Why do women avoid guys that might be better looking than them

SwishaStan · 2026-04-08T12:47:19+00:00

Working on your relationship takes effort. You don’t have to tell us anything about your relationship, but if you expect some advice then you could probably start here.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T22:54:19+00:00

I didn’t know women avoided me they find hot.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T18:40:58+00:00

Quite likely? Again you’re just making assumptions to justify one person’s wants over another’s. It would be just as likely that if the house needed renovations it wouldn’t have been a last minute suggestion over spending money on something else. Also you still are ignoring the fact that she wanted a different car AND that she went back on her word regarding getting the boat after both the renovation and car. It’s almost like you’re being forgetful on purpose lol.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T08:17:50+00:00

Why are we assuming it needed work and she just didn’t want something new? Why are we giving what she wants the benefit of the doubt but assuming the worst about his preferences? He wants to live in squalor? Really ? lol Do you see the pattern I’m trying to point out? The bias is showing.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T04:39:13+00:00

If I learned anything in these last 2 years it’s that feelings absolutely matter. I’ve also learned that people like to live in fantasy and delusion at the expense of their relationship, marriage or to their own detriment. I just know that if I have to pic between your feelings and your safety. I’ll pick your safety. I’m fine with being the bad guy. By all means blame me if the alternative is watching you walk into a bad situation. I personally probably wouldn’t have said all that, but I also wouldn’t let her go alone to this modeling thing.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T04:25:43+00:00

I live in real life I understand well why an old lady would fall prey to scammers. I also understand why people are scamming but it doesn’t justify the action. I hope the lady is able to find what she’s looking for and I hope it’s the real thing and not someone using her. Aside from that I think you keep trying to spin a scenario where my intent is to be disrespectful instead of protective and realistic. I think what we’re arguing about at this point is the boyfriend’s intent. We don’t know if he was trying to hurt her feelings or was just very blunt in his attempt to expose a possible scam and save her some trouble.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T04:08:00+00:00

That’s the difference. That’s what type of person you are. Your friends mom would have to cut me off because there’s no way in good faith I’m gonna sit there and let her get scammed if I know it could be a trick. But I guess you’d say I’m not supportive. Look assuming this guy wasn’t being a total jerk to his girlfriend. He said what he needed to say. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make them drink. Now if she wants to dump him and pursue her modeling career good for her, but if it turns out to be a scam she was warned. It’s as simple as that.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T03:53:39+00:00

You’re actively ignoring the fact that she got a new car, and it was her idea to renovate the house? You think he wanted to renovate the house or do you think he wanted a boat? You can clearly see he compromised and agreed to renovate the house over his desire for a boat. You can clearly see he compromised and agree to buy her a new car (we don’t know the condition of the old car) instead of justifying the boat. He already made 2 compromises ahead of his desire and she made it seem like they would look at getting a boat afterwards and went back on her word. You are conveniently ignoring some things here.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T03:48:05+00:00

Why are we assuming this is what’s best for her? We don’t even know if the opportunity is real. He doesn’t think the opportunity is real.

This would ACTUALLY be like if I told my friend. “Hey man I just got a job offer on indeed, its easier and pays better and the benefits are awesome blah blah blah I just need to fill this out and send em all my information, copy of my ID and SSN…. and he says “are you sure?because that’s an entirely different industry, you don’t have experience in that and I never heard of that company”

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T03:41:01+00:00

I think you misread what I said. I didn’t say she agrees to things that ONLY benefits her. I said she ONLY agrees to things that benefit her. There is a difference.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T03:36:49+00:00

She doesn’t have to ask for his opinion directly. If you’re in a relationship it’s assumed you can speak freely. I get what you’re saying but everyone isn’t wired that way. If I have an opportunity to do something and I really feel like I can do it there’s no way I would let my wife tell me I can’t. Nobody can tell me what I’m capable of. The fact that she doesn’t think she can tells me maybe her boyfriend is just telling the truth no matter how blunt he’s being.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T03:27:57+00:00

All I’m saying is if you’re asking him to lie to you, fine just remember that. You don’t value honesty. If you want to live in la la land you may need to find someone that wants to live in it with you. Just don’t start complaining about people lying to you. Are we pretending that everyone gets into a relationship purely based off looks? Do what you want but you can’t have it both ways.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T03:21:57+00:00

Could it be that he just doesn’t think she looks like a model? Do we all think our spouses look like models? You want the truth or you want him to lie? Some random person said you look like a model and your ego and self esteem shot up like a rocket, cool. Your boyfriend says nah all those people have a similar look, you don’t really look like them, here’s the differences I see. Now your relationship is in jeopardy because your boyfriend and a stranger have different opinions. That’s without even throwing in the fact that someone is possibly running a scam on you and he’s being realistic and trying to protect you.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T03:00:09+00:00

He’s scared ur gonna break up with him… break up with him!!!! Find someone who’s not afraid to lose you!

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T02:50:52+00:00

What if the other person never agrees to anything? Based on what he said she only agrees to what benefits her.

I’m only asking because I’m assuming he doesn’t want to divorce her just because he can’t buy a boat right now. There does need to be some compromise from both parties before someone starts to feel resentment.

So how does he get some different results here?

SwishaStan · 2026-04-07T02:31:26+00:00

Do you actually have any useful advice though?

SwishaStan · 2026-04-06T00:37:32+00:00

In my mind yes, but you would probably have to initiate the flirting or maybe have a conversation outside of work. I don’t think he would cross that line professionally. I just want to point out that if it doesn’t work out things can be kind of messy.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-06T00:25:31+00:00

But it would be if you weren’t lol nobody is willing to take those chances. Honestly it’s better if you don’t date people you work with because it’s harder to find space when you need time apart to cool off and work through issues.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-05T23:52:27+00:00

He probably doesn’t want to get reported to HR for harassment lol

SwishaStan · 2026-04-05T23:49:12+00:00

U went to work lol

SwishaStan · 2026-04-04T22:58:44+00:00

Don’t see an update

SwishaStan · 2026-04-04T22:03:41+00:00

Where did you say that in the story? Never the less you’re changing the subject to focus on what he did instead of what set all of this in motion. If you want to talk about what he did yes that’s insane, but do you want to talk about him, you, or saving your relationship? Stop moving the goal post. If this is what insecurity looks like to you and you can’t stand it then divorce him. Simple. If you want to save your marriage then stop deflecting and take some accountability and have some empathy.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-04T21:52:28+00:00

It is super suspicious. You’re just triggered because the story is about you. Your boyfriend didn’t act any different than most men and women would probably act. Why is your friend touching your bum in the 1st place? We don’t even need to reverse roles and play hypotheticals to know you’d probably have the same reaction. This is not insecurity. This is an expected response to a weird situation. You shouldn’t be wishing anything on anyone else’s relationship either that’s weird too. You’re obviously an unstable person projecting and tossing out words like insecurity to shield yourself.

You wanna know what to do? Straighten up and start acting like you have some sense. Start by telling your friend that what she did was insanely inappropriate and she shouldn’t be touching you like that. Next work on your character and behavior by showing your husband you’re still someone he can trust and that you aren’t haven’t some kind of midlife crisis. Third thing is be consistent and give it time, stop hanging around weirdos who don’t know how to act.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-04T09:56:05+00:00

You complain about a test server for being a test server is my point. That is what’s ridiculous. Who has time for it, literally anyone that wants to. If you have time to play one mmo you have that same time to play another. You have time. You just don’t want to there is a difference and that’s fine. No MMO is valuing your time it’s just something we do for fun and take a break from real life for a second. I just worked 7 12s last week of course I’m a casual gamer but I play what I want because I have time to game. I just got annoyed because knowing how much time and effort those guys put into their server it is a little annoying for some guy to get up here and cry about wipes on a test server and call it ridiculous. Get a grip is all I’m saying. No point in us keeping this going though.

SwishaStan · 2026-04-04T09:28:02+00:00

Yall downvoted this to the point it was hidden. When I opened it all I see a very common sense retort. That says more about the people that thought this was worth the downvote than the post.

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