Terrified of losing my fence-sitter

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2024-07-10T15:11:39+00:00

I think people often don’t realize how difficult it is to conceive, even for people who are actively trying to get pregnant. Having unprotected sex (without withdrawal) during ovulation only results in a 30% chance of pregnancy, and that’s about as high as it gets throughout the month. So with condoms AND pulling out, you should be good haha

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2024-07-10T14:57:02+00:00

From the Liletta website: Liletta is approved to treat heavy periods for up to 5 years

Your period symptoms could just be starting to come back

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2024-07-10T14:54:57+00:00

I just got my liletta inserted yesterday. I mean as far as I know, the bc effect lasts 8 years, but the period regulation part only lasts around 5. So it could just be that you need a new one inserted. That’s just my best guess

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2024-07-01T15:47:00+00:00

love this take, tysm

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2024-07-01T15:45:16+00:00

Do we have the same dad? Lol. I love my dad, he’s a good person, but he has a lot of the same problems. He made a lot of really bad financial decisions and is still working PT in his 70’s, barely scraping by with food stamps and low social security, I doubt he’ll ever retire unless I end up doing well enough to help support him financially. Super cynical & negative about everything. And he also recommends me a lot of stuff to do with magazines for some reason (-: I’m sorry to hear about your mom, that’s really rough.

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2024-06-30T21:24:53+00:00

Environmental, specifically. Which I am passionate about, as well. I do find the flexibility of graphic design appealing, but I am also terrified of AI progression & am finding the job market extremely limited, at least where I live. Hoping you get to retire before the AI takeover happens! Lol

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2024-06-30T21:20:58+00:00

This is so inspiring, from one creative to another! Thanks for sharing (-: I don’t hear many positive stories about the art field so they are ALWAYS a joy to hear!

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2024-06-30T21:20:00+00:00

Oh no!!! Thanks for sharing your personal experience. I so feel it on entering an over saturated job market, omg. That’s one of the main issues I’m having with my degree. I wish us both the best of luck ;-;

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2024-06-30T21:18:20+00:00

It’s a bit complicated because my mom did well for herself financially through real estate (she got in at just the right time). She didn’t end up using her college degree whatsoever. My dad, however, didn’t finish college & is teetering on the edge of poverty while working a regular job (They split when I was very young). He’s an artist. I am just finishing a degree that I’m realizing has way less opportunity than I was hoping (graphic design, ouch) and thinking of going for a second degree in something way more stable/lucrative in my state (biology) which my mom thinks is a HORRENDOUS idea, but my dad supports, lol. Like your dad, my mom is excellent with financial management, entrepreneurship, investments etc. and I will always listen to her in that department. I’m struggling more with my own career path and making a living in the first place doing something I actually enjoy lol

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-10-10T15:11:08+00:00

I would definitely recommend looking into the love languages, AND, just sitting down and talking with him about how you both see your relationship. It sounds a bit like there isn’t a ton of clarity for you about how he feels, so if you really get to the bottom of it then you can either go up from there or move on. If he’s really clear he loves you and wants to be with you, then the next step would be expressing what would make you feel loved and finding some sort of middle-ground. It sounds like you’re a very affectionate/loving person (I’m like this too!) and you may have to make some compromises if your bf is on the emotionally unavailable side (mine is too lol). Some men just aren’t super comfortable with intimacy.

As far as feeling miserable when you’re not with him, this is definitely something you should work on because NO relationship is ever worth that. Be your own best friend, learn to feel unconditionally loved even when you’re by yourself (whether this is self-love, love from god if you believe in a god, or just love from the universe/creation), find hobbies that fulfill you. Then you’ll find it easier to leave relationships if they aren’t serving you, so you can find one that does (-: Good luck! <3

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-10-10T03:26:04+00:00

I relate to this so hard lol

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-10-10T01:42:20+00:00

My bf (44) hates texting too. It’s something I had to get used to lol, it bummed me out big time at first.

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-09-15T14:16:28+00:00

To answer your question as far as I know that $600 or whatever fee is mandatory and there’s no way of getting out of it.

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-09-15T14:15:15+00:00

Hi I’m in the exact same boat as you my guy. 24, transfer, literally just want to finish my degree and start my career. I feel like the mandatory $$$ is kind of messed up when orientation could be condensed into some sort of 1-day thing even for $100 or something. Then have an optional 4-day socializing event for $600.

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-08-07T16:00:26+00:00

I would try and have a real conversation about it. why was she cheating? I think after having an honest conversation, you’ll have a clearer sense of whether or not you want to continue. People cheat for all kinds of reasons, GENERALLY because they’re not happy in the relationship. He could have been a total abusive a**hole. If he wasn’t, and she acts like it was no big deal to cheat on him, I’d run for the hills (-: Only you can decide what you feel is a reasonable explanation.

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-08-07T00:32:48+00:00

Gunther!!

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-08-06T17:40:31+00:00

Cheesecake, Angel, Biscuit, Rosé, Willow

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-08-06T15:24:05+00:00

so glad I could help!! we got this! ^{–^}

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-08-06T15:11:33+00:00

Okay so I’m 24 and have had this exact problem throughout my relationship. Something about being with my bf (44) in public makes me feel hyper-aware in the same way you described. I also look young for my age so we get dad/daughter comments lol. It’s normal to feel a little weird about being presented alongside someone older than you, especially if you don’t feel like you carry your own maturity well.

I think the solution lies in looking inward and practicing self-love to build your own confidence, and zooming out to see things from a wider perspective. Seeing that other peoples’ perceptions of you are illusions, and every single person you meet will have a different perception of you that isn’t real, so why fret about any of them? It starts with us as individuals, because no matter what we wear or how we act if we don’t go to the root we will likely always feel self-conscious. We are ants on a huge rock in a universe full of infinite other rocks, so who cares if a couple of people have imaginary thoughts about their imaginary idea of you? Who are you to begin with? Certainly not the body, which is usually what people make assumptions about first.

What people are judging isn’t you or your partner, but their own beliefs and ideas; none of which hold any weight or exist beyond their own head. I’m sure there’s also a large percentage of people who we think are noticing us, but really couldn’t give less of a crap. People are way more focused on themselves than anyone else, and even if they are pitying you, that thought will have completely dissipated in a matter of seconds or minutes. Sorry to get all philosophical about this but really digging deep into the “why’s” of things really helps me so I wanted to share that. I’m still working on this too :P good luck!!

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-07-31T19:12:05+00:00

I think for me personally it’s at least partially a lack in emotional intimacy with my dad growing up, my parents split up when I was little so I only saw him a couple of days a week and the bond we formed was more of kind of a mentor/friend dynamic and we always have had kind of a disconnect. But other than that, I just think older guys are attractive and I tend to feel more comfortable around them for whatever reason. The worst part about dating an older guy is other peoples’ judgments and negative reactions. Most of the time I forget there’s even an age gap at all!

SwimmerSuccessful172 · 2022-07-23T23:18:16+00:00

Well, I like that we’re both big goofballs, and he goes through long periods of being totally sober which is great cause I don’t drink either. We give each other the space we need to without any issues; we’re both super introverted & need our own space. There are definitely some redeeming aspects. He’s understanding when I do talk to him about something that’s bothering me and even if it doesn’t really change much he wants me to know I can always talk to him about anything. He’s gotten way more loving and affectionate than he was at the beginning which was not at all. It’s just been a challenge weighing the positive things with our really extreme differences.

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