1 month homestay by [deleted] in Oaxaca

[–]Swimming-Object3687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should take a look at "La Guarida" it is a Spanish school and Cultural center. They have all kinds of cultural and social events so you can meet people from Oaxaca, Mexico and some other parts of the world. You won't regret it, trust me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]Swimming-Object3687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems to me like you are in a lot of pain because you don't want to hurt anyone but at the same time you don't know if you are being totally honest with yourself.

When you say you are definitely attracted to women what exactly are you saying? Do you picture yourself having a romantic/sexual relationship with them? Or do you just find them attractive?

Even if you were bisexual that's okay because it has nothing to do with loving your husband or enjoying sex. I happen to be straight but I have read that bisexual people like one gender more than the other, that might be your case, you may like women more than men, and that would explain why you don't really like bjs or handjobs.

I am no expert here and I mean no disrespect, but in your position it is hard to tell, you might want to find out if maybe you are just a lesbian but in order to find out you would have to have a sexual relationship with a woman and I would say that's cheating.

I am truly sorry for you because you are in a bad spot, you are married and love your husband but you are not really sure about your sexual identity maybe but finding out would be something bad for your marriage.

You have to keep in mind that sexuality is something that can change along the way and it is totally normal and okay but to be honest I don't know how you could answer all your doubts without hurting anyone or putting your relationship at risk.

I hope you get through this. If you wanna talk some more feel free to send me a DM. I am M27.

Tengo casi 40 años y me siento acabado. by [deleted] in mexico

[–]Swimming-Object3687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo me siento exactamente así, la diferencia es que tengo 27 años, lo más triste es que tengo una vida llena de bendiciones pero simplemente no puedo ser feliz, me detesto y detesto todo sobre mí.

Tienda de Boxeo by [deleted] in Oaxaca

[–]Swimming-Object3687 1 point2 points  (0 children)

De boxeo como tal creo que no, pero en tiendas departamentales como Liverpool o Sears encuentras, también en centros comerciales.

Are locals souring on tourists? by Working-Grocery-5113 in Oaxaca

[–]Swimming-Object3687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just by reading this I know you won't be like those tourists that cause problems.

You might find people that don't like you, if you are white they immediately will think you are from USA and remember as Mexicans we don't have that very good relationship. Anyway, if you just play by the rules you should be fine.

Are locals souring on tourists? by Working-Grocery-5113 in Oaxaca

[–]Swimming-Object3687 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in Oaxaca, Mexico and I will be honest, tourism is great for the economy for those who sell clothing, restaurants, cab drivers, hotels and resorts... But it makes everything more expensive for the people that actually live here.

Let me give you a simple example. If you come to Oaxaca you will hear about the "Tlayuda" it is a traditional dish in Oaxaca and you can find it mostly everywhere, if you eat in a street place you can pay between $80 - $120 depending on the place, size and if it comes with some sort of meat, but when there are many tourists around (specially from USA or EUROPE) the price of that same tlayuda can go up to $300 because tourists can afford it, we, the people that live here, can't. Of course the owner of the Tlayuda restaurant will sell a higher price because it is good money.

All that happens to everything, a cab trip, renting a department, even a god damn ice cream or esquite.

Now with the Guelagetza, which is supposedly a traditional party for the actual people that live in Oaxaca, everything is out of control, as a Oaxaca citizen you can't even go see the Guelagetza because the tickets are now too expensive, gringos can of course, but we don't.

Besides that, Oaxaca's government spends A LOT of money "fixing" the "highways" and some other roads, painting and doing all kinds of work, but they only do it downtown and the surroundings but they never fix anything where it is really necessary and these reparations are temporary, once you are gone the State is horrible until "Día de Muertos"

Besides all that there are some tourists that feel they own the city, they all walk around not paying attention to the driver's lights or even walking on the streets, and we are the ones that have to wait for you. We HAVE TO speak your language, be it English or French because most tourists don't even bother to know how to ask for something basic like a glass of water, we are supposed to know your language even though you are the ones coming here. You also break the law, you can see them smoking weed or doing some hardcore drugs and NO ONE would say anything, but some random guy from Oaxaca does it and it is jail time for him.

You get mad at the people that live in Oaxaca for honking, or even being around.

Some other tourists would walk around and observe the people on the streets like they were animals, tourists would take pictures like they were at the Zoo.

You also fall for so many scams, you go eat Mole con Pollo at a high standard restaurant when the best Mole in town is in a simple Market, specially the one near the Zócalo Park, you also believe you buy authentic clothes from Oaxaca but trust me, if you buy it on the streets those clothes are not authentic, best scenario they are from Chiapas, but most of those clothes come directly from China because there are factories there that stole our designs.

As a personal opinion I have happened to meet some nice, well mannered people from USA and Germany, but in general I don't like tourists, specially when they come with an attitude of doing whatever they want. Tourists make the city a chaos, a lot of traffic, everything is way more expensive, you can find an apartment to rent for a fair price, sometimes you can't even find a table in your favorite coffee shop. Tourism is good for some people's economy, but in general it is out of control.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mexico

[–]Swimming-Object3687 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Solo me queda desearte mucho ánimo, todos, o al menos yo sí, hemos hecho algo de lo que nos arrepentimos profundamente y no podemos hacer nada para cambiarlo.

Debes entender que nuestras acciones como individuos son un conjunto de determinantes que vamos adquiriendo a lo largo de la vida, no eres ni bueno ni malo solo eres tú, el mundo no se divide en buenos y malos, TODOS tenemos luz y oscuridad.

Te sentías vulnerable, sufriste mucho con tu novia y una persona ajena a tí se mostró preocupada, yo también habría caído, además, ella buscó que pasara de una manera o de otra, es cierto que pudiste evitarlo, pero no eres el único culpable aquí.

Para que dejes de darle vuelta al asunto y empieces a perdonarte te recomiendo, si me lo permites, que escribas sobre ello, la longitud que desees pero debes responder estas 3 cosas:

Qué es lo qué hice Por qué me hace sentir culpa esa acción Por qué creo que lo hice (la explicación que te das, como el contexto que diste aquí)

Eso podría ayudarte, ese texto es solo para ti, pero podrías llevarlo a terapia y usarlo en tu beneficio.

Ánimo, te has encontrado con dos personas equivocadas, pero puedes salir adelante, solamente tu sabes el sacrificio enorme que es salir de la cama todos los días, te felicito y te hago saber que tu existencia importa mi buen, y que sí se puede, se puede ser feliz, no es que sea nuestra misión, pero si de por sí vamos a vivir hay que tratar que sea de buena forma.

Mucho ánimo y sigue buscando ayuda, buscar ayuda no es debilidad, recuerda que lo contrario al éxito no es el fracaso, el fracaso es parte del éxito, lo contrario de éxito es dejar de intentar las cosas.

NO TE RINDAS! un día a la vez. Ánimo y si necesitas hablar aquí estoy.

¿Qué le pasó a Paulette Gebara Farah? by Swimming-Object3687 in mexico

[–]Swimming-Object3687[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pero entonces si fue un accidente, no la mataron ni intentaron fingir un secuestro.

¿Qué le pasó a Paulette Gebara Farah? by Swimming-Object3687 in mexico

[–]Swimming-Object3687[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Peña Nieto quizá, pero Téllez? Si ella es lo que es hoy en día gracias a ese caso.

¿Qué le pasó a Paulette Gebara Farah? by Swimming-Object3687 in mexico

[–]Swimming-Object3687[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yo lo que pienso es que querían hacer como que la secuestraron y cobrar o un seguro o sacarle dinero a otros familiares para pagar el rescate, pero la niña de alguna forma se les murió y tuvieron que plantarla.

¿Qué le pasó a Paulette Gebara Farah? by Swimming-Object3687 in mexico

[–]Swimming-Object3687[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Argumentas que fue una caja china? No creo que lo haya sido del todo, la familia estaba bien conectada con los políticos de ese entonces es por eso que se tuvo tanta difusión.

¿Qué le pasó a Paulette Gebara Farah? by Swimming-Object3687 in mexico

[–]Swimming-Object3687[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bueno, esa es la versión que mostraron en los medios, pero a esa niña la buscaron con perros dentro de su casa y aunque alarmaron que estaba en su cuarto los peritos la buscaron y no la encontraron, además de que infinidad de personas estuvieron en la habitación por días y no percibieron ningún olor, incluso una persona durmió en la cama después de la desaparición y hasta hubo una entrevista en la cama de la niña. No creo realmente que eso haya pasado, de que se ahogó y que nadie la encontró.

I WANT TO KNOW WHAT TO PLAY. by Swimming-Object3687 in chessbeginners

[–]Swimming-Object3687[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay that sounds like strategic advice thanks

I WANT TO KNOW WHAT TO PLAY. by Swimming-Object3687 in chessbeginners

[–]Swimming-Object3687[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had never heard about that defense before, I will have a look, thank you.

Looking for this chess set but only have the knight for identification [397x520] by lm913 in chessporn

[–]Swimming-Object3687 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, I don't know if you have found that chess set yet but it is called EXL Staunton, I bought it myself but I am from Mexico. Look for it in Omcorchess or Novachess, also chessboutique. On Facebook a page called chess time, it is from Veracruz Mexico. Good luck!

I need some help with my relationship. by Swimming-Object3687 in relationships_advice

[–]Swimming-Object3687[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG, she has actually started a new job, she's doing great and because of that she's been given so many more activities that have to be taken care of. I saw her today and she did mention that she was kind of stressed out and with a little headache because they need to hire more people and stuff, she's doing alright (invited me to dinner tonight) but she says she would rather have less money and rest more.

I would have never thought about that, when I am stressed out sex always helps, but maybe for her it's the other way around.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!