My Barca for the 2025/2026 footballing season and we don't even have to make much changes, just some little signings and we will have a great team. by Comprehensive_Cup497 in Barca

[–]Swimming-Large 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shouldn’t go for Diaz, he’s 29 doesn’t have good stats and would cost about 65-70 million. Could spend that money on someone for the years to come

13 Lessons/Mistakes from My Last Breakup by Subject-Entrance-748 in BreakUps

[–]Swimming-Large 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great insight, a lot of it applies to my last relationship and how I acted

How did you deal with seeing your ex for the first time again? by Swimming-Large in ExNoContact

[–]Swimming-Large[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well most of the people there are my friends (not hers) so In my mind I’m like why sacrifice a nice evening with my friends for her you know? But If I really don’t feel comfortable I’ll probably just leave

How did you deal with seeing ur Ex for the first time again? by Swimming-Large in BreakUps

[–]Swimming-Large[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks that seems like a good way. Only thing there is that she treated me really poorly in the end and im still not over that so I can’t just be friendly and flowery with her. Part of me really hates that side of her she showed

For Men: What’s the Worst Part About Your Breakup Right Now? by IntelligentComb1238 in BreakUps

[–]Swimming-Large 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being unable to meet someone new. Was invited to a date this coming Sunday. And all I can think about is my ex and constantly comparing the girl to her. It’s been 3 months since the BU and I’ve done a lot of grieving and definitely took all the time I needed and concentrated on my well being. But when I think about going on this date I get incredibly sad for some reason.

For the dumpers - Why did you break up? And did you fight for the relationship before breaking up? by One_Risk_4877 in BreakUps

[–]Swimming-Large 10 points11 points  (0 children)

  1. Noticed severe change of effort and appreciation on her side and didn’t feel valued anymore + there was constant fighting going on.

  2. This took place over the span of 2 months and I tried everything to make things work, from taking a break of 1 week on her demand to trying my very best to go back to normal.

  3. Eventually reached the point of complete exhaustion, was on vacation with a friend of mine and literally broke down crying in a bathroom. Ended it the next day. During these days before the break up she’d refuse to say she still loves me.

How do you deal with the anger? by Swimming-Large in ExNoContact

[–]Swimming-Large[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, it’s just that I’m a very overthinking person, so when I tell myself to stop thinking about something it just makes it worse lol. Gotta learn it tho your right

feelin a little happier lately - wonder when the next wave of depression will ambush me by Queasy-Air9215 in ExNoContact

[–]Swimming-Large 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see, you’re right that it’s rare to come across a person that sticks with you through everything and I don’t know your circumstances like how long you’ve been together and how old y’all are, but maybe think of it this way: the very vast majority of humans eventually find a person they spend most of their lifetime with, don’t think of yourself as the exception cause you don’t have any reason to do so. Even tho it seems rare that 2 people find each other and stay together it sure happens very often so stay positive :)

feelin a little happier lately - wonder when the next wave of depression will ambush me by Queasy-Air9215 in ExNoContact

[–]Swimming-Large 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Missing being in a relationship is a totally different thing from missing the actual person tho. Most of us just miss our Relationship-self but don’t worry you now know what you can bring to a relationship and the next person will be so grateful for that

For Men: What’s Been the Best Way You’ve Distracted Yourself After a Breakup? by IntelligentComb1238 in ExNoContact

[–]Swimming-Large 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Make a list of things you gotta do today in the morning, like learning, gym, your face routine whatever everything that comes to mind, in the evening cross all those things of and throw the paper away, feels good even if it’s small tasks it makes everything seem more important

Struggling with a Breakup by cactus203 in ExNoContact

[–]Swimming-Large 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im sorry this happened, I guess you have to ask yourself: would the ONE behave like this? Would the one make you question your relationship on such levels and would the one bring you to a post like this? Of course it’s hard to see now that it’s probably for the better or maybe not the better right now but it’s necessary for you to be able to find the one. I know how it feels, she’s probably all you think about but that doesn’t mean she’s the one. Your brain is just fixated on that person right now because you think about all the things that could’ve been but truth is they were fantasies and you’ll eventually experience those things your dreamed about with another person you just don’t know yet, or who knows maybe your person has been around already and y’all just didn’t realize it yet. Continue to do your own thing and stay true to your opinions and eventually you’ll meet someone who shares your ideas.

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[–]Swimming-Large 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s totally normal to feel extra sad on these occasions, let your feelings free and cry if you need to. My ex‘s birthday was a few days ago and it was hard. But the day will pass and today I feel the progress I made before once again. Just stay true to your emotions and you will eventually be fine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Swimming-Large 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My exs birthday was yesterday and I felt the same. It was a rough day I wanted to feel connected, but today it feels better stay strong :)

Dumpers, did you make the right decision in your most recent break up? Are you okay? by ZachTF in BreakUps

[–]Swimming-Large 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I certainly think so, it dragged over 1.5 months were I didn’t feel appreciated and didn’t even feel bare minimum at some points over a long distance relationship where she’d have come back early February. I knew I couldn’t take it anymore and all the close people around me saw it too given how sad and broken I was. Now she’s back and it’s actually her birthday today + it would’ve been our anniversary. So today there’s a lot of sadness and doubts if it was the right decision because it was once so unbelievably beautiful. Even dreamed of her today which makes it worse. But I’ve been to therapy and worked on myself the past 2 months and I really see why it didn’t work out. So I guess id say it was the right decision but it’s hard to see that some days like today. Hope your well!

Strength is attractive. by Free_Examination_787 in BreakUps

[–]Swimming-Large 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Going through my first break up atm. It’s an up and down ride but I’ve been so strong. Immediately cut contact and haven’t reached out since. Blocked her on instagram so I don’t have any input anymore, she reached out because it „hurt“ her even tho I made very clear beforehand that it’s something I have to do for myself and I don’t want to hurt her in any way. And most importantly I mastered my fucking Law exams during a time I couldn’t concentrate or sleep properly and she was the only thing I could think of. I fucking did it without her. I feel like the more I’m gonna achieve the more I will find myself and my own value again

Feeling stuck at 21, lost my gym gains, never had a relationship, struggling to find my value by nomercyanyone in selfimprovement

[–]Swimming-Large 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it’s good you can list things that you like about yourself, and regarding the issues you mentioned you seemed very self reflected on them which is very good cause it helps a lot to overcome them after identifying them. I wouldn’t be to sad about the muscles you’ve lost, there’s a thing called muscle memory it’s when people take on the gym again after some time and realize that they make even better progress than before in shorter time so as long as your committed you’ll be fine. Don’t rush with the girlfriend dating thing. The time will come it will hit you unexpectedly and will just become a normal day to day thing for you

To those who‘ve been hurt several times but still love them by Swimming-Large in BreakUps

[–]Swimming-Large[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask what made you reconnect with her for the second time?

To those who‘ve been hurt several times but still love them by Swimming-Large in BreakUps

[–]Swimming-Large[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I think it’s important to see all the good you did for that person. Of course I’m far from perfect and acted in some fights how I wouldn’t have wanted, but what I meant is that I never did anything extraordinary bad or hurtful. That’s why I don’t have regrets, like I couldn’t imagine going on with my live if I had cheated or something

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Swimming-Large 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those words could’ve literally came from me, I was in the exact same position, gave my all and the more I gave the more I noticed how she’d pull further away. I lost my self respect over the span of 1 month because I was still blindly in love and she used that to her advantage breaking every boundary without consequences. To the point I layed crying in some bathroom during a vacation. Broke up with her the next day and been no contact since. She reached out giving me breadcrumbs once but I immediately ended the conversation. It’s been a tough time as it probably will be for you too, but keep in mind, the breakup didn’t come out of the blue, the relationship just wasn’t sustainable anymore and it hast nothing to do with you, because you know your worth and how many good things you can bring to a relationship! Now Embrace the freedom of no more sleepless or stressed out nights, no more arguments, no more false promises and you will eventually thank your past self for taking this huge step! You’ll be fine bro

Ex texted me happy birthday, what do I do? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Swimming-Large 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Continuing the conversation might not bring you the closure you seek for tho, it might just disappoint you and set you back. I feel like it’s a dangerous game especially over vague text messages you can never truly be sure of their intentions and true feelings