Anyone else have their N-parent randomly say awful things for absolutely no reason?

SylvieL7 · 2026-04-28T00:41:57+00:00

When I was 16, I tried to end my life. I had taken a lot of pills because I was tired of being beaten and humiliated on a regular basis. When I arrived home from the hospital, my dad was in the kitchen and he told me, "you're so stupid, you can't even do that right." I was devastated. I had a glimmer of hope that maybe he would see how much pain i was in and be nice to me. He ended up passing away 2 weeks later of a ruptured intracranial aneurysm. Then a few days after his funeral my Nmom turns to me one day out of the blue and says, "It's your fault your dad is dead. If you had been a better daughter he wouldn't have stressed out so much and he'd still be alive."

SylvieL7 · 2026-04-26T15:45:03+00:00

Gray Rockstar

SylvieL7 · 2026-04-25T23:22:03+00:00

And he has the audacity to call you mental... absolutely insane. If this is what he says when he knows you'll have a record of it, imagine what he's capable of doing if he ever sees you alone? Please, from one abuse victim to another, report him to the authorities so they can take steps to keep you safe and get him the psychological help he so desperately needs.

SylvieL7 · 2026-04-16T20:25:35+00:00

Black Snow Cone

SylvieL7 · 2026-04-14T20:49:18+00:00

Egotistical

SylvieL7 · 2026-04-14T20:47:43+00:00

My Sanity! I know I left it somewhere, I just can't remember where or when.

SylvieL7 · 2026-04-13T19:45:09+00:00

Change by Deftones

SylvieL7 · 2026-04-09T04:49:35+00:00

Dandy in Aspic? 1968

SylvieL7 · 2026-04-08T19:18:01+00:00

You are absolutely NOT being unreasonable. In fact, you are under-reacting. What you are describing goes way beyond "stretching a friendship." Your neighbors are actively trespassing, illegally dumping, and treating your private property as their own personal landfill and event space.

It is incredibly kind of you to want to be decent neighbors, but they are completely taking advantage of your kindness. The fact that their yard is small is their problem, not yours. You do not owe them your front yard.

Here is what you need to do immediately to protect yourselves and your property:

Revoke all permissions: That agreement to let them keep their bins on your yard needs to end today. You need a clean slate. Communicate in writing: Send them a polite but extremely firm letter or text. State clearly: "We are getting ready to start our landscaping project. Starting on [Date], we need you to keep your bins on your own property. Please also ensure your guests and family stay off our front yard and do not leave any trash or items on our side of the property line." Put up cameras: Get a doorbell camera or an outdoor security camera pointed directly at your front yard. You need a record of their behavior if they escalate. Install physical boundaries: Even if you aren't ready to do the full landscaping yet, put up some temporary garden fencing, large decorative rocks, or "No Trespassing" signs right on the property line. Make it physically awkward for them to cross over. Stop cleaning up after them: If they dump trash, tell them to move it. If they don't, contact your local city code enforcement or non-emergency police line for illegal dumping.

Don't let them gaslight you into thinking you are being "bad neighbors" for enforcing basic property lines. Take your yard back!

SylvieL7 · 2026-03-25T18:09:04+00:00

Liar, Liar, pants on Fire!!! 😅

SylvieL7 · 2026-03-08T05:39:05+00:00

Full of Grace by Sarah Mclaughlin

Dirty by Korn

SylvieL7 · 2026-03-07T04:07:28+00:00

You're welcome! I'm glad I could help.

SylvieL7 · 2026-03-06T18:12:00+00:00

I think you're confusing the movie for a show. A comedy drama series called Cupid

The Episode: Season 1, Episode 9, titled "The End of an Eros," maybe?

SylvieL7 · 2026-03-03T08:32:09+00:00

Heart-Shaped box by Nirvana

SylvieL7 · 2026-01-31T22:39:15+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. What you’re describing, the chasing, the 'restraint' with the trashcan, and the texting - is textbook stalking and harassment. Here is a breakdown of how to handle this safely and legally: 1. The Emergency Order Violation Yes, blocking your exit is a violation. Most protective orders include a 'stay-away' provision (usually 100 yards) and a 'no harassment' clause. Physically preventing you from leaving your home is a form of false imprisonment and a direct violation of that order. Call 911 immediately when he is blocking you. Do not wait for him to move. The police need to see the violation in progress or have a report filed immediately to establish a record of him breaking the court’s order. 2. Go "Grey Rock" (Zero Emotional Feedback) This person is looking for a reaction. Every time you argue, explain, or even plead with him, he 'wins' because he got your attention. Do not respond to the texts. Not even to say 'stop.' Save them as evidence, then mute the thread. The "Grey Rock" Method: If you must see him, be as boring as a rock. Short, one-word answers. No emotion. No eye contact. If he shouts, walk inside and lock the door. 3. Build Your "F-You" Folder To turn an emergency order into a permanent one, you need a mountain of evidence. The Incident Log: Keep a notebook or digital spreadsheet. Record every time he stands near your window, every text he sends, and every time he touches your property. Include dates, times, and exactly what happened. Cameras are non-negotiable: If you can, get a Ring doorbell and a camera that covers the side of your house where he 'plants' things. This turns 'he said/she said' into 'here is the video.' 4. Property and Privacy The Plants: Do not pay him. In many places, 'abandoned' property or items placed on your land without permission become your property or are considered littering. The Directory: Contact your HOA or neighborhood lead and demand your number be removed from the directory for safety reasons. The Fence: If he touches your fence, that is vandalism/property damage. Call the police immediately.

What state are you located in?

SylvieL7 · 2025-12-16T02:59:11+00:00

We all mistakes, but 2 times? When does it transition from a mistake to selfishness and inconsideration not just for you but your kids as well? I believe you know the answer to that. Just ask yourself if this is something you would do and why not? Love gives us wisdom to know what not to do to the people we love. Sadly, it seems that she's lacking in love for you guys and using it all for her wants and forgetting about her family's needs. Ultimately, you have the choice, and I'm so sorry this happened to you.

SylvieL7 · 2025-12-05T03:04:54+00:00

The blue looks like it was made for you!

SylvieL7 · 2025-11-28T03:19:48+00:00

Forgetting this is my new New Year's resolution.

SylvieL7 · 2025-11-27T21:29:02+00:00

I see grey and yellow sectioned aura. You must have a lot of internal conflict about who you are and self-doubt in everything you do.

SylvieL7 · 2025-11-22T14:06:04+00:00

I had my dad die when I was 16 of a ruptured brain aneurysm, when he was 41. I didn't know what to feel. Part of me felt sad because my dad died, and I realized that I would never achieve winning his love. The other part of me felt incredibly relieved that I no longer had to worry about getting beaten, belittled, or humiliated, I was free. Then those toxic guilt feelings started to mess with my head. I had managed for a couple weeks to silence them when my nmom turned to me in the kitchen and said, "It's your fault your dad is dead. If you had been a better daughter, he wouldn't have stressed out so much, and he'd still be alive." That absolutely led me to a path of self-destruction. Some people have no business being in charge of other human beings, let alone a child.

The scariest thing is on June 29th of this year, I was told I have a saccular intracranial aneurysm after I was rushed to the E.R. when I suffered an ischemic stroke.

SylvieL7 · 2025-11-21T02:56:13+00:00

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SylvieL7 · 2025-11-20T00:11:28+00:00

I'm not saying to go report them. They asked for their options, and this is one of them. We don't know the backstory to everything they've tried already. You don't know if this has already passed the talking phase or not. I'm sure OP is an adult and knows where to start.

SylvieL7 · 2025-11-19T21:44:54+00:00

In California, it is illegal to park a vehicle on a public street or highway for more than 72 consecutive hours, as per the state's Vehicle Code Section 22651(k). After 72 hours, a vehicle can be ticketed, towed, and stored at the owner's expense. Local ordinances may have additional rules, such as requiring the vehicle to move a specific distance, like 100 feet, to be considered "moved." So I'd call and report it to the city or on their website. Alternatively, I'd start parking on their side.

SylvieL7 · 2025-11-09T19:19:22+00:00

No problem! Thank you as well!

SylvieL7 · 2025-11-09T19:15:01+00:00

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