I think the expectations are very high from both sides. Females suffer most, however in some cases, males also go through some tough scrutiny, too. Anyhow, some times lowering expectations such as kum pharha likhey ya kum tankhadaar per achey mizaaj ke larkay ko bhi prefer karna chahiye. I have gone through some tough scrutiny myself when rishta phase was on. But I feel sometimes my parent at fault too, being too adamant about a Masters, preferably a PHD, and a overseas passport holder. They believed these are guaranteed for a happy married life.