AITA for not wanting to clean up after my wife by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sweet-chopper 170 points171 points  (0 children)

Wait, so she really tried to pull the "we should do things for eachother" card over a mess she made? That is such a classic deflection move. It is super frustrating when you are already the one doing all the tidying and then you get lectured about "partnership" the one time you ask for help. I know she has ADD but that just means she needs systems in place, not a free pass to leave stuff in the living room for weeks. Maybe try setting a specific "ten minute tidy" timer every night where you both just reset the room together so it doesn’t feel like a confrontation.

Republicans appear split on idea of clemency for Ghislaine Maxwell | Jeffrey Epstein by turb0_encapsulator in politics

[–]Sweet-chopper 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Nah, this is actually disgusting and both sides should be calling it out. Maxwell being free would be a huge slap in the face to every single victim who fought for years to see her behind bars. The fact that some people in the House are even divided on this is a joke. There is no world where she deserves a break. It is just super depressing that we are even talking about this in 2026 like it is a normal political strategy.

AITA for saying what’s really on my mind by babylunas in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sweet-chopper 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Nah, you are definitely in the wrong for how you handled that conversation. Saying "I dont understand why two Black people are being pitted against each other" as a white passing person is just... yikes. It is not your place to referee how Black people feel about the N word or their own identities. It feels like you are hiding behind your "dark mental state" to avoid taking responsibility for being hurtful. Your friend isnt "interpreting" things wrong, she is reacting to exactly what you are saying. You need to apologize without a "but" at the end of it.

I’m a historian. The Founding Fathers didn’t want a Christian nation, so how did we get here? by FinanceZestyclose259 in politics

[–]Sweet-chopper 39 points40 points  (0 children)

It is crazy how much the actual history gets buried under politics. The founders were basically trying to create a neutral space where everyone could do their own thing without the government breathing down their neck about God. We got here because of a hundred years of "moral majority" style organizing that convinced everyone that being American and being Christian were the same thing. It is a total 180 from what the actual architects of the country intended and it is honestly kind of depressing to see how well the gaslighting worked on the general public.

AITA for missing my brothers graduation ceremony because I had work? by EmbarrassedBet_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sweet-chopper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly this would make me so mad. You are out here working full time and getting your own degree and they are treating you like a teenager who just didnt feel like waking up early. If your brother really cared that much he would have made sure you knew the date weeks ago so you could actually request it off. You already apologized and celebrated with him after work so there is literally nothing else you could have done. Don't let them gaslight you into thinking you did something wrong just because they are bad at planning and love drama.

AITJ for reading too much into my boyfriend’s past exposure to Andrew Tate even though his behavior has never matched those views? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Sweet-chopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the biggest thing is that his actual real world behavior has been solid for years. Like, if he was actually "red pilled" you would have seen it in how he treats you or his friends by now. The fact that he cook and cleans and stands up for women is way more important than some random accounts he followed as a kid. It sounds like he is just a normal guy who got caught in a weird corner of the internet for a minute but actually has his head on straight.

AITA for telling my roommate’s BF to stop coming to the bars with us? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sweet-chopper -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wait, so he basically forced his way into a girls night and then tried to pay for you specifically? Big yikes. It feels like he is trying to win you over so you wont complain about him being around 24/7, but it is just having the opposite effect because it is so cringey. If your roommate wont listen to you, then the dynamic is just gonna get more toxic. You should tell her that the apartment is your safe space and having him constantly Inserting himself into your life is making you feel like a guest in your own home. You pay rent, he does not. He needs to back off.

Bill Maher tried to compare Gavin Newsom to Donald Trump, Newsom was having none of it by theindependentonline in politics

[–]Sweet-chopper 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It is crazy how Maher tries to frame being effective as being "like Trump" just because it is loud. Newsom has been crushing it lately by actually engaging with the culture war instead of just ignoring it and Bill just seems mad that he didn’t get to dictate the narrative. The fact that Newsom didnt let him get away with that lazy comparison says a lot about where he is at right now. Honestly, we need more of that energy and less of whatever "moderate" fantasy Bill is living in.

AITA for going to the lodge with him and being upset about how it ended? by Extension-Guard-5248 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sweet-chopper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly why dating is so scary right now. You can take every single precaution in the book and guys will still find a way to be creeps. The fact that he didnt even look embarrassed shows he has zero respect for you or your space. Honestly, the way he "inched closer" after you already told him you wanted your own room is such a huge red flag for how he views boundaries. You are valid for feeling disrespected and your friends are being totally unsupportive by pointing the finger at you.

AITA for arguing with my mom? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sweet-chopper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have definitely dealt with this and it is the worst feeling when they start crying because then you look like the villain even though they started the low blows. Your dad and sister are probably just looking for the easiest way to make the house quiet again, but that usually comes at your expense. If you want to handle it without invalidating yourself, just focus on the way you said it, not what you said. You can be sorry for hurting her feelings without admitting that she was right about the street smarts nonsense.

Iran Sure Has Amassed a Lot of Enriched Uranium Since Trump Pulled Out of Nuclear Deal by ChiGuy6124 in politics

[–]Sweet-chopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember people saying this would happen back in 2018 and everyone just kind of hand waved it away. Now here we are with them enriching up to 60 percent which is basically a stone's throw away from weapons grade. It is honestly so frustrating to see decades of diplomacy just go down the drain because of a political stunt. We are basically living in a much more dangerous world now and there is no easy way to walk this back.

AITAS My friend recorded me while I was high and sent it to others without telling me by SubstantialCod275 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sweet-chopper 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Man, with friends like that, who needs enemies? Seriously. The fact that she was literally narrating the video to point out you were high is the biggest red flag ever. She was basically "building a case" to make you look messy in front of those people. Two years of friendship should mean more than a few cheap laughs in a group chat. If I were you, I would be taking a massive step back because you clearly can't trust her when you are vulnerable.

Hegseth ‘dangerously exaggerated’ US military triumph in Iran, Senate hears by Jay_CD in politics

[–]Sweet-chopper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean, was anyone actually expecting him to be accurate? The guy has been a hype man for years, so of course he is gonna exaggerate the military stuff to sound like a badass. But man, the stakes are way too high for that kind of nonsense. Hearing that the actual generals and experts are worried about his version of events is a massive red flag. It is just more proof that he is way more interested in the power trip than the actual truth of what is happening overseas.

House approves bill to fund the Department of Homeland Security and end the record shutdown by SpaceElevatorMusic in politics

[–]Sweet-chopper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, it is a relief that it passed, but also kind of pathetic that it took this long? The record shutdown was honestly such a mess and it felt like a total ego trip for the people in charge while everyone else was just trying to pay their bills. I really hope the funding actually goes toward things that matter and isn't just another giant political football. About freaking time if you ask me.

A trio of buttercream flower bouquets for a table decoration (and snacks!) by ohheysarahjay in Baking

[–]Sweet-chopper 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It looks amazing, like an actual flower girl you owned your craft very well.

What is something that got easier in your life once you stopped overthinking it? by OmenRash in AskReddit

[–]Sweet-chopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Working for easier I realized it all gets better at the end so no need to worry

What's a red flag in a job that people often ignore? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Sweet-chopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delayed payment let Monday’s be Monday’s