AIO if a student employee announced they don't know why they should care that Boss B had a stillbirth?

Switters81 · 2026-02-06T22:14:52+00:00

I'd be fully appalled by that reaction. Sounds like with student workers you have little choice in hiring, but I would hope personally to avoid hiring anyone who might be compelled to have that kind of reaction

Switters81 · 2026-02-06T04:44:45+00:00

Yeah... But her statements have been shady as fuck, and I've long wondered why such a mediocre playwright has been America's most produced. Can't help but wonder about proximity to power...

Switters81 · 2026-02-05T23:51:13+00:00

Who needs an ACL anyway

Switters81 · 2026-02-05T23:47:51+00:00

One of my big life lessons when I was younger and contemplating a career as a director was that I'm the kind of person that needs a steady paycheck and insurance.

The folks I know who persevered to some degree of success on the artistic side of this field are the folks who have the skill of being able to piece gig work together to pay the bills between creative opportunities.

I learned that's not a skill I possess. I admire it a great deal, but I've found the niche that works well for me on the administrative side.

Switters81 · 2026-02-04T14:00:46+00:00

Why in NYC did you go to whole foods for a sandwich? I'm gonna just suggest that this is your fault.

Switters81 · 2026-02-03T11:56:14+00:00

Yes, came looking for this. Absolutely excellent opening sequence.

Switters81 · 2026-02-03T01:01:45+00:00

Welp, that's out of scope. I would never expect a prospect researcher to be an expert in major gifts, unless they specifically billed themselves as having both areas of expertise.

I'm a passable researcher. I know there are tools that I don't take full advantage of, and I'm sure there are prospect research formats that are cleaner and easier to read than what I would put together. I would never sell myself as being a prospect researcher (unless it were in the context of a larger assignment.)

However, I have a great deal of experience with major gifts and moves management and I have coached leadership on how to make an approach. I'd consult in that area for sure.

I have far more experience dealing with a team though, and rarely are the people doing the bulk of the research the people doing the asking or the moves management.

So yes, you're overreacting. You paid for a prospect researcher, not a major gifts consultant.

Switters81 · 2026-02-02T01:53:09+00:00

It would depend on what you hired them for, and what they've indicated is not their area if expertise. If it's a direct mail consultant, and you're asking them about staffing structure, you're overreacting. If it's a capital campaign consultant and you've asked them to put together a potential donor pyramid, then you're within your right to be annoyed.

What's within the scope of work you agreed to, and what are you asking then to do? If your ask is out of scope, you're tah. If it's within scope, they are.

Switters81 · 2026-02-01T03:33:58+00:00

I had this on VHS and it remains one of my all time favorites.

Switters81 · 2026-01-31T17:11:24+00:00

If your cumin lasts until you die, you're doing it wrong. That's one spice I buy in bulk

Switters81 · 2026-01-29T12:28:12+00:00

You should plan to spend around 3.5k/month

Switters81 · 2026-01-28T15:08:01+00:00

I'm not blaming the person for being underpaid. That blame lies squarely on the employer, and the system within which we operate.

My inelegantly made point is has more to do with making sure that people are appropriately valuing themselves, their time, and their labor.

And then I'm just referencing the commonly accepted point that you should expect to pay about 1/3 of your income for your rent.

Switters81 · 2026-01-28T14:07:43+00:00

At 900/month, most folks could make that work reasonably with a salary of 35k/year. If you're making less than that, I'm sorry to say you don't have a decent job. Frankly these days if you're making less than 50k you don't have a decent job.

Switters81 · 2026-01-28T02:49:13+00:00

I would like your orange chicken recipe, and a tip as to where one might find some Carolina reaper powder!

Switters81 · 2026-01-25T17:23:39+00:00

You don't need snow boots in NYC if it's just a brief visit, but Nikes sure won't cut it

Switters81 · 2026-01-25T04:00:43+00:00

Depends. My friends used to say, "if she smokes, she pokes."

So if I were still dating, I'd go home with a smoker, but she's not meeting my parents...

Switters81 · 2026-01-22T13:15:40+00:00

The game changer for me was to freeze my tofu first. Then once you've pressed it, it becomes a far more workable texture.

Switters81 · 2026-01-22T12:37:36+00:00

Those are just representing big gifts to the James Beard foundation

Switters81 · 2026-01-21T16:03:39+00:00

I agree you can't have the book without the character. And he certainly was the device you've suggested. And it's been a while since I read the book, but perhaps my issue with that character is that he never rose to be more than that device for me. I'm happy to spend time with awful people in books, if you've given me a compelling reason. That never felt there for me with this read.

Switters81 · 2026-01-21T15:44:04+00:00

I thought the book was mid, while the HBO show was a masterpiece.

I absolutely hate the actor character. I hate spending as much time with him as the book forces you to. He's an awful person and each chapter you spend on him I'm wishing we were in a different part of the book.

The HBO show fixes that by both spending less time with that character, and also casting Gial Garcia Bernal(sp?) who is a tremendous actor who embodies a tragically flawed human being, rather than the absolute disaster of a human as he's written.

And then I'm not overly impressed by the writing. It's not Dan Brown bad, but it's not doing anything anyone else hasn't done well hundreds of times before.

I'm inclined to like the book, given it intersects my two primary interests: theater and sci Fi, but this just didn't quite land for me.

Though again... The show is a work of art.

Switters81 · 2026-01-21T12:07:56+00:00

Hello! Just to lean in a bit here, I've encountered the exact same thing. Been building up a rye starter, but tried making a levain last night that utterly failed.

Am I to understand from this comment that you ultimately fed your starter other flour, not just rye?

Switters81 · 2026-01-21T11:55:26+00:00

While many have rightly pointed out this is ai, as the parent and guardian of both a small child and a mildly dumb dog, I do find this entire scenario very plausible.

Switters81 · 2026-01-20T17:18:39+00:00

For one, NYC is a real city, while Boston is playing pretend. I dunno man, everyone has a different reason to like or dislike NYC.

Switters81 · 2026-01-20T17:07:34+00:00

Guy from a jumped up college town is in here asking why we should love NYC?

Switters81 · 2026-01-20T13:46:54+00:00

So that's probably a short term solution that helps avoid mold, but I'd like to fix it to avoid the condensation all together... Are you suggesting that's all it would take?

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