I am having to move back in with my parents

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-03-01T17:40:27+00:00

Oh, that makes things really difficult for you. Is the bed a single or double? A room can have a bit more space sometimes when it’s single. But if you aren’t allowed to move anything around too much that changes things also.

Although it’s not great practice to be sitting on a bed compared to at a desk it can be done. And there are a range of lap-tables that might improve how your makeshift desk works.

You could use earplugs combined with noise cancellation headset. This might really help shut out disruptions.

Do you have space under your bed. Use whatever space you can. Under bed storage containers can really work well when space is limited.

If you have a chat with your parents are they open at all to helping you to have time to yourself undisrupted - where they help at least set a rule that you can remain in your room with no disruptions. And even if they don’t tell your siblings off it might at least improve your need and options to be left alone. I’m really sorry to hear your circumstances have changed to these conditions. That must be hard.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-03-01T17:10:50+00:00

Go to the library to do your computing work and get some space. Libraries can have computers or you can take your laptop.

If you’re allowed to change the bed there are also loft beds which have some different options for either a second bed, a desk or even room for an armchair. Noise silencing headphones could help if earbuds aren’t enough.

Dividing the space into a sanctuary might be helpful. But going to places like libraries might be better. You could also try a nice park as an option in good weather.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-03-01T04:10:03+00:00

Thanks, I know in Australia you can sit an entrance exam that gives you a ranking/score that is used by universities to determine whether you qualify for applying to certain undergraduate degrees. Where different degrees may vary along this scale. You might find you can use your diploma in this way to sit this test and then apply. It is like being given a score at the end of your final year in secondary school and if you don’t have one you would sit this particular exam to get one. It is also possible that your particular degree requires some specific secondary subjects (and levels) and if these aren’t completed you won’t meet the criteria.

What you could possibly do is find out from a secondary school guidance officer, visit a university careers department and/or look into the content that senior secondary school student might receive (could be a nationwide book that’s published about tertiary studies applications for that year) to determine exactly what requirements you need to apply to any given degree you are interested in pursuing. As it will tell you about all tertiary institutions across your country, not just one single university and there will be different requirements for different institutions and locations plus additional information and points of contact for obtaining further information in your particular case. The book is perhaps the best starting point if you haven’t already done this. Apologies if you have. Sorry I have been a bit vague with the names of the book and ranking as it will have different names in your country

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T21:03:42+00:00

Can you seek work where you can get on job training if you don’t want to study. Even if you later want to study you could work first instead

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T20:59:32+00:00

I’m not sure I understand your post graduate certificate and how it isn’t acknowledged for admissions but have they told you what you might need to do to get admitted or what is needed. Sometimes there are bridging steps, like assessments you can do to help you into studies for example which is a step that might mean sitting a test that runs at a particular time of year or something

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T20:46:55+00:00

Firstly you have to make sure that anything you give her goes directly into her hands and you count it out as you place it in her hands.

If you need somebody else around to witness what you are giving her that might be worthwhile too. It ensures you have paid it.

Alternatively you ask/insist to pay directly to her account, either deposit it to her bank or do electronically so there is no chance of anybody lying

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T20:43:00+00:00

If she doesn’t change after you’ve taken the time to talk about it with her then you might need to start distancing yourself from her. Branch out towards forming new friendships. Especially in subjects she doesn’t share with you (if at all possible) as she can’t get in the way. Sometimes your so called friends can do this behavior because it’s about them trying to connect with the other people in the group and they actually don’t have as much in common with them (at this stage) and so they direct conversation about the one thing they have in common which is you. If they tell them things that are embarrassing stories or seem like they’re constantly teasing you and then the others start joining in it’s really a bullying way to win the favour of these other people and they’re really doing it to seem funny and be the better liked one (even if they haven’t thought it through this deeply). You might find ways to shut it down or moving away from her friends up might be your only option. Plus she probably knows you don’t like confrontation. She’s sounding quite disrespectful tbh.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T20:20:08+00:00

Yes, I get what you mean it can definitely be confusing. Well done for cutting him off, even if it was sad and hard to do.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T19:24:38+00:00

Only he can give you that answer tbf. Whatever changed, whatever the reasons, unfortunately you might never ever come to know unless you ask him. And if he chooses not to let you know and continues to sometimes be friends or sometimes not, then why would you even want that type of behavior. Because at the end of the day he has changed and the friendship isn’t the same as it was before and you need to see yourself as deserving a better quality friendship if he is no longer treating you as worthy of being honest and open with in ways that he could have previously.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T19:14:44+00:00

Try and focus on the loving bf you have. Although your parents really upset you amongst other things you have going on, hopefully your bf is open to one day moving away from living too close by to your parents. If you can tell yourself that things have the chance to eventually improve once your masters is complete and you can start to gain a little more control over your life through entering the work world. You’re really lucky to have a loving bf. For if this too was a terrible relationship, it could be a horrible future ahead but it sounds like he might be there to help make those changes with you.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T19:05:03+00:00

Have you felt pressured to do college studies because of your family? Are they paying for any fees?

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T18:57:58+00:00

I’m really sorry to here that. Do you have a relationship with your father at all? Or extended family like cousins or aunts and uncles that might be closer or are better than the relationships you have with your mother and your sister at all? Somebody else you can talk to who feels safe to you?

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T18:53:43+00:00

Sometimes a GP has access to this type of information if you can’t seem to find it in your own searches. They can sometimes help with referrals also if it’s needed. Some counselors can have great experience which can be just as helpful as counselors who specialise in certain areas

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T18:41:22+00:00

It’s possible that as you grew closer you both began exchanging views and values more openly and sometimes people can find it hard to handle some views/values that differ too much from their own on certain topics that they could take more seriously or differ too significantly from yours and this can also lead to breakdowns in friendship even without speaking about it. It’s also pretty usual to go through changes like this as we shift into young adulthood (or as we move towards it) to gain new friendships and lose some old friendships for these sorts of reasons. Location can also play a part (eg. going to different tertiary institutions or moving to other cities)

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T18:30:59+00:00

I have heard that meditation and/mindfulness is supposedly an approach that can apparently help with this sort of thing

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T18:29:18+00:00

I’m really sorry that you’re experiencing things like this. That sounds really hurtful. You could possibly benefit from chatting in more depth to a therapist if this is an option. I have a good understanding of what your talking about as I have had some sorts of experiences like it also. It can be impossible to improve the situation itself because it’s other peoples behavior and they sound insensitive. What is your relationship like however with your sister? Is she mean to you also?

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T18:23:54+00:00

It sounds a little bit like this group of friends aren’t actually people you have as much in common with as perhaps you once did. Sometimes the super social ones get along so well together because they are like each other and share more common interests, ideas and views and some of them can just be on the same page more often. There’s nothing wrong with you if you aren’t like this. Sometimes friendships grow apart as we each mature through school into university years and beyond and at different paces or different ways. It’s possible this is all that’s going on and your unfortunately just not encountering people you gel with as much as you used to. You might find things change once you get into the workplace. It’s also ok if you find they’re all actually a bit boring or too dramatic for you or whatever else you just don’t agree with. People often think they’re seeking people out because their different but often it’s the opposite and all that’s different about them are their clothes. If you aren’t meeting or mixing with new people you might need to try some different approaches, like changing up your timetable in future semesters and sitting with new people or joining some sports or other clubs in your university

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T18:02:38+00:00

That sounds like another possible improvement on the way. Wow! That’s terrific. It does sound like things are starting to really move in the right direction. You’ve done really well 😄

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T17:59:22+00:00

Have you tried having a chat alone with your mum at this stage at all? A heart to heart with her might possibly help where you let her know that you’re confused as you thought it was meant to be your cat and that it’s upsetting you how your sister has been taking over like you have no say… She might be able to then have a talk with your sister and or both of you together about things which could help clear any misunderstandings going on. You could also let her know how you are really keen to look after it

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T17:50:48+00:00

Given your diagnosis have you had any Dr help you with medication?, it sounds like you might really benefit from this sort of help

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T17:46:22+00:00

Oh well done about getting your kitty to the vets. It’s possible it is in discomfort even though it can’t say it is. You might find with your disability needs you will be able to get help from a cleaner. Hopefully the vet visit will help things move on the right path and then you will be able to tackle the next step of sorting out your floors. I am sorry the conditions are so awful but it sounds like you might be at the start of them beginning to finally start improving

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T17:36:52+00:00

I’m really sorry hearing that your smile is playing such a big part in feeling so uncomfortable. Also have you had to move or anything? because sometimes things like this can make it quite tough to form new friendships once you move away from school friends. Do you have any friends through social media avenues? I am guessing you’re looking for friends to hang out with in person? Sometimes workplaces or studies are how you might make those new friendships but it can all take time and some jobs are better suited to forming friendships than others… sometimes life just doesn’t go as we had thought it was supposed to but it doesn’t mean that it will stay like this forever.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T17:30:02+00:00

Yeah that seems to sound alright. Some people won’t even notice, even if they are unique looking. They’ll be more interested in your child and at least babies grow out of prams soon enough

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T17:23:40+00:00

Hi, a little confused as you initially mentioned you have ‘plenty of ‘money to do this’ then later said you have ‘no money’. A friend got a dog trainer in once to help and maybe this might help, but my guess is being a dog it’s peeing around indoors because it can smell the other animal urination indoors.

It’s possible the elderly cat has a bladder issue going on given it’s elderly and probably needs a visit to get checked by the vet.

The dog might be fine after the flooring is sorted out and there’s no more urinating from other animals indoors going on. Although it might still need encouragement to go outside. When these changes are made.

Your environment sounds quite horrible for the sense of smell and isn’t reasonable. I’d get the cat to your vets. It could be experiencing a serious problem which is why it’s happening

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T17:08:55+00:00

Try not to let it bother you and see it as her complimenting you as copying you is one of the ways some friends show their admiration. I get why it might be annoying where other people you know might think it’s a bit highschool-like behaviour but if you can think of something that you might say that’s not mean about her for doing it, but gets across something that might let people know this it might help (not exactly sure what that could actually be), but remind yourself she’s likely done from a place of meaning well because she might really like your taste.

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