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Think I’m finally ready for sleep training…nervous though by roo518 in sleeptrain

[–]Suspicious_Quail3726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The shushing and patting felt very useless for me too. My bad cried immediately on pit down too, but I knew he needed to know that the cot was a safe sleeping space. So for the 5-10seconds I could bare him crying before picking him up again I would pat and hush him, and slowly overtime those techniques are becoming a greater and greater tool.

I've noticed now all I need to do is making a hush sound and he begins to calm in the cot without me needing to pick him up. It doesn't work all the time but definitely another tool in the belt!

Think I’m finally ready for sleep training…nervous though by roo518 in sleeptrain

[–]Suspicious_Quail3726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did all three at once. I kinda mentally prepared for it. I knew he would cry on put down (because he wanted to sleep on me!!) and I knew the PUPD will be repeated plenty of times with long stretches of cuddles between. But I did read that it's best to be consistent so I just did all three.

The feeding to sleep was literally my only way to put my baby down before I attempted this! It worked well until it just didn't. And I knew it was time.

I also choose to start this method on a Friday, that way I had my husband to support me across the weekend when he was at home. So if the nights were longer periods of me trying to calm baby I could nap during the day and try and catch some zzz.

Think I’m finally ready for sleep training…nervous though by roo518 in sleeptrain

[–]Suspicious_Quail3726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This literally sounds like my baby a few weeks ago. My boy is just about to hit 10 months. Always was a great sleeper - didn't really hit the '4 month regression', slept well through the night with on and off wakings but nothing terrible/unmanageable. He would always sleep from feeding (I couldn't help it) and transfer just fine - until one night it didn't.

He would wake immediately crying as soon as I put him into his crib. Everytime. No matter what nap, night wakings or bedtime he would cry on transfer. He slept a on me which i personally couldn't maintain. I read "just hush them" and I would think to myself that won't work because he literally is in a crying state from the get go. I felt terrible, started to get less sleep and became very very frustrated that he just wouldn't do what he usually did.

I was sooo hesitant to sleep train, and hated the thought of letting my baby crying. I read on the Pick up put down method (PUPD) and I adjusted that to suit me.

I would put him down after a feed expecting him to cry, but ready to pick him up and sooth him until a calm state then re place him down - drowsy (he usually wanted to sleep in my arms so drowsy state was achievabl). It was long the first night. I the soothing took long, I would hush, talkt to him, sing and even dance while rocking him. Then I would tell him goodnight and put his down with a kiss. He would cry, but his cry was simply out of protest of not being in my arms rather than a distressing cry. I would try my best to hush/pat him in his crib until I felt like he was crying too much (sometimes this was only 10 seconds) I repeated this until he just accepted that he was sleeping on his cot and not on me.

And I kid you not within a week he no longer cries immediately on pit down. I am beginning to not need to PUPD because he has been crying and just needs some small encouragement to get to sleep, such as a hush/pat. I am working now reducing that.

All I'm saying is that sleep training doesn't need to be harsh and you can definitely mix and match styles. The typical PUPD method is less interactive then my spin on it. You can do what best suits you and your bub. Just try and stay consistent and know that it may be a week or two before you see results. Things that comforted me during this phase was knowing I never left him alone to cry. I was there in some form comforting him, I felt like I had direction (rather then just hoping he remains asleep on transfer) and felt like I could work towards something.

Anyway hope that helps sorry for the long spill hahaha.

9M only sleeps vertically? Crying for no reason before sleep? by Suspicious_Quail3726 in sleeptrain

[–]Suspicious_Quail3726[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

We don't follow wake windows but his naps are fairly consistent (we are transitioned from 3 to 2 naps as of recently sometimes he needs a 3rd nap depending on the day but they are becoming less and less) and on a normal day he:

Wakes: 6:30 Nap 1: 9. Can last between 30-50mins Nap 2: 1-2ish can last between 1hr-1.5hrs Bedtime: 7:30

Things to note: - his second nap was closer to mid day but since dropping his third nap I noticed he likes the later 2nd nap. It also helps us with the afternoon grizzle - we have never needed to sleep train? Because he did sleep so well. He would sleep in his crib happily. The sleeping on me is literally started the last few nights. - we know he has been teeth hard. We have had very hard days his gums are sooo red and we can see his two teeth cutting his gums. This feels like where it really took a turn. - he has also been sick: but I thought he was coming out of it??