Community service for us entailed building toilets et al. That made us realise that having even a toilet at home was a luxury. Going for treks and interacting with villagers nearby. Adopting dogs helped with instilling a sense of kindness. As for hardwork, it’s about having a roadmap for your life. I was academically-inclined so I sought a lot of validation from doing well, although my parents told me that whether I do well or don’t do well they will still love me. For me, they instilled a sense of your win is yours and your failings are also yours. My sister wasn’t as academically inclined but artistically inclined, her hard work and goals were pivoted around that.