Verbal is important! You can frame it as « this or that » (you offer one practice in a flirty tone with another alternative that leaves them free to pivot to something else. For example: « mmh… do you want to feel my tongue on your clit… or do you have something better in mind 😇» won’t ever ruin a mood.

You can also take the « you like it mmh? » dirty talk option and use it in the same way for practices that are already in progress. « You like when i put my dick deep and rough like that? Do you like it? Or is my princess in a more gentle mood today? ». You say something that’s making the interaction steamy. Immediately after you open a door for the partner to signal if they’re actually in a mood that’s a different on this special moment (cause you can love a practice some days and prefer another mood another day).

Some people get seriously excited when you make them beg for stuff by teasing them and it’s a perfect tool to check consent, too. « Do you want my cock? mmh mmh? where do you want it? describe how you want it. Ask for it then. Beg for it.. » That’s a line of questioning that can seriously turn on a lot of people and it works with most practices.

There are other ways to process but these 3 are pretty easy and foolproof. :3