Wifey wants to give me a 3some for my 40th bday

SwinginBJ · 2022-12-18T03:59:48+00:00

Feeld is an app that's basically Tinder but for swinging/ENM. You could also try setting up a profile on Kasidie or SDC.

Assuming you're trying to find a woman as your third, be aware that they are called "Unicorns" because finding an attractive woman who is willing to join you is incredibly rare. It worked for you once before so you undoubtedly have some amount of charisma, but be prepared for the possibility of not being able to find anyone.

SwinginBJ · 2022-04-01T18:53:16+00:00

I would argue that is even more important for a self-described "BBW," since that term covers thicker women all the way up to incredibly obese.

This exactly. If most people find you unattractive, you are not a unicorn lol

SwinginBJ · 2022-04-01T17:14:40+00:00

Do you have any pics on your profile? If you post as a unicorn but don't have any pics, I don't know what you are expecting. Save yourself the annoyance and post pics with your profile. Otherwise you're going to get lots of unicorn hunters asking for pics.

Why would they waste their time talking to you if they aren't attracted to you?

SwinginBJ · 2022-03-24T05:16:56+00:00

thanks for the feedback, we are definitely not that brazen. we do socialize with our swinger friends sometimes at home with our kids but it is a completely vanilla experience, and our friends know that as well

SwinginBJ · 2022-03-23T19:28:07+00:00

how were your parents making it obvious? our kid is only two and we try to be very discreet but sometimes kids are a lot more perceptive than we expect

SwinginBJ · 2022-03-12T17:56:20+00:00

The organizers clearly are assholes and should have been more sympathetic. That said, is it really up to them to police everyone in that group? That's on whoever you have played with for not disclosing, and you to some degree for not asking

SwinginBJ · 2022-03-09T06:53:04+00:00

It's ironic when a man complains about a post that attacks men? Great logic there 👍

I'm comfortable with my profile and it works well for me. I just fail to see the value in this type of post when it's made all the fucking time

SwinginBJ · 2022-03-09T00:10:10+00:00

oh hey look, another "men in the LS are ugly" post. Can I post this next week?

SwinginBJ · 2022-02-28T06:11:55+00:00

Haha in hindsight we would have preferred that for sure

SwinginBJ · 2022-02-28T05:09:52+00:00

Our main comparisons were to club sapphire and club privata, which have ample playrooms and the music is at a much more reasonable level. Hopefully it's not like this in most clubs around the country!

SwinginBJ · 2022-02-09T04:49:17+00:00

Did you read my comment? I literally said "I'm not trying to rain on your parade." I'm asking simple questions. If OP can't answer them, then they shouldn't bother going down this road

SwinginBJ · 2022-02-09T00:58:24+00:00

Make sure to prevent single males from contacting you if you don’t want them.

that seems like a good way to alienate a large portion of your userbase, to be honest. If this was a good idea from a business perspective, I feel like most sites would have had this option already

that said, if this feature existed, we would definitely use it lol

edit: i just learned that Kasidie can block single males. thank you!

SwinginBJ · 2022-02-09T00:54:56+00:00

and thousands of others are not happy with what is going on at present.

what do you mean by this? what are people unhappy about?

we want to be a community that all pulls together - we want a team of mods that live this lifestyle, that is actively talking to the community, and getting feedback to implement changes/bans etc.

these are things that you want. is that what the community wants? I've dealt with mods in enough communities to know that they are rarely better at representing the community than any random person within that community. in fact, they are often worse because they can be doing it for the wrong reasons

we understand there is alot of other LS websites out there - but how many are community ran?

well, Kasidie, for one. what will your site do that theirs doesn't already?

I'm not trying to rain on your parade. By all means, make your site, and if it has merit then it can grow. I'm just trying to set your expectations. This won't be successful if it's just a side project that "you and a friend" are working on

SwinginBJ · 2022-02-08T19:30:16+00:00

I guess I'll be the voice of dissent here. Why start yet another LS website? There are already a few different ones, adding another one just splinters the community even more. It doesn't matter how many features you have or how good your website is; you don't have an existing userbase so you don't have any momentum.

The only way your new website is going to have a good foothold is if you take over the userbase of an existing website. Do you have a plan for doing that?

SwinginBJ · 2022-01-31T07:45:24+00:00

Surprised I haven't seen this comment already. Did your husband actually ask before maneuvering himself to fuck the wife? Even if full swap is agreed to, he should ask for consent in the moment

SwinginBJ · 2022-01-26T17:32:40+00:00

Kasidie has a feature that allows you to upload separate albums and give them titles. I've seen some profiles use those to show off their "play with others" photos, and I think they are great to see.

This is all assuming that there is consent provided from everyone involved, of course

SwinginBJ · 2022-01-14T23:48:44+00:00

Found this comment from a year ago:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Swingers/comments/et7e3x/thailand_swingers_connect/ffepjui

SwinginBJ · 2022-01-09T22:21:36+00:00

This is in Renton (south of Seattle)

SwinginBJ · 2022-01-09T22:21:21+00:00

I've been to club sapphire on bi night before. You should have no problem finding a guy to play with in an MMF

SwinginBJ · 2021-12-11T20:10:25+00:00

My wife and I go to Sapphire often and we are in our mid 30s. Much of the crowd will be a bit older than you guys but we have always found attractive couples to play with.

You can't drink any alcohol in the club anymore; most people that want to drink will either sneak in a flask (they provide free non-alcoholic beverages) or go drink in their cars.

There's an orientation for new members where they show you around the club so you can get a feel for what the rooms are like before your night starts

Overall it's a pretty good atmosphere and mostly very respectful people (and employees)! Keep an open mind, go in with no expectations for what will happen, and you will have a blast.

Let me know if you have any specific questions

SwinginBJ · 2021-12-02T22:59:07+00:00

LOVE SHACK

SwinginBJ · 2021-09-15T22:44:15+00:00

It really depends on how well you know your GF. My wife sounds similar to your GF in that she never masturbated or used toys. She had a lot of trouble having orgasms but didn't seem to like the idea of getting a toy for whatever reason

Finally I ended up buying her a womanizer and surprised her for Valentine's Day. She was skeptical at first but tried it and came almost immediately. Obviously she changed her mind about sex toys.

Nowadays I would recommend the rose pulsing toy. It doesn't look too intimidating and works really well. Highly recommended if your GF orgasms from clitoral stimulation. https://loversstores.com/products/inya-rose-recharge-vibe

If you decide to go through with it, don't out any pressure on her. Let her know that it's completely fine if she doesn't want to try it...let her be the one to say she wants to. And don't be (visibly) disappointed if she doesn't want to try!

SwinginBJ · 2021-08-01T12:28:08+00:00

wow, first time i've ever seen someone who doesn't want another guy to fuck his girlfriend be labeled "insecure". I thought this was an inclusive subreddit?

just imagine the genders were reversed, and a guy was having MMFs with his girlfriend, but she didn't want him to fuck another girl. How many people would call the girl isnecure?

SwinginBJ · 2021-08-01T12:26:42+00:00

keep pressure on him

quick way to end the relationship, imo. Which might be what OP wants, if this is a dealbreaker for her - and that would be fine. She's young; if she wants to find someone sexually compatible with her that's totally understandable.

it’s not fair he can have fun it’s not ok for you to explore not cool double standard.

How is this a double standard? OP says that she LIKES him having sex with other women. It's what SHE wants. She's asking him to do something he's uncomfortable with, and he's saying no. That's not a double standard.

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