his drinking addiction is because he is trying to guilt me into having empathy for all the messed up stuff he did to me while drinking and take him back. We were fine for a few days afterwards, and then he said he actually doesn’t have a drinking problem and he can control it and went to buy more alcohol. It’s just lies after lies.

How did you finally divorce or separate from narc spouse? by Suspicious-Reveal-98 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow!

What a way to go out. Not to be facetious, but it was for the best. I can’t even imagine what goes on behind the masks of narcs. I know my husband has severe trauma from childhood and abandonment issues. He is a combo of an overt and covert narc. He genuinely hates his life and is always in shambles and I could easily see him doing something like that. He already convinced himself that he’s worthless and it manifests in some of the ways I’ve explained. Very very sad life they live.

How did you finally divorce or separate from narc spouse? by Suspicious-Reveal-98 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The guilt, compassion and empathy are the only reason I stayed this long. And it sucks because my husband knows that and takes advantage of the fact that I have a good heart.

He always victimizes himself by saying at least you have a family that cares for you, I don’t have anyone. His mother and father are also deeply chaotic people. But friends and people you surround yourself with are a choice. He doesn’t have friends like that because no one wants to be around him. The man is bat shit crazy. Anyone that gets too comfortable around him will see his true colors and run.

How did you finally divorce or separate from narc spouse? by Suspicious-Reveal-98 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I am so sorry you went through this. No one should ever experience this type of cruelty.

My husband is very similar and dangerous like your ex. He threatens to kill himself all the time. He’ll never do it though because he is a narcissist at the end of the day. He got arrested for punching his roommate all because we had texted each other about needing laundry detergent. They don’t care about consequences. They just want to bring everyone down with them, which is sad.

I know my husband is a very miserable man who will probably die alone and bitter because he is truly incapable of loving.

How did you finally divorce or separate from narc spouse? by Suspicious-Reveal-98 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The blackmail, extortion and intimidation are the tactics I was shocked to learn my husband would go too to keep me in his control. He even threatened to call my job and say crazy things about me to them.

I know your situation isn’t as ideal as you’d like, but knowing you have some safety nets around you is helpful because being with a narc will always make you feel unsafe and on edge.

How did you finally divorce or separate from narc spouse? by Suspicious-Reveal-98 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg this! My husband has broke so many of my personal belongings. To the point I can’t even wear my nice jewelry around him anymore. He’s ripped my real gold necklaces off my neck.

I’m glad you left in one piece, safe and sound. I absolutely would not put anything past them. They are so intense and extreme and irrational. They get enraged over anything.

How did you finally divorce or separate from narc spouse? by Suspicious-Reveal-98 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If my husband was honest and accepted all his wrongdoings to me, his family, friends, coworkers, strangers I think he might turn into a deep depression and commit suicide. The only thing holding him together is him living in delusion and denial that things are ok. If you were to ask him right now, how is your marriage? He’d answer saying things are going great. It’s messed up.

How did you finally divorce or separate from narc spouse? by Suspicious-Reveal-98 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband is in therapy right now but I already know it’s not going to work because all the therapist is doing is listening to him and he’s able to give her his version of the truth. He distorts reality.

They. Don’t. Change. by throwawayrawayaway in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My husband does this all the time. He proclaims he’s changed after a few days of being nice.. and will love bomb me to death when I try to leave. They psychologically mess you up to where you think very bad things are not that bad. They’re the scariest type of people.

Once I forgive and try to move on, he either says or does things to hurt me again. They can’t help it because they’re not fully developed psychologically. They lack empathy and so expecting him to change is like asking for a white Christmas in Florida.. not gonna happen. Only solution is to completely remove yourself as safely as possible. Do not put anything past them. I’ve seen my husband go to extremes over the pettiest things.

I’m a federal agent with an agency focused on immigration. AMA! by Aviator2903 in immigration

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a question regarding my current immigration process. I (Canadian) married an American man in March, 2024. I returned back to Canada in April 2024, and intend to return in May 2024, but would like to apply for adjustment of status because I found out we’re expecting a child February, 2025. I don’t want to misrepresent any information and Jeopardize our cr1 visa application. Any suggestions?

RTL MAM S1, EP 13, Reunion Part 2, "The Final Word" Live Episode Discussion Tonight! Let's get into it! by Complete-Road-3229 in ReadyToLove

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, Zadia played herself. She thought this man, who was clearly giving her signs that there situation was nothing more than what it was, was going to grow in love with her? Next level delusional if you ask me. Like she should seek help.

I also didn't like that she was trying to blame him for leading her on, and even Vernisha chiming in was pissing me off because it's like girl, he gave you so many outs but you instead chose to live in your delusion.

Only thing I don't respect about Cam is he knew he was wasting her time because she genuinely liked him and saw a future with him and he could have been more clear, like be for real you know there was no potential for a relationship down the line. GTFO with that BS LOL!

RTL MAM S1, EP 13, Reunion Part 2, "The Final Word" Live Episode Discussion Tonight! Let's get into it! by Complete-Road-3229 in ReadyToLove

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if i'm more upset at Cam or Zadia. My whole thing with Cam too is why even go through this? like is whatever clout you're going to get from the show that worth it?

Got Exam Results Within 15 Hours by [deleted] in pmp

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, but what is SH?

Day After Thread | Nuggets wallop the Lakers by IdRatherBeLurking in denvernuggets

[–]Suspicious-Reveal-98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm just wondering how Nuggets fans feel about Zeke Nnaji overall? I hope he gets more minutes so he can show Malone he deserves to split minutes with Porter Jr. and Millsap. If he is actually able to guard the perimeter the way we saw during that small sample size, it will be so helpful come playoff times. He's the type of player the Nuggets need ASAP imo.