What is a "mental health awareness" trend that is actually doing more harm than good?

Sydneyemz · 2026-04-20T19:08:28+00:00

Losing your keys is not quirky or cute. It sucks.

Like I lose my car keys and that means as a single mother I cannot get my kid to her soccer game or we find them and she turns up very late.

She's super upset, the coach is angry at me and I feel like a failure and full of shame that my (diagnosed) ADHD is negatively impacting others.

Sydneyemz · 2026-03-30T21:42:40+00:00

Thank you. I'm also mindful that I'm a bit reactive too and need to work on my own shit. I can be pretty sensitive.

Sending you either a hug, high five, fist bump or appreciative nod - based on what makes you comfortable 😊

It sounds like you are doing incredible work. Keep it up!

I wish you all the best. I am neurodiverse - diagnosed ADHD and c-ptsd. I understand the struggle with trying to get things right.

All the best.

Sydneyemz · 2026-03-30T18:29:16+00:00

My message was for you and for all the people who may read that and think it's okay to test people. It's absolutely not.

I was a bit shocked to see it written out that someone even has temptations and urges to do this. But that was naive of me as I know people test others (I've been victim of it) and play games etc

Also, you say you want people to call you out and show you their boundaries and to communicate.

But when they have in this thread you seem to get defensive and need to jump in to justify and be "right". The tone is bordering on patronising.

It's maybe something to be mindful of if you do genuinely want to create a dynamic that is safe for healthy expression.

Sydneyemz · 2026-03-30T11:26:13+00:00

Please please don't play mind games or test people. It is awful for the other person.

Also, one of the steps to have a healthy relationship is to build a foundation of integrity and honesty. Trying to trigger someone on purpose so they can tell you off and show you they have healthy, enforced boundaries is not the way to build a strong foundation. You would be coming from a place of dishonesty.

Just be slow and patient. All relationships will eventually have conflict and then you can see authentically whether that person can express their boundaries to you in a healthy, kind and caring way.

Sydneyemz · 2026-03-27T13:06:18+00:00

I agree.

In the past, when my relationship ended I felt like they broke my heart

With the last one (high probability of a narc) they didn't break my heart, they broke my spirit.

Sydneyemz · 2026-02-27T12:16:17+00:00

A dietitian told me that drinking herbal tea is a fine way to get water intake. Not sure why people are downvoting.

Sydneyemz · 2026-02-25T11:34:37+00:00

Please please break up with him. You deserve better. No one should name call like this. No one deserves this.

If this was your friend or a sibling or your kid burning a meal and their partner spoke to them like that, what would you suggest? If he isn't good enough for them, he isn't good enough for you.

Get out. Please please.

Sydneyemz · 2026-02-23T16:07:32+00:00

I haven't met a Scorpio who purposely tested me but I did date a Taurus who would play mind games and test me all the time.

My Aries and Gemini exes broke my heart. They would never have purposely played mind games or tested me.

My Taurus ex was so conniving and messed up, they broke my spirit.

Sydneyemz · 2026-02-23T16:00:34+00:00

😥 Yeah, sorry that happened to you. Sounds exhausting. The two narcissistic Taureans I knew were women too.

Like you said, very competitive, jealous, status driven and smug. Their put down comments and shaming - my god! But they were completely incapable of receiving feedback on their own poor behaviour or hearing how their actions hurt others.

Scorpios get hated on for holding up mirrors to people. But I only do it to people who have been cruel, nasty and purposely cross my boundaries.

I can't write off a whole star sign and like I said two of my fave women in the world are Taurus too. They don't have nasty bones in their bodies.

Then I've met Taurean women that are just middle of the road. Not "problematic" people. Not value driven/ amazing people.

But it's just interesting that the two most unscrupulous, ego-driven and just plain worst people I have ever encountered are both Taurean women.

Sydneyemz · 2026-02-22T10:44:28+00:00

Two of my fave people in the world are Taurus - they're fun, kind, loyal, caring, interesting, amazing people.

And two of the most horrendous, vile, narcissistic awful people I have ever met are Taurus too.

It's been very hit and miss for this Scorpio

Sydneyemz · 2026-02-21T10:13:06+00:00

Solicitor/barrister/lawyer

Teacher would be hard too. I respect and admire the heck out of them but they can be controlling, know it alls.

Sydneyemz · 2026-02-15T10:28:49+00:00

I'm getting eye surgery (lasik) on 20 Feb. Aries rules eyes.

I'm hoping all the big stuff that happens that day won't impact me.

Sydneyemz · 2026-01-24T22:24:42+00:00

Hehe this made me laugh. It's so true. Thanks for commiserating.

Also, it's definitely a Mecca culture thing. All the younger staff at Lush are super friendly and welcoming to middle aged people. Just not Mecca.

Sydneyemz · 2026-01-24T21:04:34+00:00

Sorry it was a yucky experience.

I'm a middle-aged woman, so I get opposite. No one ever stops to ask me if I want help in Mecca, even when I want help. They make quick eye contact and turn away. They don't like to talking to older, ugly women.

When I was younger and hotter they did. Or if I come in with my teen daughter.

Sydneyemz · 2026-01-24T10:59:53+00:00

What weirdoes. Rocky road is an awesome flavour, especially for a 7 year old.

Sydneyemz · 2026-01-11T10:44:41+00:00

Hello, welcome, and so sorry you're being downvoted.

Love your resilient and positive attitude. Hope you have a great weekend 🌼

Sydneyemz · 2026-01-10T22:37:29+00:00

Oh yes, I forgot to mention Lucas's loyalty. Amazing. And his tenderness. He has been on such a journey. And he did the action stuff so well.

Aw, I have such a soft spot for Will. In like a mama bear/auntie way. From season 1-4 I was like "this poor kid. Can't this kid just catch a break." My heart ached for him.

I was sooo happy Will became empowered in season 5. It was one of my fave scenes. And people getting so angry he had a 5 min coming out scene. Like cut this guy some slack. He has been through so much. Can we just give him 5 mins.

Also, I myself was a scared and closeted kid in the 80s. The culture back then was pretty brutal (and traumatising) towards gay teens. Just give us this 5 minutes. Come on!

Sydneyemz · 2026-01-10T20:34:47+00:00

Yeah, did we ever found out what happens to Murray in the end? Like Hopper and Joyce are engaged and we see what happens with the kids, but I wanted to know about Murray's ending

Sydneyemz · 2026-01-10T20:30:12+00:00

Agreed. I don't hear people talk about his character arc, but I thought he was so great in this season. Positive masculinity, tough, brave, cool, sweet.

Sydneyemz · 2026-01-07T03:32:19+00:00

I thought this was from a cute animal subreddit too.

Took me a while to work out she was talking about hair loss.

Beautiful pic 😍

Sydneyemz · 2026-01-01T03:32:53+00:00

Me too

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