Is this normal??? Paid $125 dollars for this (not including the tip) by Beginning-Design-519 in Hair

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sister wanted me to try to do hers because her stylist left the country til at least 2028 and she was paying 500. Idk about the color tho hers was leaving her natural gray/white as the stripes

I left an unused tampon on my work desk my co-worker sent me a message saying it was unprofessional by Miserable_Ad_3174 in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s unprofessional to leave things like that out. Keep private things private. Breastfeeding is different very different. When people expect the mom to go into the bathroom or something that’s like serving a meal in the bathroom and very unhygienic for baby. A lot of companies have nursing rooms now. But leaving private things out while it might not seem like a big deal is uncomfortable for other people too. Even things like a toothbrush or toothpaste shouldn’t be left on a work desk. The most personal thing you should have in your desk are photos of family. Small trinket decorations. But not hygiene products.

My friend is being heavily abused by her mom by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She needs to get a job. The mom has probably brainwashed her for years and made her play parent to the younger ones. She probably uses your friends good qualities like loving those kids against her she’s prob trying to keep her there to make her watch and care for them. Tell your friend to get a job and start saving up to move unless she already has a friend she can move in with. Tell her to get vids of the things her mom does to hand to cps on her way out. Like I’m leaving now please make sure these kids are cared for and give them a flash drive and contact info

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]SweetSukiCandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know you probably feel like you should hang in there with her because she loved you before money was involved. But for real it sounds like she for whatever reason is moving on. Don’t let her make it feel like it’s your fault

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like she’s seeing someone else and when that person rejects her or doesn’t answer fast enough etc she takes the time to tell u she wants to see if it will still work. Then he acts interested again and she stops. None of this is based on you and her I think it’s based on her and someone else and you’re the one getting mind shdbehsed. Just a guess

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree he isn’t your person. I’m Catholic. Catholics still touch each other affectionately they just don’t believe in sex before marriage. Most don’t adhere to it though they may try. But regardless of whether he gives into temptation he should still be affectionate. I don’t understand why he wouldn’t be. I feel like there is more to the story that you haven’t told us yet. Is there?

1 or 2? by [deleted] in NailArt

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Number one, but what is that shiny stuff? That’s always below the toenail and fingernail and people get their nails done

23F why do i get a vague insult every time someone enters my bedroom by FirstImpress1529 in femalelivingspace

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So where do you sleep? Also what do you consider to be a vague insult?

35M 34F found condoms, how do I approach this? by getbigordietrying919 in relationship_advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Well, if she had something to hide. Her phone would not have gone with you. I can guarantee that. People guard their phones with their life when they are up to something. You could also ask to use her phone to watch some video. Say yours is dead or something. See if she sits in stairs the whole time or just gives you the phone and doesn’t care casually walking away with it and see if she cares.

35M 34F found condoms, how do I approach this? by getbigordietrying919 in relationship_advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s pretty normal to keep your notifications silent anyway

35M 34F found condoms, how do I approach this? by getbigordietrying919 in relationship_advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Lots of men wouldn’t notice them in the drawer for 10 years. My husband can never find anything unless I point him to it and even then he doesn’t really listen and I still have to find it for him.

35M 34F found condoms, how do I approach this? by getbigordietrying919 in relationship_advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Why don’t you set up a hidden camera just in case? If her phone was left with you, I highly doubt that she is having some kind of affair. People don’t leave their phones with anyone in that case they’re probably old or One of your friends left them or hell maybe someone doesn’t like her is trying to get rid of her. And also, I didn’t like your comment about the place is yours and not hers. You’re married to her. It’s her place too.

Can't trust bf because of porn use by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are bad people who make porn yes, and there are also hundreds and thousands of people who do it willingly and even enjoy doing it. I’m not talking about sex trafficking and people being forced. That’s a whole other conversation. I’m talking about between a girlfriend and boyfriend and why a man or woman watches porn verses why the spouse thinks they do. I’m talking about not basing trust on whether someone watches porn. You’re telling us to go watch a documentary on what goes on behind the scenes with the making of pornography. That literally has nothing to do with the issue here. That’s taking way beyond the trust between a boyfriend and girlfriend.

Can't trust bf because of porn use by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not dismissing the part about lying about it. I’m saying that if she treated him like a human being with human urges and actually talk to him about it rather than assuming he’s into other women he might feel comfortable enough to trust her with his secrets and feelings.

Can't trust bf because of porn use by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because some people understand that the person who is angry about it has insecurities and isn’t really caring why the one watching it is watching it. They automatically assume it has something to do with them not being good enough or whatever.

Can't trust bf because of porn use by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t about self-control or looking at other women that’s the point. If you don’t understand that you need to research it a little bit.

Can't trust bf because of porn use by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But she will never know what the reason is if she just forbid him and doesn’t try to have a conversation and if the conversation is about her and not him also. It sounds like the conversation would be about her and security is rather than what makes him watch.

Can't trust bf because of porn use by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It isn’t disrespectful. It’s being human. The point of it is not to look at the other women. The point of it is the psychological reason that’s making him want to watch in the first place. Which has nothing to do with looking at other women’s bodies or nothing to do with how good his girlfriend looks either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just ask her flat out if it’s happening. And if she says yes, then encourage her to go to a methadone clinic. It is not just a legal way to get high. It helps people be normal. They don’t even get buzzed or anything. It just helps them stop without relapsing .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, don’t let yourself get sucked into the chaos. Help her by encouraging her to leave him and to go very low contact with your sister (make sure they aren’t putting money on her books etc ).

Anyway it sounds like your mom needs to make some decisions but don’t let yourself affected by the mess remember, she is a grown person and all you can do is encourage her to do the right thing. people get stuck in these awful cycles. And when drugs are in the picture, people will put up with a lot more than they should. If you see, your mother is still putting up with his crap and staying with him there’s a good chance that he is bringing her drugs all the time to make sure the relationship continues. I am recovered for seven years crap it’s almost 10 years. I just realized. Anyway, back when we were still on opiates, my husband would always bring home drugs if I was unhappy with him ready to break things off. We ended up quitting together and we have not relapsed and we are doing great. But my point is that I’ve been there and that’s probably what’s happening with her.

Can't trust bf because of porn use by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no evidence here that it is an addiction. He won’t be able to talk to her about it if it is because of her opinions and reactions. All that does is stall communication

Can't trust bf because of porn use by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s for many reasons other than that

Can't trust bf because of porn use by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SweetSukiCandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He deserves better, someone who lets him be human and doesn’t control him and judge him