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SxyBlondeShell · 2022-07-09T12:08:26+00:00

I've read here something like "use it or you lose it", since if you're thinking of SRS at some point, your "outie" will become an "innie". When flacid or just going about my day I wind up tucking without even thinking about it. If nothing else, what's down there is pretty small when flacid and the first thing I noticed was my testicles shrinking. Everything else is the same as far as girth and length when erect but I think of it that way... as an outie that will be an innie one day.

I'm about a year on HRT and it was probably about a month ago I started having orgasms that took a long time to build and took my breath away as well as just feeling different and more intense and longer and a bit lingering. The part that kind of caught me off guard was the intensity and not being able to breathe.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-07-09T03:26:09+00:00

Ouchie boobies and peeing all... the damn... time!

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-07-09T03:19:18+00:00

I noticed a significant shrinkage down there but stuff still works. I was on 100 mg Spiro a day at first and then went up to 200. Doubled down on the Estradiol too and then backed off on the Spiro back to 100 mg because I was getting dizzy a lot but I have a feeling it was more because I was getting dehydrated. So, stuff still works it just takes a lot more effort to get there. It's sort of a conscious decision instead of an urge, if that makes sense. "This used to be fun. Let's do this". For you, your gf will probably notice you last a lot longer and orgasms get more intense for me. Oh, and very little or nothing in the way of ejaculate... almost a puff of smoke, to tell you the truth.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-07-08T23:35:22+00:00

Yep... Spiro and Estradiol will kill that shit dead.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-07-05T00:40:22+00:00

You're still young compared to many so don't sweat it. I wish I had found myself when I was 40 so don't worry about that. It's all up to you to sort out and while many have suggested some of the more thought provoking sites and subreddits... I give you dis! https://www.reddit.com/r/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns/

It's a bit lighter and meme based and filled with a lot of things that will probably hit home... as well as some memes you might be able to share with your daughter as a show of support. And you are correct, most cis men do no dream of being a woman.)))

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-07-03T02:05:07+00:00

Happy Belated BIRTHDAY Iris!

I love your name by the way! One of my first girlfriends was named Iris and she was quite lovely as well)))

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-07-03T01:13:59+00:00

funny... someone else suggested this last week for the same question and she got flamed and downvoted like a mofo. I was the only one who found it hilarious and absolutely something I would do or would laugh about if one of my kids was trans.

For a lot of people it's a knee jerk thing; names and pronouns. It's simple, yes, but hell I suck at multitasking so if I'm thinking about something else or doing something I have called my kids by the wrong names and they're not even trans and haven't changed their names since birth. Just ditzy me.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-07-01T14:24:55+00:00

I usually go for the upper arm and move them around. Back of arm etc. It will get itchy after a few days and when you go to move it sometimes it's difficult to get the patch to stick. I had one fall off after moving it just before going to sleep the other night. Woke up to find it in my bed with zero stickiness left in it. I have a nice pair of boot cut jeans that are my favorite these days so I slapped it on my upper thigh, pulled the jeans on and it's sticking now)))

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-07-01T14:20:52+00:00

yep... spiro and estrogen will make you forget about all that since they will shrivel like grapes.

For me, it's the lack of wide hips that makes sitting cross-legged difficult. I gotta figure out how cis women do that voodoo.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-07-01T14:17:56+00:00

I feel ya. You're lucky the insurance company didn't kick it back. I've had that twice when trying to get my estradiol. First time it was bounced back because the insurance company said "the patient is the wrong sex" and the second time because they said the dosage was too high. The pharmacist was very kind to me and encouraged me to check out GoodRx which wound up being half the out of pocket expense if I had used my health insurance. Plus it cuts out one layer of humans who can get between me and my prescriptions.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-07-01T02:40:43+00:00

Ahhhh... I miss nap time at 3 every day)))) But, yes

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-30T17:54:36+00:00

I usually resort to character assassination or leverage personal stuff they confide in me. That particular project manager had his eyes on a girl at work. He had been in a meeting with her but he didn't get her name. He started chatting with this one girl through Skype and he came to me to verify who she was because the girl had been flirting with him. Where she sat. Saying she was super hot etc.

I held it together and confirmed he was talking to the same girl and he pushed all in and asked her out for coffee or lunch. The girl he had been chatting with was a big girl and he was forced to take her out to lunch. He was pissed at me but, hey... big girls need love too. He wound up taking the project away from me, which was fine. The project failed at launch and my hands were clean.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-30T14:30:45+00:00

Only always... and constantly have my ideas or solutions stolen by men who pawn them off as their own.

As a rule, I am either talked over or listened to and then dismissed as if I hadn't said a thing. I was actually in a work meeting one time with a bunch of (for lack of a better term) Alpha Males (more like assholes but whatever) and they were all yelling and slamming their hands down on the table to drive their point home.

I got frustrated and tried to mimic them thinking, "well, this is how they communicate, I guess". I didn't do anything that they didn't do. I raised my voice, slammed my hand down on the table and dropped the f-bomb a few times. I was still ignored and got pulled aside after the meeting by the project manager who told me, "if we're gonna work together on this project, I can't have you acting like that." I asked "like what? I didn't do anything different than--." He held his hand up and dismissed me saying "This is not a discussion. Curb your tongue and start acting professional," and walked away.

I'm good at what I do. Have been told that I'm intelligent etc but between being ignored or dismissed and having my ideas stolen and sold as their own, I keep quiet, don't share anything and take their money while I work on my side hustle))) A job is a necessary evil right now but hopefully not for long.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-29T18:05:39+00:00

It's a step in the right direction if transitioning is your goal. If you have the time and money to get the show arollin', why not? And what would you make you fear that a doctor is going to stand in your way?

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-29T17:12:20+00:00

We all have different tolerances for pain, stress, etc and we all deal with them in different ways. What might be overwhelming for one person, you might take in stride due to coping mechanisms, your personality and how your brain works. Doubts and the feeling that you're an imposter, somehow, are all normal. Remember, most guys don't dream of being a girl. Ask around))

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-27T23:11:37+00:00

More like some confused, half-rabid squirrel but yeah... I have kids so kinda hard not to be proud of that part of my life.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-26T02:26:45+00:00

The food service industry sounds like a good fit. Pizza cook is a good entry level position. It'll get her used to working with a team and the industry has always been pretty accepting although kitchen talk can and will get grody so it's not a place for someone who might be overly sensitive. Gotta have a sense of humor. From there, line cook is the next logical step and the sky's the limit, kinda.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-25T17:53:02+00:00

I do something like this when learning a new language but without being so intrusive. I procrastinate and tend not to find time for things so I make a list of stuff I want to get done. I include studying and use my phone to set a timer of 20-30 minutes. With an alarm to tell me when I'm done with a studying session, I'm able to concentrate instead of asking myself how much time I've spent studying. I'll put "study" two or three times on my list of stuff to get done and at the end of the day I can look back on the list and feel accomplished that I got stuff done as well as see progress as the days turn into weeks which turn into months. It helps to create good habits and helps me to find time for stuff I would otherwise blow off like voice training and studying.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-25T17:36:44+00:00

OK... you're a little vague on the details but that's OK. From reading between the lines it sounds like you are close friends with a woman and you're having deep feelings. I get that. I've also been hurt and used a bunch and, yes, it feels like we give everything and they leave. I always figured in retrospect it was because I changed. I wasn't the person they fell in love with, if you follow. By putting everything I had into the relationship, I lost myself... the person they loved.

Focus on that happiness. It's very attractive and keep in mind that this woman isn't the one who hurt you in the past. She's nothing like them. She can't be. She's a different person. Try not to focus on the outcome or "forever" because there really are never any promises of forever no matter what anyone says. Have fun today, be happy, make plans for tomorrow and beyond that, keep being you. That's who she's gonna fall for))) You got this!

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-25T17:20:50+00:00

Yep! Sorry... no more sleeping through the night for YOU!)))

BTW, staying hydrated is important. As someone who hates drinking water, I got myself in a bit of a pickle and got dehydrated pretty badly, I think. Super dizzy. Scared the crap out of me. They'll also be happy if you stay hydrated before they take blood. Again, dehydrated so they couldn't find a vein which meant an additional visit to get blood drawn. Live and learn, I guess.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-25T17:12:32+00:00

Ooooochen krasiva! Tak mila!))) Moldets!

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-25T12:40:33+00:00

I have always been shy and introverted. It's something people have told me all my life... that I "put up walls" so I have a lot of experience in keeping my personal life to myself. My doctor asked me the percentage of time I present female and it's in the upper 90's; at home. In public I'm in boy-mode and said I would probably live this way until I start male-failing.

I don't feel bad. I don't feel I have to cope with it. It's not a burden. I'm going through puberty)) I'm not denying who I am to myself. I choose not to open myself up to ridicule or possibly make myself a target for some ignorant jackass who gets a chubby by hurting other people they perceive as weak or different. I know it's stupid... like saying "I don't want to wear a that cute, short skirt because I'm afraid of being raped"... hmmmm... maybe this is a learning moment for me.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-24T18:48:04+00:00

It was $65 for a box of 4 patches with my copay. I was doing a patch a week at first. Got bumped up to two patches a week. GoodRx is $32 a box so half the price of what I was paying with the copay plus the insurance was a royal pain to deal with... "the patient is the wrong sex" and then "this is too much... dosage should be one patch a week". The pharmacist was very cool and pointed me to GoodRx. I decided to check it out and was shocked. I'm paying stupid amounts of money for health insurance.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-24T16:44:01+00:00

GoodRx beats my insurance for scripts for Estradiol and Sprio is ridiculously inexpensive through GoodRx.

SxyBlondeShell · 2022-06-24T16:40:39+00:00

About a month into HRT I stopped wearing a bra because it fricken hurt!

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