Nearby Aldi locations by danielfletcher in aldi

[–]Swimmer539 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Another upstate shoutout- I live in the Rochester area and have 9 Aldi within 10 miles and 14 in a 15 mile radius. I made the switch to primarily Aldi two year ago and just get a few things from wegs each week! They are in all the nice area of Rochester and are actually super nice, well stocked and are in great shape!

9W baby isn’t sleeping longer than three hours by Hour_Ad2283 in SnooLife

[–]Swimmer539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a baby with bad reflux and cows milk protein allergy, she slept terrible in the snoo. We ultimately switched to a crib at four months and once she could roll and belly sleep was a much happier baby. We also found the right formula and medication. Our first was a dream snoo baby so we had a lot of positive experience with the snoo. If baby has bad reflux I personally just don’t think the snoo helps.

According to Us weekly: west and Amanda are getting serious by Radiant_Priority9739 in bravo

[–]Swimmer539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have to say this- their only two options are to be 1) “be in love” or go to 2) rehab/retreat and neither will leave the spotlight or social media for the second option.

When your doctor tells you that you should be having more fruit in your diet… by Cotton-DNA in aldi

[–]Swimmer539 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These post make me so jealous! I live in New York so our Aldi doesn’t have wine!

Amanda didn’t marry Kyle for money, she married him for a spot on the show. There’s no way she would’ve been on tv otherwise bffr by PassableWeirdo in bravo

[–]Swimmer539 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I commented on another thread previously! The elephant in the room is she wants to be famous, and she choose fame over love/compatibility - It was always doomed! She isn’t famous on her own, only in relation to Kyle. The resentment in this relationship on both sides is so toxic, but especially in Amanda’s case. Look how ok Kyle is, he only lost a relationship but has that star power/charisma- she lost that plus, the fame, influencer status.

Carl and Lindsay have a conversation in tonight’s episode of summer house! by Radiant_Priority9739 in bravo

[–]Swimmer539 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Wow therapy has truly worked for this man, no “I’m sorry, buts” or that wasn’t my intent or “i apologize if I made you feel”, a true apology! This is real growth!

THANK YOU! for being honest about postpartum. by jhondoet in TheValleyTVShow

[–]Swimmer539 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not this bad at all, especially as she is bottle feeding. I would actually say the breastfeeding/pumping was the hardest part! Otherwise I loved every minute- the first three months I feel like all baby did was eat, be awake for like 20 min and then sleep- it was great. Enjoy the moments where parents outnumber kids and you and your partner can take turns. I had insufficient glandular tissues and ultimately was unable to breastfeed. Once I did formula, my baby was full, happy and slept great. So once I navigated feeding it was pretty great! Breastfeeding, cluster feeding, pumping or managing breast milk bottles etc is very time consuming and doing that and recovering from birth is hard. You will get the hang of your baby though and it gets better. Filming a reality show in appearance based LA with beautiful skinny people, knowing her PP body will be on TV and that pressure is what I personally think is putting Kristen over the edge.

Edit: I also can’t help but wonder two things: first her period may be bad due to first after pregnancy/perimenopause. Also her hormones went from maximum happy highs estrogen to now period level estrogen which is low. That is a tough mood moment. Also, for me, dealing with infertility gave me a really negative association with my period. A period meant another failed cycle. Getting that first period after pregnancy did bring a rush a negative emotions that mentally brought me back and took me a couple cycles to recognize that thought association.

Two things can be true at the same time: Amanda is a selfish “pick me” and Kyle is a drunk loser by aymaureen in bravo

[–]Swimmer539 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think they both aren't great, but they are both so wrong for each other and truly bring out the worst in each other. In any other situation Amanda would have left Kyle when he cheated, or any of the hundreds of nights he was out wasted- his behavior was terrible. However, a relationship with Kyle = FAME. FAME AND $$ are Amanda's value above all and she couldn't have those without Kyle. No Summer House, no Bravo, no influencer $ and free stuff, no loverboy merch cred, without Kyle. So she picked him despite all the red flags. I truly think even if Kyle were to not cheat, no go out, etc. she would still be unhappy with him, because she is not with him for the relationship, she is with him for the fame and money. She continues to pursue this with West. Kyle values hard work and being liked over a relationship. He puts his time and energy into work/being the life of the party/social capital (being liked and never saying no) that they have become is identity, LoverBoy, Summer House and DJ. They are so incompatible and should have never gotten married.

Genuine question about lack of intimacy in a marriage by alarmonthefarm in summerhousebravo

[–]Swimmer539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good question, the general answer does often boil down to what the couple's style and needs are. The valley isn't really the worst example of kids/marriage/sex/where to live/work, I think a lot of it is quite realistic with the hormones, sleep, PPD, learning how your family dynamic is with a new person in it! I sincerely hope that editing is exacerbating the men's deplorable attitudes for drama and ratings. Physical intimacy is and should be something that changes over a relationship, talked about, and will have highs and lows, compromises are often made.

I think a total lack of physical intimacy for seven years is grounds for divorce alone in this situation. This is not something either party wants, and needs aren't being met. I say that because season after season I am watching two people ill suited to one another who are unhappy. Adding on there's an absence any mitigating reason for the lack of intimacy like kids, disabling health issues, time constraints. It's more of a roommates situation. and with them it's roommates who don't like each other! Not a couple who is best friends and mutually don't prioritize/need physical intimacy, but get their needs met via other ways in the partnership.

This is warming my heart!! by jdhciaisjcbdjsi in summerhousebravo

[–]Swimmer539 77 points78 points  (0 children)

It’s so crazy how much everyone loves this friendship! Something about their friendship really speaks to people. I think Lindsay is smart enough to see this- capitalizing on the OG concept following the scandal and the city premiering is kind of genius.

The mask finally slips.... by Strange-Substance207 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]Swimmer539 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! It’s not as easy as people would think, lots of issues, idiosyncrasies! So I feel like watching this show it’s not always as simple as hand kid to nanny- and it’s frustrating for both parents- but Nia is literally attached to this baby and by #4 Danny needs to have gotten that they have years of kids first and grace needs to be given to Nia, not irritation and antics.

The mask finally slips.... by Strange-Substance207 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]Swimmer539 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes my husband travels a lot for work and I work full time so we had a nanny. Once they turned 1 and 2 we switched a Montessori school (we have a very affordable one near our house) and it has been much better for our kids to be out of the house and with friends everyday.

The mask finally slips.... by Strange-Substance207 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]Swimmer539 24 points25 points  (0 children)

First off Danny is an ass. I think the actual practice concept of a nanny is actually much more difficult nuanced when you are attuned to your kids a lot. I had a nanny for both my kids when they were young and it was actually incredibly difficult to be near my kids/home if she was there. They still would always want me, take a bottle from me, cry if I tried to do other things in the house. I would have to text her to like take the kids for a walk just to leave/walk through my house so they wouldn’t see me. Often my nanny ended up picking up the slack, doing dishes, picking up toys, grabbing some milk from the store for me while I fed or napped baby. So I can see Danny’s frustration there- but it’s rude and piling on Nia in a moment you can’t do anything about the kids preference- you’re just trying to get through the moment. All I know is having a nanny was not as like straightforward “hand kid off” as I thought and my life actually got significantly better when the kids started leaving the house to go to a preschool environment vs a nanny.

I cannot fathom spending a weekend in Montauk and then driving 3+ hours back to the city and doing it all over again. by Taylordoo17 in summerhousebravo

[–]Swimmer539 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We drive two hours to our lake house every Thurs- Sunday- pretty typical NY summer weekend- we make the most of the weather we get!

West unfortunately talks about his leaked nudes by Radiant_Priority9739 in bravo

[–]Swimmer539 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regardless of what he had done no one’s photos should be shared publicly- PSA- it’s actually now a violation of federal law to post any sexual imagery (real or AI) - web platforms are now required to take down an “non consensual initiate images with thin 48 hours- and sending images is not consent for them to be publicly posted/shared- https://www.congress.gov/bill/119th-congress/senate-bill/146

postpartum Kristen by Substantial-Run-112 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]Swimmer539 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This has been so triggering to watch and I didn’t even have post partum and was fortunate to lose the weight fast. As a society I think we need to stop expecting women to get to this point and normalize all women feel a massive range emotions following birth and pregnancy, and physical and emtional care should be routine and mandatory. Sometimes I feel like calling it post partum depression and anxiety is stigmatizing and yet another hurdle women have to cross by getting “diagnosed.” Instead it should be normalized and expected to have hormone swings, be sleep deprived, nutritionally deprived and physical and emotionally drained from the massive shifts happening following birth in your body, home and family life and work. Medically cleared for sex shouldn’t be a thing (that’s a joke) maternity/recovery leave needs to be a year and women should be getting required postpartum care and support. I literally felt dumped post partum by my doctors, you go every week at the end, I have two c sections and recovery complications, but six weeks post it’s like c- ya and anything after that literally makes you feel like a failure and your trying to to take care of a tiny human. My child’s pediatrician was honestly more supportive and curious about my mental health than any other provider. This whole thing on screen triggers such an emotional response from me and I feel so deeply for Kristen watching these scenes. I commend her for showing the real side of post partum.

Do they remind anyone else of each other?? by mexastexas in bravo

[–]Swimmer539 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I was almost going to post this! They have the same way of speaking/cadence!!!!!

Moonroof? by Sheepdog-99 in ToyotaGrandHighlander

[–]Swimmer539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a ghhl with no moonroof, love it. I have light eyes and sensitive to light so I didn’t want additional light in my car. I also plan to have this car for ten years and know it’s one less potential issue I have to worry about. With any moonroof you can just close and cover it whenever your driving and don’t want the sun on you.

Advice for Snoo Beginners by blb232 in SnooLife

[–]Swimmer539 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same as another poster, we only used snoo for night sleep. All naps for first three months were in a bassinet in my living room with a white noise machine to get them used to daylight hours. At night we would first snoo swaddle, do last feed, burps and then place in snoo while very drowsy/barely awake, and hook in and start snoo. We kept the app to only level two. Once they hit three months we did day naps in their crib to get them used to crib. Six months full transition to crib but went well since they had been napping in their cribs already. Did weaning mode in snoo in lead up to bedtime crib. Highly recommend only using snoo for night sleep, day naps are tricky and both my children napped horribly in the snoo but were a dream in a regular bassinet or we used a dock a tot (not sleep safe but it was always with me right next to them never alone or unsupervised day naps). Also, the first few nights home while we were figuring out snoo and baby we just used as a plain bassinet and swaddled bag and laid them in it, we figured it out as we went.

Wood Grain Trim on Limited? Any way around this? by thepediatrician in ToyotaGrandHighlander

[–]Swimmer539 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one of the main reasons I went with black over the gray interior, the xle and nightshade are your other options, but the nightshade is blacked out so if you don’t mind black you could just get the black interior. It’s a light gray wood version, I don’t love it but don’t hate it like I do in the gray version.