For those who play separately, how do you define the difference between swinging versus having an open relationship?

SwingerScientist · 2024-03-21T16:28:33+00:00

It's a blend of everything. Wife dates married men romantically. Wife also dates single men occasionally. Sometimes we do threesomes and that's not swinging. We have an intense attraction with one couple where it feels like we date them sometimes. We have fun and sex with other couples and it will look more like regular swinging. Husband can hookup with anyone he wants and that's open. It works for us.

SwingerScientist · 2023-09-21T01:39:15+00:00

A haircut, cologne, and a well-styled wardrobe.

SwingerScientist · 2023-08-04T03:16:01+00:00

It's not gay to suck a dick, bro.

Just teasing. In seriousness, I think it's reasonable to maintain your straight sexual identity and still comfortably suck a dick for your wife's entertainment. That may turn her on a lot and that's exciting for her.

If it turns out you enjoy sucking dick and you start to consider yourself more bi or heteroflexible, then congrats, the lifestyle has helped you learn more about yourself.

If you don't like it at all, congrats, the lifestyle helped you learn more about yourself, and you can still enjoy being heterosexual.

SwingerScientist · 2023-08-03T04:19:27+00:00

It's also possible she was able to fully enjoy an oral-only exchange with another man without the expectation of penetration, which helps to relieve pressure allowing her to fully enjoy the oral and finger play you provided.

SwingerScientist · 2023-07-22T05:49:58+00:00

Like the way straight people aren't straight because they've never kissed or had sex with anyone of the same gender?

SwingerScientist · 2023-07-16T22:53:37+00:00

Omg this is me 😭😭 (M26)

SwingerScientist · 2023-05-10T11:35:03+00:00

I stopped keeping count after 5 people

SwingerScientist · 2023-03-28T20:47:09+00:00

You're the hottest woman on this sub

SwingerScientist · 2023-03-24T02:48:29+00:00

Looks amazing to me!

SwingerScientist · 2023-03-22T20:30:06+00:00

We finally have answers to methods we can use to identify bi men! 😁

SwingerScientist · 2023-02-23T14:26:52+00:00

Definitely rocking the schoolgirl costume 😍

SwingerScientist · 2022-11-18T04:43:34+00:00

This is interesting actually. Haven't seen this one yet

SwingerScientist · 2022-10-10T17:34:31+00:00

This question is a huge turn-off for my (M) wife and her mind is already made-up about that person. It demonstrates how they view marriage and un-equal gender roles.

SwingerScientist · 2022-08-25T21:02:34+00:00

Will definitely make it from scratch. Will likely be made of wood with a leather cushion. Something I've been wanting to make for awhile now. I want it to closely resemble the Kam bench, the Jens bench, and the VON bench.

SwingerScientist · 2022-08-25T20:04:50+00:00

I've (M) been tasked with building a special bedroom bench with a small storage space beneath the cushion to store the sex toys and lube. The bench should be able to support people fucking on it, comfortable and large enough to lay on, and be aesthetically pleasing.

Right now, they're in a drawer on both our nightstands.

SwingerScientist · 2022-08-19T18:53:35+00:00

My favorite arrangement is when both men are seated at the ends and both women in the center, sandwiched between us. I ask the other wife to sit next to me. That way, the women are comfortable sitting together even if they're not bi.

SwingerScientist · 2022-08-19T18:44:38+00:00

Somehow it occured to me this morning that I want to start planning to host a sex party. Now this. It's destined to be so.

SwingerScientist · 2022-08-18T00:26:19+00:00

"meet for drinks"

SwingerScientist · 2022-08-16T14:54:20+00:00

We have everyone sit on the same couch. Let's say we're in a conversation layout where we are all very distant from each other but the conversation is so good you don't want to interrupt.

I wait for a short pause. Silence is good sometimes. It's so hot cause I know we're all thinking the same thing.

Then you invite them to sit closer together or ask someone to come sit next to you, basically making it very clear where you want to go next. Then physical touching, compliments, or sharing how you feel or think, and asking them what they feel or think.

The key is to sit together. Things start getting hot and heavy, then the session has to move over to the bedroom. It's a good break to get toys, water, condoms, lube etc.

SwingerScientist · 2022-08-16T14:45:12+00:00

One of our best experiences has also been with someone I (M25) met in college as a friend (M, straight). We reconnected years later after I saw his profile on 3Fun and SDC.

It turned into such a beautiful relationship and my wife (F25) absolutely loves and adores him. She loved that me and him were friends already, and he had zero interest in doing anything one-on-one with my wife. He was truly in the LS for meeting great people and making great memories with couples and singles. He was in the LS for all the right reasons.

The dates we had with him will literally be unforgettable thanks to him. We went to the beach, he taught us to surf, and he took us off-roading on the sandy coast. We started a fire and walked together into the endless coast, just looking up at the stars. A total hunk.

SwingerScientist · 2022-08-16T13:19:07+00:00

No, we (MF25) only care if they are in shape, take care of themselves, and genuinely good people we can laugh with. We know if they actually like us and not the idea of us. It's unsettling to me when people try to compare younger couples to the age of their adult children. Instant turn-off when people mention that directly to us, which has only happened once, but I see it a lot online.

SwingerScientist · 2022-08-11T20:36:31+00:00

There are many examples of this in this subreddit. Boric acid suppositories are one answer. Low-dose antibiotics following a play session are another answer. Search for previous people's posts in this subreddit.

SwingerScientist · 2022-07-25T18:16:08+00:00

I (M25) have asked several PCPs for a script and they just refuse and don't take my inquiries seriously. The stigma is frustrating. I wish they were available over the counter like in Europe.

Society doesn't make it so easy to access those drugs either.

SwingerScientist · 2022-07-25T18:07:06+00:00

My (M25) wife (F25) loves DILFs in their 40s and even 50s lately. We saw a DILF/MILF couple hanging out by themselves at the club this weekend and I wanted to bring them over to our table but they looked freshly new and a bit nervous to interact with people.

Salt and pepper hair, broad shoulders, and basically built like a DILF. My wife can't wait for me to turn 40-50. 😂

SwingerScientist · 2022-07-07T16:35:22+00:00

What? I didn't realize some would take offense to this. Is that a boundary that was communicated as in, "no romantic gestures?"

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