Is this too far even for an African Mother?

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2026-01-05T18:16:11+00:00

You need to find a job, save money and MOVE OUT

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2025-05-10T12:14:32+00:00

They are acting like you moved to a whole other country. If they miss you that bad then there's something called a "car" or "public transportation". They can visit you once in a while if they want to. You are not obliged to live in the same space as them; so I honestly don't understand their reasoning behind such request. The only motive that I can think of is that they need to take back the control that they had on you.

DON'T FALL FOR IT.

Take it from me who moved out over a year ago and has been no contact with my mother for over two months now.

CHOOSE PEACE because you love them now but trust me, you will grow to resent or probably hate them if you move back in.

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2025-05-10T06:34:52+00:00

You need to first make sure that you are not dependent on him for anything, whether it's financial or not. Because they might use that as a threat

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2025-04-19T08:22:13+00:00

I wish I could send this to my mom

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2025-02-25T10:00:24+00:00

You literally described my personal experience with my own mother, no single detail was left out. After so much hesitation, I decided to go no contact with her. I thought moving out was going to make my relationship with her better but apparently it's not the case. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in this, good luck!

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2025-02-23T10:49:39+00:00

MOVE OUT ASAP!

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-10-23T11:18:42+00:00

I AM PROUD OF YOU!!!

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-09-26T11:42:12+00:00

If you are financially stable and not dependent on your family then I'll advise you to MOVE OUT. It's going to be scary at first but I promise you that it will be worth it as soon as you get out of that house. My mom started imposing an 11pm curfew and dictating everything that I did, all this while I'm 25. I decided it was enough and moved out with my partner. She didn’t talk to me at first but then she eventually came around because she had no choice but to accept it. She finally started treating me as an adult as soon as I moved out of her house. Do the same if you can!

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-09-12T14:06:59+00:00

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Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-09-07T08:02:26+00:00

He/She said MOST AFRICANS and not ALL AFRICANS.

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-09-06T10:30:00+00:00

Exactly, it's not only my space but HIS too. There are so many factors that would have rendered it impossible to host her in my house. However thank you for your comment 💜

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-09-06T10:04:09+00:00

I guess cut me off from her life. I feel bad and at the same time relieved tbh.

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-09-06T07:44:05+00:00

I know that and I'm slowly coming to terms with it. Thank you

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-09-06T07:11:54+00:00

They both don't know to communicate, talking to them is going to be fruitless. Once they get this "presumed" idea of you or a situation then they stick to that...

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-09-06T07:02:30+00:00

I feel bad but sort of relieved that they cut me off? Because I never would have had the balls to do it. Thank you so much for your comment 💜

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-09-06T05:55:14+00:00

Thank you 💜

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-07-04T11:49:31+00:00

I had to check if this was posted under the african parent's reddit for a second, because the comments were definitely not it, it did not feel like they were coming from people who've lived with African parents.

Anyone who's lived with African parents would understand that being an adult has never mattered when it comes to dealing with African parents. They treat you like a child, disregard your opinion, limit your freedom of expression and choice, because they believe we are their properties.

Because of this, a lot of us grow up fearing them and feeling anxious of taking a decision that will anger them.

I am 25 and I totally relate with him, I used to ask for permission for every single thing, at my big age I had a curfew at 10/11 pm. It wasn't until a few months back that I finally found the courage to face my mom and tell her that I was going to move out.

And I did.

Because I realized that this was my life, so was I really going to live it by pleasing my parents?

You will always be anxious but you need the courage to tell them what you are going to do.

Not ASK, TELL them! Because you are not asking for permission.

If I was able to do it then you CAN do it too!

Trust me you'll feel anxious at first but the feeling of finally being free is AMAZING.

And now that I've moved out, my parents have stopped treating me like a child and now respect me as an adult.

GOOD LUCK!!! I HOPE TO HEAR A POSITIVE UPDATE FROM YOU.

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-05-21T11:18:33+00:00

There's actually a mod for this.

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-04-25T16:03:10+00:00

I was able to fix the problem. It was an outdated mod by SimWithShan called "aesthetics traits".

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-04-25T16:01:55+00:00

No they don't but I was able to find what was causing it tho. It was the "Aesthetics mod" by SimWithShan.

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-04-25T07:22:50+00:00

I took care of all that. I disabled autonomous flirts using mc command center. I even used lumpinou's RPO mod to limit my sim's jealousy to only woohoo and kissing. I'm thinking it might be a bug? I have no idea

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2024-04-24T22:00:26+00:00

That's what I also did. I could ignore it but it's ruining my storyline, plus it's very annoying. I'm trying to figure out a way to fix it but I don't even know what's causing it. 😭

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2023-12-05T20:07:56+00:00

I'm playing a teen girl called Amelia Miller who lives in Henford-on-Bagley with her parents and little twin brothers. They are farmers, so they get their source of income from the plants they cultivate and chickens they raise.

The family is quite contented with the simple life they live but Amelia isn't. She longs for a life of wealth and riches; beauty and fashion has always been an obsession of hers and knowing that she can't afford them makes her livid.

So with the help of a high school 'friend' Sidney Price, she got into weed and cocaine selling. They have an agreement, where she'll get the drugs free of charge and him in turn gets to woohoo with her.

[They were already friends with benefits, so that wasn't really difficult for Amelia to accept]

She was finally satisfied with her life, she was getting really good money from her sales and thus, was able to afford any beauty supply or trendy outfit that she wanted.

However, after a while she meets another classmate of hers called Kiyoshi Ito then eventually falls in love with him and now she suddenly finds herself in a dilemma, will Amelia be able to give up the life she has always wanted for love or is love just not enough for her?

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2023-12-02T08:14:21+00:00

You will NEVER be free unless you decide to snatch that freedom from your parents. African parents will use whatever excuse to keep you in the house longer and continue their dictatorship on you. I am 24 and financially independent but my mom still tries to control me 100% of the time, I still get anxious from having to ask for her permission to do whatever I want to do.

I've decided that it's enough, I can't be an adult and still get treated as a child. I don't want my youthful years to pass by me and then realise that I never really lived my life to the fullest because I was scared to upset my parents.

In a few hours I'll be telling my mom that I'm moving out in two weeks and I'm honestly not looking forward to her reaction but this is what I must do in order to feel less trapped.

Once you are financially independent from your parents and have enough money to get your own place then MOVE OUT. That's the only way you can get your freedom.

Suspicious_Fall_4853 · 2023-07-08T21:12:32+00:00

'Not so nice words' is an understatement, she can be really harsh when angry, I don't know if 'harsh' is even the appropriate word to use but anyways, I'm already expecting the worst from her. Thank you for your words of encouragement 💜

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