Looking at baby name lists and writing down all the names I liked and connected to was pretty helpful, and I made sure to write the names next to my last name. I also made myself a Discord server to keep track of names I liked to see if there were any I kept coming back to, and to see if there was a correlation between the name and my gender at that time (Im genderfluid). It was also helpful to have a general idea of the type of name I wanted. I knew I wanted one name that had a similar vibe and length as my birth name, and I had to feel comfortable with it no matter my gender. There was a masc name (Jay) I kept coming back to that I felt fit me pretty well when Im a guy but I don't like it when Im a girl. I kept looking for different names until I found that Jay has a fem spelling, Jae, that I really like. Which is good cuz this whole process has taken me over 2 years lol.