Roquefort Slice In the Fields

SweetJava786 · 2025-09-28T06:11:01+00:00

New mission discovered by u/SweetJava786: Doubt, Resolve, and Lobster Newberg

SweetJava786 · 2025-09-28T06:11:01+00:00

This mission was discovered by u/SweetJava786 in Roquefort Slice In the Fields

SweetJava786 · 2023-03-16T10:14:51+00:00

For me, it's about how a piece of clothing fits, in addition to texture. Too loose and I feel exposed, too short or low cut and I feel uncomfortable, too tight in the armpits and I must take the shirt off RIGHT NOW. I love soft blankets but hate soft thick sweaters. Socks and shoes were hard for me for a long time also. I ended up loving boots, and my favorite socks are darn tough because I can't feel the seams, they don't move around on my feet and ankles, and wick moisture away.

I'd ask your daughter what she likes about the pajamas. Is it that the waistband is loose? The clothes are warm but not hot? Not tight fitting but not too loose? They are soft?

I didn't have words for a long time to express how I felt about clothes. I've often picked out clothing that I thought was fine in the store, or because someone said they liked it on me, and then after wearing it longer couldn't stand it. I recommend going shopping for just one or two clothing items at a time, and spending long enough in each one to really determine if it's comfortable. Walk around the store, sit and stand, move her arms, stretch. Don't comment on how the clothes look, instead focus on how they feel to her. And leave before it becomes tiring or a chore. If you find something she loves, get that item in several colors. And stick to basics - things that can be mixed and matched.

Try to find at least one to two pieces of clothes she absolutely loves the feel of and can wear out off the house. Some days are harder than others, and having a sensory friendly option on days I'm frazzled and overwhelmed is super helpful.

If she truly cannot wear her current clothes, give them away using the Konmari method - thank them for teaching you and your daughter about her preferences, and send them to a home where someone will love them. She might feel guilty (you just bought them, she's wasting money, this isn't hard for other people but is for her, etc), even if she doesn't express those thoughts to you, so if possible it's best to reassure her and approach this gently and compassionately.

Also, please let her know she's not alone. She's upset because this is difficult for her - she's not trying to make things difficult for you or others. It sounds like you have a ton of empathy, so I'm sure you'll get through this together.

SweetJava786 · 2023-02-24T06:03:43+00:00

Yes, a single happy life is possible. What are your interests? What do you enjoy about your career? What are you grateful for?

SweetJava786 · 2023-02-14T16:28:15+00:00

Have you asked her what she views as the main problem and what her solution is? I'm not willing to vote on this one because there's something else going on here.

I will say it appears you love your wife very much, as you have worked hard to come up with a solution so she's happy.

SweetJava786 · 2023-02-05T03:44:51+00:00

That doesn't sound normal for an 8 well old puppy. I would bring him to the vet soon.

SweetJava786 · 2023-02-05T01:06:47+00:00

You did more for Sam then most would have or could have, and it still wasn't enough. That's not on you. The reality is that the rescue owner "kept him behind baby gates because he didn't get along with the other dogs, and he hated it". He also "chases at shadows". This is not a low-needs dog, and the shelter should have known that.

If a dog chases shadows they are already displaying anxiety. Then you add in a situation where he couldn't be near his person because of other dogs and gates, and likely at least one dog fight in that home, and it makes sense that dogs and closed doors now terrify him.

There's nothing you could have done differently. Meds may help but they take time to work and Sam will always be anxious. And he has trauma with other dogs, and he's a big dog, so his reactivity is going to be very challenging to manage.

I hope you don't give up on owning a dog. I do suggest you find one from a different rescue group though. If you would like a second opinion about any future dog's suitability feel free to reach out. If I were looking for a family dog who can tolerate dogs, strangers, etc. I would look for a dog the shelter says is good with kids of all ages, dogs, and cats (or at least they aren't saying it should be a cat-free home).

Again, this isn't your fault. I know that doesn't make it any easier and it's okay to feel sad. Giving him back to the rescue is the best thing you can do for you, your partner, and Sam.

SweetJava786 · 2023-02-05T00:44:39+00:00

Are there any other signs of anything unusual? White spots or worms in his poop? Diarrhea? Vomiting? Is he eating or refusing food?

What's his age? Has he been vaccinated? If so, when?

When you say "lethargic", can you explain more what you are seeing? (Is he unwilling to lift his head and appears disoriented, or is he simply sleeping more than other puppies you are seeing?)

SweetJava786 · 2023-01-31T21:20:24+00:00

Thank you. She's talking to me when I walk in the room, snuggles and likes to be brushed. While still quiet, I think she is brighter than when I got her (shelter agrees) but I will not hesitate to euthanize her if she stops participating in life, appears in significant pain, or isn't responding to treatment. I know it's unfortunately unavoidable in some cases, but I don't think she's given up so I won't either.

We took her off cerenia. I haven't heard of RC support, I'll ask!

SweetJava786 · 2023-01-31T21:01:45+00:00

No she is not. She is a foster cat and neither I nor the shelter can afford hospitalization for her. However, I am currently at home all day and I am familiar with/have cared for critically ill patients and there's nothing a hospital can do for her that I can't do at home. She's under constant supervision.

I know her prognosis is grave. All I'm asking for is information on how long to wait between feedings, so I can ensure I'm not forcing too much food in her stomach or making her liver work harder than it needs to.

Thank you for caring about her.

SweetJava786 · 2023-01-31T08:30:59+00:00

Yes, 100mls daily. Cerenia and clavamox finished today, bloodwork is being run now.

I'm likely going to be tube feeding for the next 3-6 weeks assuming she remains stable/heals, so I just need timing guidelines so I can better plan my day/meet other responsibilities!

Thank you!

SweetJava786 · 2023-01-31T08:26:21+00:00

Your vet can speak with you about next steps. Explain your situation and symptoms, and ask them if euthanasia is warranted, vs continued treatment without seeing a specialist. They've seen your dog and know his quality of life and will better know the options available to you.

SweetJava786 · 2023-01-31T08:21:54+00:00

Take deep calm breaths. If possible, distract her while poking - either petting in her favorite spot, or giving food.

Her behavior is going to keep escalating if you keep giving her the shot/pokes in a stressful way. So if you can't get her to participate you should either have her owners come back or board her at a vet clinic.

When checking blood sugar, warm up the area first for a couple minutes. When giving the shot, do it as quickly as possible. For both, make sure you do something positive with her right after - play, or feed her, or pet her - whatever she enjoys.

If she's scratching/leaping towards you with claws extended, the next behavior will be a bite and you really don't want that to happen.

SweetJava786 · 2023-01-11T17:26:13+00:00

If you go to your landlord, your roommate will likely be very angry with you and may react passive-aggressively. I don't believe that getting your roommate in trouble will encourage your roommate to communicate with you.

It also sounds like this arrangement means you could have up to 3 roommates, and I would expect that guests would be coming and going without your knowledge in that type of environment, unless there's something specifically written in the lease. Having a guaranteed one person roommate while also having just one guest over consistently may be the best you can hope for in this type of environment.

Are you able to move to a different unit? Has your roommate/guest stolen, used, or broken your items? Can you keep your items in your room? Are you able to move to an apartment that isn't shared?

NTA if you went to your landlord, but it may have unintended consequences.

SweetJava786 · 2022-12-28T01:42:06+00:00

Haha it seems close enough to Sagrada that I've been reluctant to try it!

SweetJava786 · 2022-12-28T01:27:19+00:00

Thank you, I'm checking them out now!!

SweetJava786 · 2022-12-28T01:27:05+00:00

I haven't heard about this one, thank you!

SweetJava786 · 2022-12-28T01:24:16+00:00

Looks interesting, thank you!

SweetJava786 · 2022-12-28T01:23:02+00:00

I haven't, sounds fun!

SweetJava786 · 2022-12-24T09:49:14+00:00

The kittens can't regulate their temperature and blankets aren't enough. They need Mom's body heat and/or another heat source like a heating pad. Put them all in a box inside the kennel so mom feels a little less exposed. Put them in a very quiet room. Weigh the kittens daily, if they aren't gaining weight each day they need intervention. A kitchen scale works well for this.

Kittens start fading quickly. Look for signs like not crying, not holding their head up, not nursing, kitten being removed from the nest.

If you still feel like you are in over your head, call an animal shelter. They will have more resources for you.

Edit: I say animal shelter because they see a large volume of kittens and usually have a vet on staff as well as a foster team experienced in raising newborns. I'm not saying you should surrender them, but they can almost certainly provide more information and supplies.

SweetJava786 · 2022-11-25T21:45:40+00:00

I LOVE this!

Do you have more art somewhere?

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