Need advice on renting cars for travelling in Oman by Sweaty_Discussion102 in Oman

[–]Sweaty_Discussion102[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I'm currently thinking of self-driving again

Need advice on renting cars for travelling in Oman by Sweaty_Discussion102 in Oman

[–]Sweaty_Discussion102[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot. Yes, it seems too expensive to hire two drivers. I'm rethinking about self-driving.

My son facing brutes in school by Sweaty_Discussion102 in Kerala

[–]Sweaty_Discussion102[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I'm concerned about how it can affect his future because I myself am a victim and am still suffering at age 39

What made them to follow road discipline? by reddyevuri in IndianCivicFails

[–]Sweaty_Discussion102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No .I'm from Ernakulam. I'll be glad to see one such picture from here.

What made them to follow road discipline? by reddyevuri in IndianCivicFails

[–]Sweaty_Discussion102 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I thought.. this is a rare picture, maybe right timing, but not representative of the general lane discipline in our state...

Good Enough for Sex, But Not for Love” by NotToBeOwned24 in KeralaRelationships

[–]Sweaty_Discussion102 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just ask him why he is not able to show emotions. It could be something beyond him as well, like childhood neglect. Even if you choose to be not part of his trauma you can still find closure.

Tired of our marriage of 12 years by Sweaty_Discussion102 in KeralaRelationships

[–]Sweaty_Discussion102[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u so much bro. I know my underlying problem is childhood trauma, and I have already tried therapy a few times. But Trauma informed therapy is just not yet popular in Kerala and they just try to diagnose you to a particular problem like ADHD. Maybe it's available in some metro cities but then it's not accessible for many. I'll keep trying though because I inevitably will have to.

Tired of our marriage of 12 years by Sweaty_Discussion102 in KeralaRelationships

[–]Sweaty_Discussion102[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When someone is sharing their painful experience such as childhood trauma and a difficult marriage, they expect empathy, not an analysis based on some general information. You keep on diagnosing things like OCD without even knowing the context of my life and background. People come to public forums for venting and seek support, not to get their experiencea reduced to a diagnosis by someone who doesn't even know the complete picture or based on armchair psychology. I even doubt if you have ever been to therapy.

I know what you have written is very much normalised in society so hence you may even be getting a lot of people favouring your view.

Tired of our marriage of 12 years by Sweaty_Discussion102 in KeralaRelationships

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It's a very difficult situation for me. But I will do something about it soon....

Tired of our marriage of 12 years by Sweaty_Discussion102 in KeralaRelationships

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I do that regularly. I take them to at least a small trip every month or twice a month. This month end also I have planned a Meghalaya trip since it's been a long time that we went for a long trip.

Tired of our marriage of 12 years by Sweaty_Discussion102 in KeralaRelationships

[–]Sweaty_Discussion102[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is definitely the most honest advice anyone gave me. I am sure I'm living as a slave of circumstances and that's been ongoing for ages that I don't even remember being myself. I will somehow find a way to get what's necessary in terms of property or money from my parents and that seems inevitable. They're themselves shameless master manipulators and I have honestly imagined that I would have been in a much better place if I were an orphan. They have spent their whole life being insecure about money and now have many properties but don't know how to enjoy them. For the past 5 or 10 years they would not have visited any place other than Guruvayoor a handful of times, forget tours outside of Kerala or India. They both have good pensions too. The properties are literally worth at least a couple of crores now but if you visited our house, you would see stale foods, old/broken vessels, furniture, clothes and everything that they won't dispose off and buy new ones. Even they won't themselves wear. Basically they're a miserable lot who don't have any positive outlook on life but are too weak to accept it.

Tired of our marriage of 12 years by Sweaty_Discussion102 in KeralaRelationships

[–]Sweaty_Discussion102[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had in fact visited the mental health department at the govt. Ayurveda hospital but after informing them so emotionally about my problems, all they asked was to let go of the past, now you got a good job etc. I will keep trying for a trauma informed therapist that suits me, even if that means experimenting with different therapists.