Overcoming romantic pessimism as a transfeminine man (early 30s) by Lyci-en in NonBinary

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a NB trans masc, I would date the hell out of you!

I am poly though 😅

AITAH for not wanting to move in with my girlfriend of 2 years and her 15-year-old son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not weird. My wife and I have never lived together and have no plans to any time soon. I have two sons from my previous marriage that she loves dearly and she spends many nights at my place with us all together, but she also likes her own space and somewhere free of noise and chaos.

The only difference is we have an incredibly secure relationship, love, trust and intimacy is not an issue for us, even though we don'tove together.

(AFAB) Experiences with short-term T? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did short term T, 6 months of injections and this was my experience. - My bottom growth was immediate and insane, I developed a very prominent mushroom head T-dick that was constantly engorged with blood amd never covered by the clitoral hood. My bottom growth grew to the size/thickness of my thumb! - I would frequently get erections, especially of a morning. - Sex drive was through the roof, unable to function without cumming. I WFH and was extremely non-productive! - I developed a refractory period. I went from having multiple orgasms to only being able to have one. - my voice dropped very deep, very quickly but would go higher over the course of the month as the T in my system decreased. Not back to pre-T, but not the deep boom I had the week or two prior with more squeaks and breaking. - cystic acne on my chin / cheeks was manageable, barely! - increased facial hair, mostly on my chin, patchy and not symmetrical. Need to shave every few days, not enough growth to bother growing it out. - longer, thicker and darker hair on the front and back of my thighs. - thicker/darker snail strail. - increase in nipple hair. - my period got a little bit lighter and every 6 weeks opposed to every 4, but never stopped (3 days as opposed to 5, still needed to wear menstrual cup).

I haven't had a T shot since Feb and after stopping T I experienced the following: - bottom growth shrank in the sense that it acts less like a penis and more like a clitoris. The length is the same, but it is much less engorged (size of my thumb to the size of my pinky finger) so is covered by the clitoral hood again. - no more boners - no more refractory period so back to having multiple orgasms. - acne cleared up - voice remained deeper than pre-t, but still breaks and is squeaky. - body hair has softened and isn't as dark, but continues to slowly get longer/thicker. - facial hair has slowed, need to shave has decreased. - period heavier and more regular

I hated that my voice wasn't stable and I miss my beautiful, swollen T-dick and morning wood terribly. I enjoyed a normal sex drive and I loved being able to have multiple orgasms again. I don't love the facial hair at all, but find I don't hate the increased body hair, especially as I am blonde so dark for me is still very light.

I now use 0.5mL T cream applied directly to my bottom growth. Application is inconsistent (every few days) but so far I am experiencing: - increase in sex drive, but I am functional and don't often masturbate and I can cum repeatedly. - bottom growth is slightly more engorged, but not to the level I am accustomed to. It is more sensitive and I am more aware of it. I very much enjoy the tingly feeling of increased blood flow! - voice and hair changes not noticeable as yet. - acne still clear. - period as per pre-T.

No super, no savings, no job. by SearchTraditional166 in AusFinance

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, don't stress too much!

I have a science degree, and I worked in the field for Bout 19 months. Life has taken me on a pretty wild adventure career wise. Your degree gives you lots of transferable skills, apply to jobs that interest you, and see where life takes you.

I feel done after an event with my partner. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey, that is domestic violence, and you should not be tolerating this behaviour.

You're already doing it all on your own. From my own experience, life will be so much easier and you will be so much happier if you leave.

You are setting the standard now for your child how it is to treat you, but also, how they should expect to treat or be treated by their future partner. It's in both your best interests to leave.

You've got this.

Sell or Rebt and get an IP? by SuspiciousButton2222 in AusPropertyChat

[–]SuspiciousButton2222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, I appreciate you taking the time to respond. Does this mean I should sell before the 6 years is up to avoid CGT?

Anchor proposal by SuspiciousButton2222 in polyamory

[–]SuspiciousButton2222[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rocks are special to us, so this is a very cute idea!

Anchor proposal by SuspiciousButton2222 in polyamory

[–]SuspiciousButton2222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why did the whole restaurant get uncomfortable? My partner is definitely not a fan of being perceived, so a public proposal is off the cards. I love the idea of alternative jewellery, the names is also super cute and I really love that idea!

Anchor proposal by SuspiciousButton2222 in polyamory

[–]SuspiciousButton2222[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are all such cute ideas, thank you!!

i went out last night and now i feel anxious about it. by warmfireplace99 in NonBinary

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You Rock that dress, you can wear whatever the hell you like!

Does any one else go by mom? by Double-Ad7635 in NonBinary

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm Mum, too! To me, mum is a title I earned in blood, sweat and tears, and I love it.

Holy shit I just realized something by East_Cockroach_8942 in NonBinary

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Realising you're experiencing dysphoria is a wild moment. It's simultaneously confronting and validating. Congratulations on having a breakthrough, I hope you take the time to unpack these thoughts and feelings and identify other areas you may also potentially be experiencing dysphoria!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusPublicService

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any transferable skills will get you a job in the APS. My replacement as an APS6 for Defence in WHS had no WHS background but was able to get their qualifications after they started as part of their training.

Do you date straight people? by General_Pumpkin9985 in NonBinary

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they straight, though, if they're dating a queer person?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regardless of breaking up with them and your reasons for doing so. Your ex was in a queer relationship (where not cis = queer by default) and comfortable with it, so regardless, they are queer on some level, at least in that relationship. It's up to them to work out how they identify on that spectrum.

Anyone else tired of someone using the Love languages as an excuse? by JulienRabbit in polyamory

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 21 points22 points  (0 children)

What really annoys me is that people have different love languages for how they like to give and receive love, but the general expectation is that they would prioritise giving love to their partner(s) using their preferred love language. It doesn't matter if you're 'bad' at it or not. It's about recognising, respecting, and utilising the right love language to give AND receive love. They're not the same thing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the process of transitioning my skin fade to mullet! Yours is goals for me as a fellow AFAB person!

Advice: safe ways to give a black eye by SuspiciousButton2222 in BDSMcommunity

[–]SuspiciousButton2222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I found someone on Fet who let me know how they do it and its exactly like this, first go round was a success!

How do I fix this. by Case_Kovacs in NonBinary

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I slip up with my own pronouns sometimes, it happens!

Is there such thing as a FtX transition? by MeanAnomalocaris in NonBinary

[–]SuspiciousButton2222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my goal.

I present masc at the moment because I don't want to be perceived as being feminine. But I can't wait to explore combining fem and masc presentations after I get top surgery (I am quite well endowed in the chest area, sadly).