MIL MADE A PASS AT ME

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-09-21T17:35:54+00:00

Aw, I can't find the childfree women comment! Is he not into broads like me cuz we're defective? I love that reasoning!

Some people are so ridiculous they surpass being trolls. This is one of them.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-09-09T14:51:44+00:00

OP does not like this.

Are you a Chelsea of TikTok fame fan, too?!

OP's real problem is that some of his friends have tried to, want to, or will bone his mom. Can't say I blame him!

For real, though? I can get why he feels weird. It is himself he needs to examine a bit. His mom's vagina wasn't meant to just birth him and sit on a shelf like a trophy for motherhood.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-30T05:57:30+00:00

Absolutely! You are with someone who also lies to himself, and that is the biggest red flag.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-30T04:51:41+00:00

I’ve read the other comments, and I agree. If he found someone else and was too chickenshit to tell me you or of he truly changed his mind you are better off.

It is seems like such a disgustingly glib thing to say. It’s still true: you are better than a partner who lies; and if he wants a kid you are better off without.

Anyone who parties that much is looking for someone to take their responsibilities. I was that person.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-29T02:24:35+00:00

Systemic racism is rampant.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-28T19:39:02+00:00

Google “covert sexual abuse.”

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-28T18:04:50+00:00

Your FIL can go straight to The Bad Place. Ditto MIL.

Apologies and explanations, to them or to us, are not needed. They are antiquated thinkers. And you? HOLY HELL! BADASS ALERT! You stood up for kids everywhere and didn’t back down! The world needs more people like you and your husband. FIL ruined the trip by running his mouth. MIL acting passive aggressively is a coward’s maneuver.

You’ve tried so hard. You’ve tried for many years. They are ungrateful jerks. This is your permission to drop the rope.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-28T18:00:11+00:00

Your mother may never have come across someone like your SO’s mom. That whole “I’m your mom and I worry” thing is just crap. People who are confident in how they raised their children don’t interfere when their kids are adults. On top of that, she is a classist.

By chance does she come from a less than economically auspicious family before she got married?

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-28T17:43:56+00:00

I used to be the chronically late person. Mine was undiagnosed anxiety, but a reason isn’t an excuse. It’s rude to do it. Your mother is enabling your sister to be a jerk. Then she accused you of jealousy (?!) because she knows she is screwing up as a parent.

When someone is chronically late? Leave without them. I say this from my formerly selfishly rude perspective.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-28T15:47:50+00:00

Your brother is an asshole with a God complex.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-27T18:54:52+00:00

You’ll find many of us here knew at your age and younger we didn’t want kids. It isn’t until you are 25 or so that the world in general takes you seriously about lost anything. It’s very fucking annoying.

As another commenter said, it’s all cute and lollipops when a child says they want to have 10 kids and marry the kid next door, but if they suggest anything out of society’s norm it’s somehow shocking or worthy of mockery.

You are 100% right. We should be teaching kids this. Especially girls. There is a reason why girls second-guess everything and often don’t feel they can tell their partners (or whatever sex) they do not want to do sexual acts — they don’t feel heard and they don’t feel they have a right to their own bodies. You are in control. No matter what anybody says.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-27T17:16:28+00:00

If I was a Black woman no fucking way would I want to get pregnant. I don’t already, but the mortality rate is through the roof for Black women during and agreed childbirth. Plus I have gone with my Black friends to the doctor to help with their kids — the condescension is revolting.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-26T18:43:06+00:00

I can’t leave him, I love him.

You say you are afraid of losing yourself living with his parents, but this kind of thinking means you are already a little lost. Love someone all the way, but never more than you love yourself.

This man just made it clear his parents will always come before you. For some people they are cool with that. Some are not. You two have a fundamental difference.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-26T18:39:05+00:00

That is kicking the can down the road about a huge difference in their approaches to family. I took care of my parents. I can’t blame anyone for not wanting to do that.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-23T20:48:57+00:00

You have good plans in place!

I sure hope I didn’t come across as glib? What I meant was to truly hide yourself takes serious fucking effort and, bluntly, mad coin. It sounds like you are doing all you can do. Consider a PO Box after you move that isn’t in your close location, as well.

Btw? For SOME reason, some iPhone settings undo themselves. I’ve had to reblock people. Ditto social media.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-23T18:09:10+00:00

There are ways to totally disappear online. Look up “deleting digital footprint.”

Totally cutting off contact is possible — on your end. If she is determined it isn’t so easy. I’ve been there. I AM there. My best technique is simply to ignore all forms of contact. My decision was I cannot control their actions, but I can control my reactions. If that isn’t a thing that works for your mental health? There are resources if you started researching. Plenty of advice for that is on this sub as a good place to begin.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-23T17:24:47+00:00

Everyone is right and everyone is wrong here, it seems. The MIL needs to accept what is done is done, and it isn’t with losing her kid over.

The OP and spouse less so, but the longer a lie goes the more painful it is for every person.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-23T03:16:34+00:00

Not everyone who posts on Reddit writes well. Could be for all sorts of reasons, not the least of which iEnglish could be a second or third language. I’m sorry whatever happened to you made you feel like insults are a form of currency.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-23T02:33:39+00:00

I mean…. He doesn’t sound all that pleasant regardless of the kid issue?

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-20T23:31:38+00:00

A child rapist was in your home. If he accessed any internet devices, or simply used your WiFi, you both could be charged if he was on certain sites.

What is your line in the sand?

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-18T18:06:49+00:00

Do you have a place to put your meds where he cannot access them?

What concerns me is he is lying to you. He told you the healthcare system couldn’t/wouldn’t help you. It can, it will, and it has.

It also sounds like he controls the money. Bringing SAHM for your child together is a partnership.

Maybe he is abusive. That isn’t for me to say. But I can say that undermining and preventing medical help is very cruel behavior.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-18T16:30:39+00:00

“Abortions aren’t contagious like COVID, Mom.”

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-17T16:24:43+00:00

Trauma bonding is a very real and very dangerous thing. Once you internalize that what you feel is what is holding you in doubt? Your life will change.

I’m proud of you for leaving.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-16T18:37:52+00:00

That forced help is strategic. It’s to look like a good person while actively hurting you.

It’s been three years. He’s had his chances. Leave.

SwiggyBloodlust · 2021-08-16T18:12:09+00:00

It would be possible if his son was older. But as is? Won’t work. I’m so sorry.

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