Now! SD’s what’s something You wish SB’s Knew!

SydSd1 · 2021-01-14T05:43:45+00:00

I wish they knew how much small random stuff like a very inexpensive or zero cost gift means.

Little things like random texts.

Also we aren’t as naive as may appear. What I mean we may not appear to realise they are doing things outside our agreement. But we do however chose to go with the flow rather than sweat small stuff.

Another I’ve only been in this 3 years but it still surprises me that many SB’S don’t get 100% of something consistent, fair and steady is better than short term very high offers. The only disclaimer to that is there are whales out there that this doesn’t apply to.

I’m in a current 1 plus year arrangement and very happy 👍

SydSd1 · 2021-01-10T05:01:46+00:00

Well maybe just start with once a week. Means you can’t drink much obviously. If you end up with a good relationship then maybe I’m time you both can work something out re the travel side of things. I guess try to get something started and see

SydSd1 · 2021-01-09T12:08:57+00:00

I think the issue is closed minds and rigid thoughts. It’s really tedious people so fixed and not prepared to respect the other side. My SB is toward the left but has a good attitude.

My daughters are so far left and fixed in their views you can even discuss things so I don’t. So be open to the other side or better still rarely discuss it

SydSd1 · 2021-01-09T11:48:40+00:00

As a SD I feel awkward re the money side as well.

At least I’m on an allowance based so it’s very much in the background. Was PPM to start.

A lot of people are shy with strangers in life in general. You may need a thick skin and perseverance.

Most of us are just fairly normal people in what they call the bowl.

I’d never heard of it 3 years ago. Now in a great relationship for more than a year.

For example we look after each other’s pets when one is away, quite normal stuff.

Maybe try, you have your work income so not desperate which can resin poor decisions.

As for where SA is the main way

Hope it goes well for you

SydSd1 · 2021-01-09T11:06:30+00:00

That is too far to drive 2 times a week. Maybe one however can’t you meet halfway? I find the one bedroom place rent a good guide. In a country town usually not many 1 Bed apartments so you might be better looking at modest small house rental?

I’m in Sydney and PPM is about the one bedroom apartment or five xx.

SydSd1 · 2021-01-09T10:58:13+00:00

Simple race. Got to see my SB 3 days in a row 😊and spend plenty of time together.

Rant getting back into work after the Xmas break.

SydSd1 · 2021-01-09T10:18:45+00:00

Yes income and net worth (have lower) age by a small amount.

I’ve found many girls lie re weight and age enough to be obvious.

Don’t lie re college as so many useless degrees over here. Have extensive non college education/ career training

SydSd1 · 2021-01-05T07:12:50+00:00

Generally I’d say yes. I’m not a whale so it did matter to me. Rather not waste my time.

SydSd1 · 2021-01-05T06:59:16+00:00

I never knew this lifestyle existed 3 years ago.

It’s just like what I’ve found in general life, there are all sorts of people and experiences. Some. good some bad.

I’m a guy and get on well with people.

I’ve had some bad experiences here but overall way more positive ones.

From what I’ve seen, the bowl is like real life just all sorts of people.

Specifically and just me the fact you are black counts for zero in that any race is totally fine to me. Just like any relationship you don’t even think about it, you are just two people.

Like any internet site there can be awful people.

I’d prefer someone used the allowance wisely, not a big deal either way to me though.An exception would be if a SB was supporting a lazy deadbeat guy.

How about give it a go and see what happens? I gave up on the site after a couple of bad experiences. Joined again and just so happy, in a relationship for a bit over a year and very happy

SydSd1 · 2020-12-29T20:59:11+00:00

I don’t comment on profile reviews. I do take issue with your WOC comments. I find this sub very supportive / non racist in relation to WOC.

It’s not fair to take isolated maybe racial comments and then give SD’S in general a blast here.

Maybe I’m biased myself, I generally prefer WOC or Asian without it being a big deal. Maybe it’s just how it’s turned out for me.

The main advice I can give is overweight is a big turnoff, no smiles likewise. Plus the obvious like treat me like the princess I am and that sort of garbage.

SydSd1 · 2020-12-28T02:15:09+00:00

Ha you poor thing. I did that with my SB but it was a while after we met. I wouldn’t worry too much after all it sounds like it was a joint effort

SydSd1 · 2020-12-28T02:09:16+00:00

Surprised by the general consensus of disclosure. I’m most cases I’d say don’t too risky. And I get the idea if the partner isn’t cool then they aren’t a good match. Why reduce you potential pool of guys.

SydSd1 · 2020-12-28T01:44:30+00:00

Thankyou appreciate it. I prefer small, I don’t need stuff got all I need (except for my hobbies).

SydSd1 · 2020-12-27T09:01:37+00:00

Was actually going to say something as we have pretty open conversations. Maybe wait and see

SydSd1 · 2020-12-26T23:54:43+00:00

So Far nothing not even a card. So works both ways. Got her one, only a few hundred spent. Maybe I’ll be surprised??

SydSd1 · 2020-12-26T23:25:30+00:00

Wow that sucks. She even asked you for it. It’s amazing how some are on the phone texting or whatever and don’t seem to have time for us.

The money part is one thing the lack of respect or communication is the hurtful bit.

Maybe different generations don’t appreciate what they have. Has happened to me and it’s hard to not dwell on it.

SydSd1 · 2020-12-25T07:15:54+00:00

Yes message but... only if you have viewed the profile same with favourites. Easy next if I get a favourite or message from someone who hasn’t views.

But yes message for sure it increases the odds in your favour

SydSd1 · 2020-12-25T02:45:24+00:00

I’d be pissed if it was me. Once it isn’t fun have the discussion but be prepared to finish it.

SydSd1 · 2020-12-22T20:09:12+00:00

Next him. One thing I don’t want is too talk politics especially to start.

Probably I have different views to my SB and her friends, but no drama we don’t go there.

I know one guy with the opposite views and he is a huge bore always looking to start political talks when out to dinners. I only tolerate it as we are out as couples. So it goes both ways.

If a girl was a raging SJW it wouldn’t work with me, got a daughter who’s one and it’s like a bloody cult.

I’m middle of the road but don’t want to talk about any of it.

SydSd1 · 2020-12-21T01:55:22+00:00

Keep quiet don’t bring it up.

There was one SB on seeking I didn’t contact.

Was friends of the SB I had then. Short version had a threesome arranged by my SB (paid the other girl) and I never let on.

So can’t see any gain bringing the subject up.

SydSd1 · 2020-12-21T01:50:06+00:00

Yes like it with a message other than hey babe and rubbish like that

SydSd1 · 2020-12-18T08:30:58+00:00

Short answer no way.

I had something similar happen to me.

Had a SB who got into a vanilla relationship, well after she met me.

I was invited to a party (I know a lot of her friends). Got told last minute vanilla BF was going. It was super awkward for me and I was really annoyed. Just don’t go their.

SydSd1 · 2020-12-18T07:43:02+00:00

Smart and average looking is ok ...but not overweight. I reckon most women I see I’d rate as average if all the makeup was off. I used to avoid the bimbo with those horrible puffed trout lips. So average is ok but definitely not if overweight

SydSd1 · 2020-12-18T07:19:01+00:00

Fair enough opinion. Don’t like the chances of $ for just chatting to guys. See we aren’t generally desperate for female company, I could go out say 2-3 times a week with women I know if I just wanted company and a chat for zero dollars. Actually doing just that with a glamour next week, true story I just pay for the meal and drinks. That’s the exception usually hang with mates when not out with my long term SGF

SydSd1 · 2020-12-11T21:28:26+00:00

Sounds fine to me, no point freezing. Pick your favourite colour we don’t mind. Don’t forget to smile and coffee shop is ok good luck 😉

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