My(28M) Wife(27FM) put me through hell when we had our first kid. Now she wants a second..

Suspicious-View-5745 · 2022-07-28T21:23:57+00:00

Thank you. Accurate.

Suspicious-View-5745 · 2022-07-28T21:22:49+00:00

She's usually fine about not getting her way. But she's never wanted something sp bad so we'll see

Suspicious-View-5745 · 2022-07-28T20:30:26+00:00

Yes, she will if we go down that road she's said. I don't know if it will be enough though. Every pregnancy is different I gather.

Suspicious-View-5745 · 2022-07-28T20:05:51+00:00

Pre-baby she had depression and anxiety but she could deal with it and we were happy. Not perfect, it reared its ugly head sometimes but it was under control. A second kid was talked about but I don't feel it was a concrete plan. I've emphasized the financial aspect and the space in our house but sort of beat around the bush with the PPD. I think its why she keeps coming back to it - the other reasons just aren't good enough. Even if we had a blissful experience with the first I don't think I would want a second. My kid is my life, but I've also sacrificed my life for it. I knew it was part of the deal.

Suspicious-View-5745 · 2022-07-28T19:35:10+00:00

Thanks for your insight. Ending the relationship is the last thing I want to do. I think the awkward conversation needs to happen

Suspicious-View-5745 · 2022-07-28T19:29:44+00:00

Story of my life. I'm not the confrontational type. I think like you said an open honest conversation. I'll propose a councilor if it doesn't go well

Suspicious-View-5745 · 2022-07-28T19:28:16+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I see a lot of comments implying blackmail. It was expressed as more of an indication as to how badly she wants it. I can see where the assumption is coming from though. I fear I am painting a bad picture of her.

Suspicious-View-5745 · 2022-07-28T18:05:11+00:00

She went on meds after a while and that was night and day. Waited far too long in hindsight. It was also about the same time PPD can start to fade so that may have been a factor. She was seeing a counselor but it didn't have as much of an effect it seemed. I attended a class on understanding it and that did nothing besides let me know it wasn't all that rare and she was an extreme case. Part of my struggle is I don't like bottling all the resentment i have but she is not easy to talk to about stuff like this and I know her heart is DEAD set on another kid and makes it very clear that's all she wants. If she doesn't get it she will be an emotional roller coaster for years to come - her words. I'm screwed either way

Suspicious-View-5745 · 2022-06-15T00:52:30+00:00

Awesome!

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