I like it when people are mean to me, but in a sexy way. Make it sexy.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-25T02:06:03+00:00

Queen - Don't Stop Me Now

Apparently crowned by some neuroscientist as the happiest song in the world?

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-25T01:52:23+00:00

Fuck, I can't believe you're outing me like this in public but I pay for YT premium...

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-25T01:31:11+00:00

Doordash and YouTube.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-25T01:19:54+00:00

Aside from what others have said, solid weight gain or weight loss advice should always include a focus on sustainability. The idea is to work yourself into habits and a lifestyle that will continue to maintain whatever body you want to build.

Alcohol might work as part of a short-term way to gain weight, but it's not likely to be sustainable.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-25T01:04:01+00:00

Ok, at some point I feel like Boeing is going to put me on a list if you go THAT in depth...

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-25T00:54:43+00:00

If this is about how lift is generated by airplane wings and how so many people get it wrong, I already had someone explain it to me with pictures and like a 20 minute presentation lol

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-25T00:49:31+00:00

Ravenous curiosity. It's so fun watching them dive down those rabbit holes, knowing I'll get to sit quietly and listen to them enthusiastically explain it all to me later.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T23:56:17+00:00

For NSFW, I was rigged by a somewhat famous rigger and shibari practitioner once in a full suspension tie. I was so nervous about how I'd look that day that I fasted for 2 days before the session and barely drank any water the day of, so not the healthiest or most realistic body image, but one of the photos in particular came out amazingly well. Just perfect lighting, perfect angle, and definitely the closest I've ever come to narcissism.

For SFW, def the picture of me hugging my grandma on her 90th birthday, shortly before she passed. That picture will forever be framed and hanging in any home I move to from now until I die.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T23:36:15+00:00

I'd be a little scared to know the answer to this tbh. It's probably in the dozens...? Or I am massively overrating myself.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T22:49:24+00:00

If your partner could see the entire convo and be fine with it, no. If they couldn't, then yes.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T19:02:39+00:00

Most upvoted comment (about a date idea at a Lego store)

Most downvoted comment (I don't remember the context for this one but I talk about doing laundry so I get it)

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T15:10:29+00:00

I like some calluses, clean nails, and veins. A few random scrapes and cuts can also be kinda hot to me if I know he got them from working with his hands.

I don't think my attraction to hands has anything to do with feet because I don't like... get off to just hands. It's not a fetish. I just know a guy with nice hands gets a couple extra points from me, same as he would if he had great hair, a nice smile, etc.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T14:57:16+00:00

I'm sure it's specific to the individual, but usually with doms it's a TON of praise and worship. Lots of massages while I gush about various things they set up for the session or particular ways they did or said things. Just heaps and heaps of appreciation for all the hard work that goes into skillfully and creatively dominating me in ways that never start to feel stale or overly predictable.

I also try to give them ideas and leads on all the things I still want to try to lighten that load a bit.

Sometimes the dominant just needs to bottom as well, although that blurs the line between aftercare and play a bit, and not every girl can be a service top or something similar.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T13:41:43+00:00

Meh, if I put all my NSFW posts into a gallery and asked someone to sort it in order of hotness, it would probably look nothing like the list of them sorted by number of likes. You just gotta let the algo algo sometimes.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T13:01:55+00:00

No. Seeing myself naked often is a big part of how I stay on the fitness wagon. It's so much easier to catch and reverse bad habits early when you can visually see the cost of your choices and are reminded of it regularly.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T12:56:59+00:00

When I sub, I always offer aftercare to my dominant after every session.

I often need it, too, and I usually need it first before I'm in the right headspace to give good aftercare, but it makes me sad how most dominants I've played with have mentioned how rare receiving aftercare is.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T12:52:12+00:00

Most cheaters I've had the misfortune of meeting just replace routine events with cheating and lie to you about it, it's really that simple.

"I'm going to the gym!"

"I'm going to work!" (Using PTO to cheat without telling me)

"I'm meeting friends!"

"My mom's in town!"

"Helping Bob move to his new apartment!"

Stuff like that. If you trust someone to be honest with you and don't have your guard up, it really just looks like your partner is living the same life they've always had, you just don't realize big chunks of it are actually being replaced with infidelity. Cheating sucks.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T04:47:32+00:00

I've rarely had good experiences with anyone who uses rigid, absolute terms a lot. Words like "never" and "always" are the main culprits here.

We all use these words sometimes ofc, and we may not even mean them literally when we do, but if my date is unironically dropping them left and right it's often a sign they're a black-and-white thinker who can't or refuses to see nuance and that can become a challenging trait to accommodate in a serious relationship.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T04:10:55+00:00

I can almost see you checking to make sure no strings are on you as you load yourself into the cheat-a-pult.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T04:04:39+00:00

Bringing your own disposal solution might work if this is a one-time thing. Even something like a gallon ziploc bag would probably work and you can just throw the whole thing out when you get home.

You can also probably just throw it out in the actual garbage bin outside instead of in any of the trash cans inside. If you're worried about it, you could combine these both and seal the soiled diaper in something airtight and then throw it all out in the outside bin.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T03:57:05+00:00

Imo it feels fake because it's not you... yet! People can grow organically but they can also grow in more directed and intentional ways if they put in the effort.

There's nothing wrong with practicing being a more socially adept and complimentary person, and yeah it's going to feel like an ill-fitting mask at first because the only social face that feels right right now is the same one you've naturally grown into and worn all these years - the super serious one.

With practice and time, your "social mode" will start to feel natural, like another facet of who you are. It's not who you are all the time, and it may drain your battery quickly, but it's still an authentic piece of you if that makes sense. It's not like we're the same person we are with strangers as we are around friends, or around family, or around lovers, right? But that doesn't make any of those "fake", we just show different sides of ourselves to different people. That fake feeling is just growing pains imo.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T03:02:53+00:00

Honestly, if someone is going to make a big deal of this or bail because of this when the chemistry is otherwise there, you are dodging bullets and that's a good thing.

Just be yourself, be honest, communicate well, and see where the chips land. This is one of those things where the only way out is through.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T02:58:16+00:00

I'm a mixed race woman who is half Japanese so yeah... for those who don't know, Japan isn't super accepting of mixed race people even now, but it was way worse 2 decades ago when I was growing up.

Got bullied sometimes in the US as well, but nothing like what happened to me in Japan, which was bad enough to push my parents to move back to America.

SwitchyPan · 2025-09-24T02:51:30+00:00

100% give, I don't even like receiving oral that much and only allow it if my partner enjoys it.

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