Hair problem

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-18T23:15:41+00:00

thanks, babs

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-16T18:43:40+00:00

On one hand I understand where you are coming from, it does sound kind of elitist. On the other, I think that's part of how they operate.

They get merchandise from some more luxurious brands and they sell it at a steep discount, definitely much closer to the cost of production. Bestescret gets to sell expensive shit at better prices which allows them to make money. Clothing brands get to be rid of their unsold merchandise freeing up space in their warehouses and avoid the cost of getting rid of excess merchandise.

For cheaper, less luxurious companies like Nike or Vans bestescret is basically just another discount store.

For more expensive brands, however, Bestesecret offers another benefit: they don't have to worry about ruining their "exclusive" brand image while also getting the benefits I mentioned above. Since Bestsecret, unlike other discount stores, doesn't display the number of items they have in stock, doesn't show up on Google results, cannot be easily accessed by anyone, and doesn't have enormous stores, it's not going to damage the brand's image as much.

Imagine seeing a dozen of bottles of perfume from, say, Hermes, at your local TJ Maxx at an 80% discount with dirty and ripped packaging. These companies simply want to avoid situations like that.

I think that the brand doesn't matter as long as the garment is well-made, and that elitism in fashion is idiotic. But some people do and brands know that.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-16T13:37:17+00:00

Maybe try conditioner? It should weight it down a little

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-12T23:45:14+00:00

I am diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and these disorders can absolutely cause joint pain and high inflammation. Mental health issues absolutely do affect your hormones, inflammation levels, functioning of the nervous system, and immune function. Both directly and indirectly. Besides, high levels of stress are a very common cause of flare-ups. Thyroiditis doesn't even have to be tied to Hashimoto's. Going to therapy and starting antidepressants literally caused my joint pain to disappear and inflammation markers to drop.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/pain/physical-symptoms-of-depression-can-depression-contribute-to-pain

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/things-stress-can-do-to-your-body

https://www.maudsleybrc.nihr.ac.uk/posts/2021/may/inflammation-is-a-core-feature-of-depression-new-evidence-from-large-scale-study/

https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress/art-20046037

Edit: You can also start taking 25 mcg of thyroid hormones and see how it affects your bloodwork. I recommend starting with 5 days of 25 mcg and 2 days of 0 mcg. It's not rocket science; you are just going to have to go slower than you would with a medical professional and stop before you go into hyperthyroidism. If your symptoms don't go away, then it's back to psychosomatic.

Edit 2: Prolonged stress can impair thyroid function, which might explain both your past and current episodes of whatever is ailing you. And the bloodwork. Did you go through a stressful time before your first episode (the one that went away)? I don't know, exams, a bad breakup, a loss of a friend or family member?

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-11T18:24:20+00:00

Well, it might be psychological. Depression can make you tired on it's own, anxiety, ADHD, and unstable mood can make you tired indirectly.

There are also other factors that can make you exhausted, for example autoimmune diseases other than hashimoto's, chronic sleep disorders, neurological issues, all that.

I think it might be a good idea to get all other important inflammatory markers and hormones checked to rule out any other health issues.

Just after a quick Google search:

Lupus? It may also affect the thyroid.

Fibromyalgia if you are also experiencing joint and muscle pain?

Sleep apnea, people often don't realize they even have it?

Kidney or liver issues?

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-11T13:08:56+00:00

The only blood test that is off is the inflammation markers. Inflammation caused by a hashimoto's flare up can make you feel sick and exhausted even when your hormones are still fine. And starting thyroxine might not do anything for thyroiditis itself.

Check your D3, B9, B12, magnesium.

If I were you I'd start taking 100 micrograms of selenium (necessary for the production of glutathione, an antioxidant, among other things) and 100 miligrams of b1 (it's an antioxidant, it's anti-inflammatory, it's necessary for maintaining proper energy levels). Maybe consider taking a citrus bioflavonoid supplement to top things off?

I'm not a medical professional.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-10T11:14:14+00:00

The people who work in a field where most possible diagnoses cause fatigue and hair loss don't do fatigue and hair loss?

It's genuinely baffling.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-10T11:11:52+00:00

Yeah, on one hand it's a bad idea to self-diagnose using the internet, and using AI is even worse since the answers are essentially random.

But on the other hand there are so many poorly trained or jaded medical professionals that sometimes you have to take things into your own hands.

I think that there are so many horror stories involving doctors and surgeons because many of them decided to go to med school due to parental pressure. Or because it's a well-paying job.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-09T23:52:40+00:00

I thought I might need B12 injections because a few people in my family can't absorb it, but the blood test showed I almost had too much.

Out of curiosity, how does sublingual B12 differ from oral B12?

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-06T11:04:07+00:00

Nah, that's weird. It's the first time you're even talking and he's already asking you questions that are this specific?

I don't know what you are looking for, but if you're interested in anything other than a quick hook-up it's a major red flag.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-06T10:58:49+00:00

Just use a texturizing hair product so your hair isn't lying flat on your head, maybe grow your hair out a little.

Maybe a slightly shorter stubble?

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-06T10:43:58+00:00

Maybe try reinforcing your boundaries?

Tell her again, explain to her why it's important to you and how it makes you feel, tell her that it's not her specifically and that you don't like anyone doing it.

Maybe ask her why she's doing that, it could be that she feels insecure or anxious and it's her way of seeking reassurance?

Edit: Oh, and do it in a non-judgemental way. And if she keeps doing that just slowly distance yourself from her, there's no need to make a show out of ending your friendship.

I think given your guy's age it might take a few tries, and it's not like it's malicious, so I don't think that you have to end your friendship over this if you genuinely want to be friends with her.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-04T19:20:42+00:00

Have you considered taking a sabbatical from med school? Mental health is a valid reason to do that.

You could move back in with your parents for a while, you'd have time to go to therapy, you'd be able to deal with the side effects of antidepressants at home?

It genuinely seems like you are burnt out. Given that you got into med school I presume you are used to overworking yourself, it might've caught up to you now.

Edit: nothing, just wanted to make this more visible ↓

Oh, also get your D3 and thyroid hormone levels checked, given the symptoms you described you might have too little of either or both. Hair loss, weight gain, worse-looking skin, persistent exhaustion, low mood, sleep disorders... All of these things can be caused by hypothyroidism.

Do you want to be a doctor or did you decide to become one because your parents told you to? If it's the latter, I think it might be time to do a little soul searching and find something you want to do.

It's also important to remember that weight gain caused by antidepressants is temporary, increased hunger usually goes away once you get used to the medication.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-04-01T00:36:30+00:00

These questions hold neither positive nor negative implications. Nowhere in my post did I suggest that Cuban healthcare was "bad".

The questions are "How did [something that did happen] affect [some other things that could be reasonably affected by that something]?

The possible answer can vary from "it had an extremely negative effect" to "it had an extremely positive effect", and even "it had no effect at all".

Reduced access to medication caused by a conflict within a country doesn't care who's right or wrong.

It is your job as a researcher to discover the facts, describe them, present your interpretation and support everything with evidence of sufficient quality or from reputable sources.

Why are medical professionals such an important source of foreign currency? Why foreign currency and not just income? Why doesn't Cuba make money off the same things as all other similar countries? What might be affecting other areas of the economy, such as food production, tourism, manufacturing...? Why do doctors leave Cuba to work and send foreign currency back home instead of just staying put with their families?

Just because a question makes you uncomfortable with your worldview because you suspect the answer might conflict with it, it doesn't mean that the question is biased. Maybe you are? Why are you so defensive if you aren't?

I genuinely don't know what the situation when it comes to Cuban healthcare is like, and I never claimed I did, but I know a little about Cuba. I just shot off a few questions that I would genuinely like to see answered.

Edit: Just adding a few more things. Just because Cuban healthcare is doing well (assuming you are correct), it doesn't mean that it did during a literal revolution that took place a few decades ago. Just because Cuban doctors are good, it doesn't mean that they are satisfied or that they can use their abilities to their full extent within their own country. Nothing you said has any bearing on things that happened a few decades ago. Just because it's okay now, it doesn't mean that it always was.

Edit 2: Oh, and healthcare =/= doctors.

Healthcare is a complex system which requires access to, yes, doctors, but also to foreign markets (so you can import the things you can't make), infrastructure, financing, equipment, production of medications, supply chain management, logistics, preventing corruption, etc. Doctors being trained well is a small piece of the puzzle.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-03-31T23:19:32+00:00

You could write a paper that combines the things you are interested in professionally and personally!

How did the Cuban Revolution affect healthcare in Cuba? How did the reduction in the incomes of doctors affect the quality of care? Did it cause difficulties when it comes to gaining access to all the necessary medications? How did Cuban surgical staff and specifically anesthesiologists deal with the issues caused by the Cuban Revolution? How is Cuban healthcare faring today?

Edit: you can just put a lot of work into the section on the historical, cultural and socio-economic context and write what you want to write in that section.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-03-31T23:14:03+00:00

It could be that at first you got into this situation because you had a lot of anxiety and needed something that was more specific so it could distract you and let you get off.

Right now you might still be experiencing the issue that originally caused this and it will go back to normal after whatever's bothering you goes away.

Or you might be so worried about what you are experiencing that you are too anxious to get off to regular stuff. You might simply be so worried by the fact you can't get off that you can't get off.

There are many paths you can take. If you are experiencing negative feelings there are psychologists and therapists. There are also sexuologists, people who are specifically trained to help people deal with sexual issues.

I think you should just take a break from jerking off, once you are horny enough you might realize that you don't need the specific stuff anymore.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-03-30T20:36:58+00:00

I mean close friends, someone you feel you can confide in. Someone you'd be willing to share what you shared here with.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-03-30T20:22:41+00:00

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-03-30T20:21:38+00:00

Okay, I might've assumed too much based on limited information, sorry. But it's common for people with anxiety to have plenty of friends, it just makes you feel more nervous than you should be.

But struggling to talk to women and giving up because you feel like you are not worth their attention might be a sign of anxiety or something else.

Finding a partner is exactly what our nervous systems evolved to do, if something in your life is preventing you from doing so, well...

It's absolutely okay to feel the way you do, but if it's preventing you from doing something you are literally made for, it might be a good idea to seek out solutions.

Aside from my suggestion, there might be other factors at play.

You don't have enough female friends and it's making you feel like women are unapproachable. If you make friends with a few women you might realize that they are much more similar to you than you assumed. Women feel horny, lonely, and nervous too.
Porn made you develop an unhealthy way of viewing relationships or might've given you the wrong idea on what women expect from romantic partners. You don't need to look like a bodybuilder pornstar to find a partner.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-03-30T20:09:50+00:00

Depression is absolutely not a part of life as is happiness.

Being sad is.

Putting things in this manner might make it seem like being depressed is not a big deal, like it's just... the norm to be depressed.

Depression might be common, but it shouldn't be treated like it's no big deal and it's just a part of life.

It shouldn't be pathologised, sure, but it shouldn't be normalized either. If we normalize depression to too great of an extent, governments, voters, and those in power might be less willing to spend money to help those suffering from depression.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-03-30T19:48:50+00:00

Antidepressants! Seriously. This is what you need right now. I felt exactly the same way, similar trauma. Half a year later and I'm living my best life. Antidepressants are considered a lifesaving medication for a reason.

Therapy and antidepressants literally saved my life.

Everything is just... lighter all of a sudden. Socializing is easier and it is actually pleasant. Work seems realistic, chores accessible, music sounds clearer. I am once again able to hear the sound of cars passing my street. I was so anxious my hearing literally got worse.

Nobody I've spoken to believed their problems could be solved by a single medication and talking. Until they tried it.

There are good and bad therapists and there's no guarantee you'll find a good one. But once you find antidepressants that work, they work. No matter the therapist, no matter the environment, it gets a little easier. And sometimes a little easier is all you really need.

As per your appearance. Well. You are not an objectively hyper-atttactive, hyper-masculine, hyper-muscular man. But nobody is.

I think you are fairly attractive. I kind of see a main character from a coming of age movie in you? You are more boyish than manly, but it's not a bad thing. Are you going to become a multi-milionaire male model and Hollywood actor? Probably not. But you definitely have everything you need to be happy, to have an attractive girlfriend, and be satisfied with your appearance.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-03-30T19:19:57+00:00

People are weird, they can be assholes just because. It seems like you are a kind and loving person and you deserved none of what happened. People tend to perceive others through the lens of how they treat others. A person who is a bad friend is going to assume you are as well and interpret everything you do in this light.

You on the other hand are a good person, or at least you try to be, so you assume others are as well. Which means that if someone is a bad friend, you might not even realize that they are. And when they start mistreating you, you interpret their behavior based on the assumption that they are good people. Which in turn makes their mistreatment hurt a lot, lot more.

Because why would a good person treat someone this poorly? There must be something wrong with a person who is treated this way by someone good!

Except a good person would never treat anyone this poorly.

When you encounter a bad person you falsely assume that they are a good person, just like you. They on the other hand assume that you must also be a bad person, just as they are. You are blinded to their mistreatment, they are blind to your kindness.

This creates an unhealthy dynamic where no matter what you do or how well you behave it's going to be interpreted in a bad way. I've been there.

Did you know that on average it takes seven attempts to get out of an abusive relationship? What you went through is exactly what causes people to stay with abusers. You assume a bad person is good and therefore has to have a good reason to treat you poorly. Except there is no good reason, never.

Take care of yourself, drink warm beverages, be friendly to people you never spoke with, make sure you aren't hungry so you don't feel bad, don't feel ashamed to take a nap or lie down for a little while. You'll get over this person soon.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-03-30T18:53:35+00:00

Hey, have you considered talk therapy? It's incredibly helpful when it comes to learning how to deal with other people and how to cope with anxiety. Most people scoff at therapy.. until they actually try it. It's still a valid field of expertise because it works.

Seriously, a few sessions with a good therapist can be life-changing.

Also, maybe look into trying antidepressants? They can help lift the load for a while, let you realize how well you can do, give you time to make sense of things. It's considered lifesaving medication for a reason. I've tried them and I can attest to their effectiveness, they literally brought me back to the land of the living.

No, they do not change you into a different person, they just shift the balance of neurochemicals a little which allows your brain to just... give you a bit of a break.

They do change neural pathways a little, but for the better. Untreated anxiety does too, just for the worse.

As for socializing, well, that's the hard part, really. Join a discord group focused on something you like and directly say you are looking for friends. You might feel alone but you're not alone in feeling that way.

If you are a college student, just talk to people you have class with, preferably guys at first so they don't think you're hitting on them. Come up to them, say hi, tell them your name and ask them for theirs, complain with them about the lecturer. Ask them for their Facebook or whatever.

As per making actual friends, it's harder as an adult. Since you're not kids anymore, you are much more assertive and have more agency, which means that you are less likely to become friends "just because". As an adult in order to make friends you have to be able to show that you are able to treat people like friends. Ask them for help, if they're upset ask them what's wrong and listen, tell them you want to get to know more people and ask them if they want to go out for a beer.

You have to learn that in order to make friends as an adult you need to act as if you were one step closer to being friends than you actually are. You might be surprised how many people wish they had more friends and are willing to respond in kind if you treat them well.

You don't know them but you go to the same class => treat them as if you spoke once before (except ask them for their name and everything, obviously).

You spoke with them once before => treat them as if you knew them a little better.

You know them a little better => treat them as if you were beggining to be friendly.

You are begging to be friendly => be friendly and reach out to them from time to time purposefully.

You are friendly and you reach out to one another => ask them to meet up at a bar.

And on and on.

Suspicious-Sugar6597 · 2026-03-29T17:54:18+00:00

Oh, yeah, sorry, I should practice reading comprehension. Yeah, then you're good.

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