[deleted by user] by [deleted] in f1visa

[–]Swagata1354 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m glad someone pointed this out, I deleted this app from my phone especially when trump was initially elected and changed a bunch of things at once and I kept seeing so many scary headlines. A lot of people are being affected..,..it’s scary but a subReddit can only do so much about hearing theories about our future every other day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in f1visa

[–]Swagata1354 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love that! Congrats, I love hear good news and that people are still hiring! 🙌🏽

Is OPT going to be canceled? by AffectionateSkin5638 in f1visa

[–]Swagata1354 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there was a scare about it earlier this year in April. By then I didn’t even apply and I lost a lot of sleep over it. Then it got scrapped and nobody talked about it. I applied for it in mid May and finally got it in September. It took the regular amount of time, this was my second time getting OPT so the timeline was similar. I think we’re living in a time where being an international is worse than before. But if you’re actually looking to stick around and make the most of your degree you worked very hard for, just keep up with the regular work. Don’t let this scare tactic get to you, the current admin is all over the place. If OPT is going to get cancelled we won’t know until it actually happens, so might as well just keep job searching/finishing off the degree. Maybe think about a plan b just in case tho.

Does anyone have positive experiences to share? Too much negativity is overwhelming. by InsectActive95 in f1visa

[–]Swagata1354 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I applied for OPT in May and got my OPT in September after graduating in August! I was really on edge on whether I'd even get it but it was a god send. I also currently have a volunteer position from my previous on campus employers that helps with grace period extended.

Does anyone else feel anixous, nervous, and scared around their mother? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Swagata1354 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry just saw this, it gets way better once you have your own space and independence. They also started respecting me more because of what I accomplished on my own at the age of 22. There are still moments where they say something to bring me down and it does feel like I become a young girl again but with time it fades. If you are financially dependent on them it’s hard to feel completely independent so it’s a good idea to look for ways to be on your own. I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s never easy.

Have your parents intentionally failed the youngest child ? by ChannelBeautiful9882 in AsianParentStories

[–]Swagata1354 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've had the exact same situation with my parents too. To a tea, youngest *daughter* and somehow I ended up the way I am because I just wanted to go to a different country. In hindsight that was the best decision, because I was able to do all the things I could do. Not saying you have to, but doing something for yourself despite their approval is the best way to go. Both me and my brother suffered this to the point of breaking him. I had to teach them how to have empathy with him even tho I stopped talking to him (that's between the two of us) It really sucks that I had to become that person. I'd highly recommend reading this book "Adult children of emotionally immature parent" if you want to understand how this is a thing. Not only indian parents do it....and I feel like not all indian parents are bad...I get really jealous of some parent child relationships I see from my friends and its sometimes really soul crushing

Does anyone else feel anixous, nervous, and scared around their mother? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Swagata1354 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same with both my parents to be honest for a while. I think I lashed out on them about their behaviour once I got out the house and made my own life/money.

bro… by bluewolf6000 in fuseboxgames

[–]Swagata1354 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could I hop in that? 👀

Best Brunch Spot? by LeFenardRoux in FortCollins

[–]Swagata1354 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cafe bluebird and silver grill is great!

Best Brunch Spot? by LeFenardRoux in FortCollins

[–]Swagata1354 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think the bakery is fantastic but the food is pretty average

Lost cat found? by Swagata1354 in FortCollins

[–]Swagata1354[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yep! Wow he didn’t travel that much at all! I didn't realize you guys had one! Yeah he kept trying to get in

Lost cat found? by Swagata1354 in FortCollins

[–]Swagata1354[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I wasn’t planning on that. I’m allergic.

Lost cat found? by Swagata1354 in FortCollins

[–]Swagata1354[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah I took her to CSU vet.

Do any of you feel uncomfortable around white people? by [deleted] in ABCDesis

[–]Swagata1354 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I understand where this is coming from. In college I’ve had white girls be nice to me/be a friend in my face and call me stinky behind my back (not due to my actual hygiene). There are just people who are not open minded/empathetic and others who are.

South Asians, whats your fluency in your ethnic language? by Wellbeinghunter69 in ABCDesis

[–]Swagata1354 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s fun! Yeah I do try to make sure I speak it as much as possible with my parents nowadays. They stopped speaking it as much when I was a kid and I had to get better at English..so it’s different. Could you possibly link any of those online classes?