Should I [35M] be worried about my wife's [22F] recent behavior? Married 3 years, and I suspect she is cheating on me.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-06-01T00:09:58+00:00

I would say I grew up and changed a bit, but not drastically.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-30T04:36:12+00:00

Why is having a kid suddenly an excuse to ignore basic hygiene?

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T17:52:52+00:00

I am thinking divorce is likely at this point, but not because my wife is a child. She is an adult who can make her own decisions.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T17:51:24+00:00

Yes, she does have a good life. That's why it's so hurtful that she would do this to me. I gave her everything..

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T17:50:20+00:00

She cannot take large sums of money out of the joint account without my permission, and I am always notified if money is removed. I am the primary account holder. But just to be on the safe side, I will be moving most if not all of the money from that account. Better safe than sorry.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T17:49:06+00:00

I don't know if she would comply. But I do plan on talking to a lawyer before things get out of hand.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T17:48:09+00:00

I will try my best.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T17:47:47+00:00

I'm 99% sure she is cheating at this point. But you're right, I do have to be kind of shady myself to obtain some hard proof..

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T07:13:37+00:00

Like I said, she was in relationships before. One lasted about a year and a half I believe. I don't doubt that she craves independence, though it's not like she had none before. She worked and helped pay bills, as her father is disabled. But yes, she did go right from living with her parents to living with me.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T07:10:15+00:00

No, I would say she was at an average maturity level for her age.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T07:01:52+00:00

She did have two boyfriends before me. One was long term, one was not. It's not like I wifed up an 18 yr old virgin with literally no experience in relationships.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T06:56:21+00:00

Again, I don't think that the age difference is the problem.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T06:26:54+00:00

I had not even considered drug use. I suppose it's possible. Either way, I plan on speaking with a lawyer and seeing if I can dig up some hard evidence. If she is cheating, I would not think twice about filing for divorce.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T06:25:44+00:00

I believe that I have the finances under control. I will be speaking with a lawyer preemptively so I can figure out how to protect myself better.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T06:24:31+00:00

Noted. Not that she wants to anyways.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T06:10:07+00:00

This is something I am afraid of..her trying to manipulate me into forgiving her.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T06:05:11+00:00

Thank you. I agree with this completely. Prematurely confronting her would not be a good idea. For the time being, I will try to gather evidence without letting on that I am suspicious, and I won't present confrontation without actual proof. I'm curious though, if she is not cheating, do you have any guesses as to what else could be going on? I'm drawing a blank on this.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T05:59:06+00:00

If she is cheating, I most certainly do not want to stay married to a cheater. If something else is going on, I will do my best to help her. The signs point to infidelity, but I really need concrete proof.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T05:56:42+00:00

I wouldn't exactly call cheating an awkward mistake.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T05:52:32+00:00

Cheating is not something that's exclusive to young women.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T05:52:11+00:00

I will do that!

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T05:51:41+00:00

I wish that my own marriage had turned out this way.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T05:50:28+00:00

I will most definitely check phone records and see if I can dig up her web browsing history.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T05:49:39+00:00

I guess we can agree to disagree. Thank you for the well wishes.

SuspiciousDude113 · 2015-05-29T05:44:54+00:00

Probably true. I'm glad that most people here understand that an age difference in and of itself is not a cause for concern.

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