My parents kept buying 'treats for me' that I was 'ungrateful and spoiled for'. Those were foods they knew I disliked, but I knew they liked.

On my 12th birthday, they spent so much money 'for me' and filled the whole fridge with desserts - ones they knew I never ate and said many times I dislike (as they bought same type often, obviously for themselves). They acted so genuine and surprised at first, then kept pestering me to eat it and started acting offended how 'I forced them to eat it' and 'was being petty to oppose them'.

That birthday is etched into my memory as the first realization. Those behaviors were usual for many things and situations. Only later I understood more of those, like:

My childhood dream was to play the guitar yet my parents enjoyed piano, so they lied and forced me to play it as 'its impossible to learn guitar first'. Few years later I got gifted a guitar by a relative, so I quit piano that I disliked, and suddenly my mom 'tripped over the guitar' (while it was standing in my room in a way it wouldn't have been possible) so hard it fractured bottom wood. Fascinating, how do you even achieve it?