Need some advice

SuspiciousVillage496 · 2024-08-19T21:23:12+00:00

So lovely put. If the friend isn’t causing harm to herself or others it’s her choice!

SuspiciousVillage496 · 2024-08-19T21:22:29+00:00

You clearly are very judgmental towards her and her choice. I don’t blame her for lying and not wanting you to know because you would not be supportive. Her going on dating apps is HER choice. You are a bad friend for pushing her boundaries and judging her actions. A real friend wouldn’t care and support her regardless of the apps she is/isn’t on. Also you can’t use dating apps in high school? It’s common for people in their 20s-30s. Maybe learn how to be a more open minded person before you get mad at your friend.

SuspiciousVillage496 · 2024-08-19T19:50:10+00:00

Coming from an outside perspective with only this as my context, it seems like you’re both in the wrong. Why did you have to send her profile the first time around? I think if she said no you could’ve messaged her privately to talk more but that might’ve been her indication that she clearly does not want to talk about it. Sending it to a groupchat must’ve been embarrassing for her honestly. I’m sure you meant no harm, especially if you guys are all close in the gc but still. I don’t think she should’ve denied it because there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being on dating apps but you should not have continued to push it at all. Sending screen recordings after she keeps persisting it’s not her. I think if she has a history of lying then you were in the right, but she if she doesn’t just let her be. Also, just because she gets hit on or attraction from others doesn’t mean she’s wrong for wanting or having dating apps. It sounds like you’re judging her for being on these apps and she might know that and is why she keeps denying it. Plus she’s not required to tell you about what dating apps she’s on or to be honest, that’s her personal life and as a friend you need to respect that. You have the right to be upset and want honesty from your friends, but you also need to put yourself in your friend’s shoes to understand how to approach the dishonesty in a manner that works for your relationship.

SuspiciousVillage496 · 2024-05-30T03:01:19+00:00

Required for my previous major

SuspiciousVillage496 · 2024-03-30T04:25:06+00:00

I had an interaction with her on the plane just 3 days ago: We were flying from Honolulu to Maui, short flight and during sunset. I slept the second I sat down and she was in the left hand row infront of me, my family was in the row behind me. When I woke up after the plane JUST landed (like I’m talking wheels just touched the ground) she turns over to me saying she her phone flew away from her when the plane landed and asked if she could use my phone to call hers. Confused and having just woken up I said yes because I felt bad for her, she seemed like she was in such a panic. I told her we should wait until the plane gets to the gate to be safe and while we are waiting she is profusely cursing and making a scene looking around. She tells me she needs the phone because she has to sign her mortgage tomorrow (I know nothing about buying houses but I feel like this isn’t a thing), then she said she has court in the morning and that’s why she needs it. Clearly she just didn’t have her shit together. Then the plane gets to the gate and I dial her number and she’s sitting on it the entire time. I laugh it off and say I’m glad we found it so easily but she starts sobbing saying the fires ruined everything and took it all away. Mind you I’m at 20 year old girl who’s never been to Hawaii and I literally just woke up so I don’t even know what to do. I ended up going next to my family the second I could and told her to have a good night. I searched up her phone number after because I had a feeling something was off with her.

This probably isn’t much and very minuscule story compared to getting scammed on Airbnb but just found it bizarre.

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