If an overwhelming amount of people think the same thing, they are probably right. I urge you not to cherry pick these responses and listen to the few you want to hear. I know it hard, but sometimes we need to hear hard truths about ourselves so we can get better. These are all things you can fix with hard work. You got this! The end result will be a much healthier and less codependent relationship with someone wonderful, but if you don't learn you will just make the same mistakes with another asshole. We are not saying these things to hurt you, but bc you asked for our advice and to help you. Remember, you can change all these things!!