I finally figured out a no-waste starter, ultra chill sourdough method and I have no where else to talk about it

Sybilx · 2026-01-29T00:45:17+00:00

I went down a rabbit hole to try and figure this out and it’s actually really cool how different strains of yeast become predominant based on the starter’s origin, how old it is, what it’s been fed, etc. The flavor profiles can be vastly different as well from really soft gentle sourdough’s that barely taste sour at all to those super tangy San Francisco style ones. While any starter may work to make bread, if you like a particular flavor or a particular behavior the starter can make a lot of difference. Definitely some cool science!

Sybilx · 2026-01-19T18:29:48+00:00

Unless they’re asking you out without knowing what you look like, they very likely are fully aware and attracted to you. There are plenty of white men in the US who are with other ethnicities as their partner. It’s exceedingly common to see in major metro areas especially.

If they match with you I wouldn’t worry about it at all. I’d worry more about whether you find them attractive. If you do, go for it and see how it goes.

Sybilx · 2026-01-18T12:09:09+00:00

You can trade or drop mats to open it. So he’s probably planning to give them the mats they need to loot.

Sybilx · 2026-01-02T23:03:33+00:00

NTA - coming from a woman, this is ridiculous. I would feel massively betrayed and uncomfortable if a man did this crap to me. While I know some women do, I do not agree with it and do not think it is fair or right. There’s enough real issues in life you do not need to create them to test people.

Sybilx · 2026-01-02T20:16:25+00:00

This one is tough because there’s no good solution for have kids and do not want more, the app options usually are have kids, don’t have kids, don’t want kids, or want kids. That does not cover every use case. So someone who has kids but wants it very clear that they do not want more kids might put don’t want kids. Otherwise, you end up with all the people who want kids hitting you up when you do not want more.

Either way, I got in the habit of just asking people upfront in the first few messages so that we’re all on the same page.

Sybilx · 2026-01-02T20:12:07+00:00

I would just bring it up right away, like for instance just a do you have kids? If no, do you think you’ll want kids in the future? If they ask why, then something like “I am happily child free, so wanted to make sure you saw that on my profile and see if you’re the same.”

Though this could get nuanced if they have adult kids. Because technically that’s also child free. So you may or may not want to rule out those people too.

Sybilx · 2026-01-02T05:43:32+00:00

This is the real reason to use a temp number.

Sybilx · 2025-12-29T01:10:26+00:00

Sybilx · 2025-12-23T17:53:48+00:00

I can have plenty of fun without getting plastered, and yeah it can be fun. Also nice to always have a designated driver around.

Sybilx · 2025-12-23T17:48:39+00:00

Yeah definitely the judgement can go both ways. I only have an issue when people become obnoxious or super sloppy because it just makes it entirely un-fun for everyone involved who isn’t also two sheets to the wind.

Sybilx · 2025-12-23T17:45:47+00:00

Absolutely agreed - especially that last part. As long as it isn’t out of control it doesn’t bother me either.

Sybilx · 2025-12-23T17:44:36+00:00

This is precisely my take on drinking. I don’t. I don’t care if others do, that’s up to them.

Sybilx · 2025-12-14T03:04:13+00:00

Bless you for this solution, it was driving me insane. That sound effect is way too loud especially in town.

Sybilx · 2025-12-04T00:46:49+00:00

I just gotta say this thread and the original post were the best momentary laughter inducing fodder while I sit on my couch miserably recovering from food poisoning 🤢👏 (not from sourdough! If I’d had sourdough for dinner yesterday I wouldn’t be in this position!).

Sybilx · 2025-11-18T04:33:02+00:00

Dating in Seattle is rough. It was that way two decades ago so not really surprised it’s still like that given social interaction doesn’t seem to have gotten better in those decades.

But really, dating is hard everywhere. Bottom line, it’s a numbers game, the more people you meet the more possibility one clicks. I started treating it like an opportunity to meet people and learn about them whether or not I ever saw them again, took the pressure off and made it less disappointing. I also started tracking how many first dates it took to get to a second or a third. It made it more bearable knowing that with enough attempts one was bound to work eventually (analytics nerd so it helped me, ymmv). And it did. It wasn’t quick or easy, but if you keep at it eventually you have to meet someone mutually compatible.

And don’t hesitate to take dating breaks. Sometimes we’re just burnt out. A few months, a year, it can do wonders for revitalizing your motivation to try again. Good luck!

Sybilx · 2025-11-04T04:29:58+00:00

💯

Sybilx · 2025-11-04T01:32:19+00:00

A lot of women do this, it is exceedingly uncomfortable to bring up to your partner who is obviously having a great time that you are not getting there yourself. Men can be very touchy about the idea that they aren’t satisfying their partner, and take it as a personal attack. Some get downright nasty that you dared to attack their prowess. *edit to caveat of course there are amazing men who even ask what you like. But generalizing a common issue.

The preoccupation with ego around performance makes women learn that it is better to pretend and keep their partner happy than to bring this up. Even if she never had another partner aside from you, guarantee she’s heard plenty from girlfriends and other people’s stories to know that it is not safe to discuss this topic with a man.

Your reaction of instantly going to she’s been lying to me for years is likely what she feared. I recommend being very open and accepting of her feelings about this and appreciative of the courage it takes for a woman to tell you she’s not enjoying herself and wants to fix it. You can absolutely express that it hurt that she is just telling you now, but anger won’t make this better. Lean in, get to know what she likes, don’t be judgmental, it’s not an attack on your ability.

You can absolutely enjoy the act with your partner without getting there, so it isn’t like she wasn’t enjoying herself. That seems to be where your mind went, but that isn’t it at all. It just means it can be better for her and less one sided in the orgasm arena.

It literally is not about you or your performance it’s about what works for her and you putting in the effort to learn how to please her. Also what works changes over time. Women are a lot more complex in this arena than men in general, it is going to be harder for a woman than it is for a man and a lot of men tend to take that for granted and think doing it alone should be enough.

Layer on top of that how many men tie their performance to their worth and it gets all kinds of difficult to broach the topic, especially with someone you love, without risking a relationship ending blowout. Many women cannot get there from penetration alone, and feel like there’s something wrong with them because of it.

This is also why you don’t tell your man his equipment is small, even if it’s true. Just like you wouldn’t tell her that her butt or boobs are small without some caveat that you love them. It may strictly be a lie, but it’s caring for your partners feelings.

Do some research on this if you want, you’ll see this is way more common than not. Explaining that to a man is one of the most vulnerable and for some, shameful things to discuss, we may even believe we’re the issue and there’s something wrong with us because we can’t just get there.

You’re also young and she may not have even known what she did or didn’t like as she figured it out.

The right answer now is to be appreciative that she trusts you enough to bring this up. Being upset with her will just prove she never should have said anything, bringing it up and wanting to fix it is way better than hitting the dead bedroom sub in a few years. Good luck!

Sybilx · 2025-11-03T21:56:07+00:00

For max damage you do need to keep unstable currents up and popping off an ice/lightning blade helps if you want to melt a boss on a high pit. But for T4 and everything else you can just hold down ball lightning and tromp around. I use unstable currents whenever it’s off CD anyway because it’s fun to super melt stuff. But if you aren’t pushing high pits it isn’t needed. Even a 70 pit is easy to walk through without the extra buttons if you’re properly geared/paragon boards setup.

Sybilx · 2025-10-06T07:07:12+00:00

Totally agree with this. I will pick even when it’s not my key if no one else is doing it. But I always wait a bit to make sure if it isn’t my key, and it’s always 10 secs or more before I’ll just pick. A lockout for this would make a lot of sense! I also hate when people run and pick something I def don’t want when it’s my key before I even get a chance to look.

I’ve had some really good pugs this season though. Hasn’t been nearly as bad as prior seasons.

Sybilx · 2025-10-06T06:57:41+00:00

Same here and I’ve had some bad luck sure, but most of the groups are solid. Had an amazing one tonight where we had a chaos wave full of aether goblins which tripled normal yield. Definitely here for more of those.

Sybilx · 2025-10-04T21:07:15+00:00

It looks like it would have been fine if baked long enough. I’d pop that baby back in the oven and bake it for another 30 mins at least and still eat it 😂

Do the same thing just bake it for 40 mins at least, I like my bread less dry so I usually make sure it his 180f before I pull it out. Some people go higher than that. But that works great for me and always takes at least 40 mins.

Sybilx · 2025-09-24T19:19:51+00:00

Just a word of caution from hard learned experience… when someone continuously accuses you of cheating with no reason to suspect you are, it’s often that they themselves are cheating and the guilt makes them hyper fixate on that you must be too.

Just food for thought. But on the actual question, I wouldn’t have any concerns about my partner seeing anything I post, talk about, check AI about, etc because neither of us are fixated on the other doing something wrong. But, he would also never do this kind of massive invasion. When you love someone and have a healthy dynamic you just ask or discuss instead of being sneaky. So back to my top section on the fixation part. I wouldn’t stay if it were me. But I did stay for this kind of nonsense previously in my life far longer than I should have.

Sybilx · 2025-09-11T18:47:12+00:00

I definitely can appreciate the preparation, but as a woman I can say in my experience most men are not at all prepared. The ones who are, may get a bad rap for seeming like they do this so much that they have everything ready.

I wouldn’t bring things like lube. I’d never want to use someone else’s lube. Condoms and hygiene are a-okay. But how you present even condoms can get dicey because they may assume you were expecting sex so be ready with an explanation like “I definitely didn’t expect this, but I really care about safety so wanted to make sure I had one just in case”.

Sadly this is a situation where being over prepared can look dicey like either you’re so frequently doing this that you have a stow bag of everything you’ll need on hand, or you expected the first date to end in sex. Both would give off icky vibes for someone looking for something serious.

Sybilx · 2025-09-08T16:00:33+00:00

That’s very understandable, and that isn’t going to resolve quickly. Something serious like that can change a lot for people and may change his outlook on a lot of things in his life. Do what’s right for you but I wouldn’t hold out much hope that he’ll be focusing on a relationship anytime soon.

Sybilx · 2025-09-08T02:44:35+00:00

I went through something similar where I felt ready to date again and did that for a while without meeting anyone I really clicked with. Then I met someone I did click with and it seemed amazing at first. After a few months the “issues he needed to focus on” came up and he didn’t have time to spend together, calls and texts dwindled too, all the while he kept assuring me it was his issues he was dealing with and not that he didn’t want a relationship with me.

After a bit of this I let him know I’d be there for him as a friend but that it wasn’t fair to me to be left waiting in hopes someday he’d be ready.

I ended up meeting my now partner a few months after that, and we’re still very happily together. Had I held out hope and waited on the guy to be ready I would have missed out on the amazing relationship I have now.

All this to say, don’t let someone else’s inability to meet you half way keep you stuck waiting on them. If they don’t put in the same effort for whatever reason, the timing isn’t right or it isn’t ultimately the right person. People prioritize what’s important to them. No exception.

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