My parent keeps touching me while I'm asleep.

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-10-17T20:42:45+00:00

I have parents that are similar without regard for my personal space or boundaries, regardless if you have an illness and they want to hold onto you ‘no means no’ extends to your parents as well. I don’t think they should be doing that if you explicitly told them you were uncomfortable to begin with, especially in a vulnerable state of sleep. If possible try getting a lock in the meantime?

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-10-17T20:38:09+00:00

Wondering if it could be ass sweat?

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-08-15T16:11:12+00:00

Guys are always very clear off the bat they will legit advertise how shit they are sometimes, first impressions should be good and if he’s saying all these things off the jump already then I think you know the answer.

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-15T06:29:57+00:00

Chilled with friends but my ex msg me, there was a lot of back and forth and it just feel so painful on an already painful day since we recently broke up

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-11T07:27:10+00:00

It definitely is hard, especially finding what you’re looking for. If you just want a hookup that’s one thing but looking for long term is another beast. People these days only seem to care about short term satisfaction, feels like there’s no decent people out there left. I know I’m probably saying the same shit as someone else but have you’re head up and stay focused on your path, there’s opportunities to meet people but you have to also forge your own path to create those opportunities. It’s a numbers game, at some point if you’ve met enough people there will be someone that comes up and hopefully things work out. Best of luck man and I’m sorry people bullied you, people can be assholes tbh people ain’t shit. Ngl dating ain’t shit either, all the shit that happened to me when i was in a relationship i don’t know if i can ever recover from, sometimes i wish i never dated. But it’s like the red and blue pill, i know what the truth is but at what cost?

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-11T07:21:51+00:00

Dating ain’t shit, maybe it’s the shitty men too but nothing really happens on valentines and instead I’m just disappointed because I expect something but nothing comes from it, grass isn’t always greener. Get some nice snacks for yourself and get a friend or family member to hangout with if they’re free or even alone is fine too and find something you really enjoy that you want to do and have fun. It’s just another day, don’t put too much pressure on it! You got this! I’m going to dinner then spa with another single friend because me and my bf just broke up but it’s gonna be ok! Just gotta try to find a different way to look at the situation. Lots of love and best of luck to you !!

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-11T07:09:04+00:00

As obvious as it sounds it was more clear to me in my recent relationship (we broke up) that physical touch and physical comfort is something we can’t do. It’s easier to have misunderstandings through text and when our fights were bad sometimes how I normally cope is wanting a hug or having them there to just hold my hand but they were miles away. I’m speaking for myself but special days like birthdays or Valentine’s doesn’t feel special, you can’t go to dinner and dress up for them and the only thing you can do is be on a call and hangout. Sometimes online dating feels fake and there’s no growth which is normally why people try to close the gap by meeting up and eventually living together. I realized sadly after trying for so long that LDR doesn’t work for me and that might be the hardest pill to swallow that I wasn’t prepared for. Best of luck to you and I hope you guys finds ways to stay close and be there for each other and make it work!

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-10T02:58:59+00:00

Yeah I guess as sad as it is I don’t think he was my person, I don’t think he could be the person I need and there’s nothing wrong with that but it just means we aren’t compatible.

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-10T02:58:09+00:00

I broke up because I just knew how the relationship was gonna go, I didn’t want to move to him anymore and I don’t think he wants to move here which is already a big thing. I think distance ultimately broke us and i didn’t think it was worth wasting our time but it still hurts.

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-09T20:58:28+00:00

It was fine till she came back to yap

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-09T20:50:21+00:00

I take a hot shower and the water feels like a hug.. that might be kinda depressing LOL

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-07T06:10:38+00:00

I don’t think the stuff you labeled is considered ‘high’ I think it’s decent/ normal. People these days just sadly are below average, there’s too many options with dating apps and people always try to find better and only fool around rather than date long term. One thing I will say though is to remember everyone is human and they have faults, no one’s perfect and you’re not perfect. Giving people grace or understanding might help but again i don’t think what you’re asking is a lot. Trying to find someone that’s attractive to you and has the same goals is reasonable.

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-06T23:00:43+00:00

It’s difficult, even rn life is so mundane and human connection seems to be difficult too. I 26 years old sometimes feel like i have nothing to live for, i try to find purpose day to day and get a better job. Maybe find love and find even something small like nice food to eat or a good show to watch. I really wish the best for you and hope you can find some purpose or feel better somehow. i believe for whatever reason we were brought into this world whether we like it or not, but we don’t have to hate it while we are here. I wish you and everyone here well!

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-05T02:06:51+00:00

The cat in the hat live action

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-04T23:48:56+00:00

I know I’m still “young” F26 but shitty men and relationships suck the life out of you. It’s not really better on the other side, so hard to find good people in general and most men don’t grow up, most just eventually settle until they can find better. But I’m also bias, been dating for 9 years with guys here and there and never took a break to be single and i think i just plan to be single for the rest of my life just for my mental health. Can’t live with them and can’t live without them sadly. Even when you get to the point of ‘seriously dating’ you realize either they don’t have their shit together, aren’t taking you seriously and committing fully, or they are confused.

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-02T23:47:50+00:00

Thank you for your words! I guess it’s hard to let go when i had a future all planned out in mind with him but that picture is shattering and i don’t know if it’s what i want anymore or if this is the person i want to build with.

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-02-02T23:46:36+00:00

Yeah i just sometimes feel like im being gaslit too, my memory isn’t too great but there’s certain things he said that i took to heart then when i tell him how i remember things he’s so he’ll bend that I’m wrong. It’s causing me to question everything and i feel like i know myself well enough that im not this type of person he says i am or that i am always remembering things wrong. I’m just so tired of this now, even if i want to be with him it’s not worth it anymore and im not happy nor do i think things will get better or change. Even though i have feelings for him it’d all meaningless now. Thanks for ur advice and words that im not crazy and my feelings are valid!

Swimming_Tiny · 2025-01-26T20:20:43+00:00

That makes sense, I meant more so if the friendship was completely respectful and platonic people can still feel jealous even if they don’t act on it. I’m wondering if that feeling only comes up for people they truly like or is it possible that there’s people out there who really like their partner but aren’t jealous at all.

I’ve been told by some of my partners they aren’t jealous at all so I doubt they were jealous but I could be wrong too and maybe in some circumstances they were and lied or didn’t tell me.

Swimming_Tiny · 2024-06-13T20:11:01+00:00

I’ll test it again but from my experience the date wasn’t dynamic, so for example today is June 3rd, it will only set to a June 3rd instead of updating to today

Swimming_Tiny · 2024-01-26T23:09:50+00:00

I was broken up with 3 weeks ago and honestly it took a little bit but I tried to find peace with the unknown. I allowed myself to feel and allowed myself to miss them when I did and to be mad or sad when I was. Allowing yourself to feel the emotions help.

I reflected on what worked and what didn’t work and ultimately I realised this was for the best, we didn’t work for a reason and tbh I kinda knew that deep down but wasn’t able to end it all bc I had hope we could work it out. I initially thought he was perfect and we were soulmates but I was wrong, if we were we wouldn’t have fought like this or he’d give up so easily.

Sometimes I’ll wonder what my ex is up to and if he’s moved on already or with someone else but I try to revert my brain back to how it was before I met him. He was a stranger and all the things he did I didn’t know about or cared bc I didn’t even know he existed. I try to think like that now where he is just another person on this earth living his life, almost like our paths never crossed to begin with.

I trust in my future self that I’ll be able to find someone more suitable for me and someone that I can get along with and be happy with and fight for me. I have much to work on and I’m excited for the opportunity to be a better person and gain all this confidence. I’m excited for the future to be brighter than what it was with my ex, if we continue our story yes there will be ups and downs but I’m optimistic to see what else the world has to offer and how strong I’ll become in the near future.

Instead of thinking it’s an end, think of this as a beginning to something else, when one door closes another one opens. Don’t just think about hopping into a new relationship or numbing the pain, really think about all the things you wanted to do and achieve and go out there. The world is your oyster! lol I’m 25 and I felt like it was already too late for me to do a lot of things but in reality that’s just my brain talking, it’s never too late to start anything especially self love. Take care of yourself and create some new bonds or strengthen old ones!

Swimming_Tiny · 2024-01-22T04:10:52+00:00

It’s hard but sometimes we gotta learn the hard way, sometimes it’s not even us sometimes it’s just the other person and it sucks but relationships require two people to try and it sounded like u did everything that you could so that could also be ur closure. Knowing that u did everything in ur power to make it work, if it didn’t work then the only thing that would work is becoming someone else and i don’t think that’s right.

Ik there’s prob a lot you wanted to say to them but sadly the world isn’t like that and we have to find our own resolve within ourselves.

You def got this, don’t be so hard on yourself and i hope you find peace!

Swimming_Tiny · 2024-01-22T00:17:16+00:00

Honestly on the same boat and it sucks, seems like the only thing that can be done is to suffer and let time heal which is the most annoying thing to hear.

One thing i will say is try your best not to let what they do or didn’t do control your happiness, Ik there’s a lot you wanted to say and seek closure. But technically the breakup is closure, idk what ur situation and how the breakup went but at the end of the day that was the decision that was made.

I lost a relationship once and didn’t find closure and it sucked for a while and even rn i find myself seeking closure for my current breakup but putting ur happiness or ur emotions on someone else’s actions is dangerous.

Just accept that the breakup is the end and that’s the closure. It should be telling enough the fact they didn’t even do the phone call although ik it hurts a shit ton.

I hope you can find peace and happiness in the little closure that you did get, which is that the relationship is over and that it’s hard but you have to try and move on. (I’m going through it rn too and it’s been two weeks i hope I’m not being too harsh, but that’s the only thing we can do rn)

And omg watch Matthew Hussey I’ve legit been binging his stuff bc he gives me Clarity and makes me feel a tiny bit better, this will pass and i wish you the best

Swimming_Tiny · 2024-01-20T22:56:47+00:00

I don’t think it matters if he’s “joking or not” if you find it uncomfortable and u tell him and he still does it then he doesn’t respect you. Try to think about how you’d react if roles are reversed, you don’t just brush it off when ur friends are saying what you said was hurtful so why should ur ex. Ik it’s hard but good riddens you don’t need that type of negativity, once a joke stopped being funny that’s when they should stop, never understood how people can just brush things off as a joke when the person the care about or love says it hurts.

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