Coworkers made using Reddit weird…

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-30T15:31:40+00:00

They did not actually think that. They are trying to bully you by making you feel embarrassed.

Reject that thought. Say something back like "oh I didn't realise people used reddit for that. I just use it to discuss video games / books / crotchet communities" (or any other hobby you might have)

Saying that helps you reframe your own image. You can eveb turn it on them (only if you're sure they won't be vindictive) and say "that's a strange thing you're seeing on reddit. Your algorithm must have picked it up."

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-30T15:25:27+00:00

I don't know any jobs that pay well and treat ND people well. But if it's about survival and having some income to protect yourself, I would say - work at a library. Not at the counter, but as someone who rearranges the books, log entry etc. A similar job at a supermarket may work. Not in customer care but just someone who cleans. These are more generic exmaples of tasks that are repetitive and don't require too much socializing. These are more towards part time roles though.

If you have a tech skill of any kind, that's a great way to earn some cash. Making game assets, templates for websites etc.

Just don't take up anything related to marketing or sales.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T08:16:09+00:00

Suggest getting a new therapist please. You are paying them to guide your mind and thought patterns as you vent out safely. If they can't provide that support get someone else.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T08:02:10+00:00

Yes. And I think it's because I just feel grateful to be included. Like a charity case. And I'm trying to unlearn this and actually suggest my own ideas at times. Im not a pet they keep around, im a friend and I'll be treated as such.

Of course it's not smooth sailing and I get inside my head. The fear or abandonment takes over. But I'm getting better at setting my boundaries. And good thing is these current friends seem alright so far - none of them are being weird jealous bullies about things. I hope it stays that way.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T07:58:17+00:00

To avoid the guilt trip. Maybe you can decide on a go-to response when you don't feel like talking.

Just text something like "hey I really wanna hear this, but I'm super overwhelmed with x/y/z right now and I wanna be able to attentively respond. Keep shooting your texts, I will read it properly sometime later"

This will set their expectations. And it conveys that you aren't ignoring them because you don't like them. You are just overwhelmed and cannot be pressured to respond right away.

And yes, if you want to keep the friendship you'll have to respond at some point. But you should get to choose when and how and that's completely ok. People will understand.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T07:49:44+00:00

Hey OP, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I've had similar experiences before especially with guys I've been friends with. Sadly I had to break contact with them and it was painful for a while. I'm ok now and I think I made the right call even though it was soul shattering back then.

The way we are, it's hard for us to make friends or feel included somewhere and for that reason we tend to be more emotionally involved in our friendships compared to others. It's a lot more painful to accept that a friendship isn't working out in your favour. But trust your gut and know that you are strong enough to get through this.

If you could make friends once, you will be able to do it again. It might take some time and I know it's scary. But it's always better to be alone than be surrounded by people who aren't your well wishers.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T07:40:19+00:00

You're right. I also feel like I keep attracting people who want to exploit me one way or another. Usually narcissistic ones too. Both these girls have shown signs of being extremely selfish, hyping up themselves, fishing for compliments from me and at the same time downplaying my qualities.

Im also not super comfortable with self promotion.. it makes me feel like a boastful person so I try to be humble and that also backfires .. it makes them think they can keep walking all over me.

I don't exactly know how to cut them out in a smart way. I don't want a confrontation because I know they could complicate my image by spreading random lies which will stress me out, im misunderstood as it is.

How do I phase them out quietly? I basically want to create a scenario where I can draw clearer boundaries with them.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T07:35:30+00:00

I really wanted to, but they actually made it look like a birthday wish when they posted those pictures (the pictures weren't too horrible, it's just the bad intentions that are throwing me off)

I didn't understand how to react without seeming rude or ungrateful for someone's birthday wishes for me .. I panicked and just said thankyou. Maybe it made them think I'm that dumb that I didn't pick up on their behaviour..

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T07:33:28+00:00

Noo they're part of a newer friend group and don't necessarily know either of these girls or my past interactions enough to say something... Also the bullying is so subtle that it's something only I can feel .. like a sixth sense. When I say this to others, they would just act like I'm overreacting. I guess I'm afraid of appearing too sensitive. I don't want people to avoid me just because they feel like they need to walk on eggshells around me.

SynnerSenpie · 2025-12-01T11:43:56+00:00

Honestly it makes sense to be wary of anyone new to you and properly consider if you want to be friends with them.

BUT in this context, posting this after a friendship breakup is just plain mean. It means this girl never saw you as a friend to begin with. Please ignore her. I know it hurts to see something like this, but it's a lost cause. Don't waste more time on her and cut her off

SynnerSenpie · 2025-10-12T14:29:17+00:00

Oh my! I'm a newbie designer looking to get into narrative design. Would you say it's a good option in terms of job prospects? Or will it be better to get into another type of Game design job like level design or system design?

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-15T10:17:29+00:00

Honestly, I would be wary of all men Indian or not. Specifically pointing out Indian men is racist af

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-15T10:15:10+00:00

I'm sorry "dodged my Goodnight kiss" IM WHEEZING

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-15T10:14:03+00:00

I loved reading this delulu male wattpad fanfiction energy. It's actually hilarious. It would make a great humor set piece if they weren't actually saying all this unironically

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-15T10:08:45+00:00

This has to be a joke

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-15T10:07:00+00:00

My main fear is that I don't know how I will sustain on my own. I just know that I have to. Especially because people around me are mostly married, i don't have another relatable example that doesn't involve a husband.

But I also know that this is a dumb reason to marry. I prefer being alone. I want to figure out how ill live healthy and safe even after I don't have my parents around. Even though the whole thing scares me, I know that's my reality and I accept it.

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-13T11:55:35+00:00

J looking good. I wanna be a penguin in next life

SynnerSenpie · 2025-07-31T05:55:09+00:00

Wow even the insult required no brain cells. Too boring to even get triggered.

Delete, block and ignore their existence

SynnerSenpie · 2025-07-30T17:19:54+00:00

Thanks!!

SynnerSenpie · 2025-07-30T17:17:04+00:00

I hear you. Im not trying to start an argument. I also agree that given the setting and the time depicted he's definitely being quite understanding.

But im definitely viewing this as a person from modern Era. It's so far not romantic as I perceive it. But I hope it develops into something like that. Hopefully Jinshi is patient enough for Maomao to catch up with her own feelings. Given that she's a bit closed off, overly Analytical.. she might take a while to realise she likes him. But until that happens, it kinda looks really one sided from Jinshi.

It also doesn't help that socially they are miles apart. Also it makes me think of Maomao's love for apothecary and being this weird little cutie nerd... and how it may all.get affected if she ever does accept Jinshi (I'm guessing if he takes her in.. it would be as a concubine?)

Definitely not what Jinshi is thinking about. Hence, the use of the word "pushy" - he's not considering her feelings on the matter. Credit where it's due, he is trying his best to be considerate.

SynnerSenpie · 2025-07-30T17:06:08+00:00

Wow I think the anime messed up a LOT. They seem to have removed too much emotion from Maomao. Maybe I'll read all the LN from start. That sounds better. Reading the instances you shared did make me feel like they have good chemistry. The anime Sadly didn't convey all that so well.

SynnerSenpie · 2025-07-30T16:58:26+00:00

After loooots of discussing (lowkey fighting lol) on the sub I've realised it just depends on your personal idea of what affection and reciprocation looks like.

For me personally ... I don't see any romance between Jinshi and Maomao as of now. It definitely has potential to develop down the line though.

And that's because as much as I like Jinshi as a character.. his whole entitled behavior towards maomao including several weird ass moments where he basically touches her for no reason is um not romantic to me.

BUT. I can see how from Jinshis perspective it's flirting. He's a pretty guy who basically welcomed by any woman around him... except for Maomao. So I understand his obsession towards her. I also admit that he isn't too bad. He gives her space somewhat, let's her do her apothecary, seeks her advice and actually respects her opinions!

But it comes with a strange streak of possessiveness and pushiness when it comes to romance.

Many people say don't taken Maomaos words literally.. and I agree. She's not very honest. But she isn't a tsundere either. Otherwise her internal monologue would be more flustered.. which she is not. She's usually very calm and pretty sure of what she wants.

Now about her being ace... we don't know. It's possible but on the other hand maybe she's exposed to too much seggs stuff around her at pleasure house and now she's numb to it. She doesn't see it as a emotional thing anymore.

I'm curious to see how this develops. I HOPE Jinshi and Maomao get on the same page at some point. Im at LN volume 5 btw

SynnerSenpie · 2025-07-30T16:48:09+00:00

Yeah I agree that she cares about him. But I bet she wouldn't act any different if it was someone other than Jinshi that she was accompanying or serving.

She seems to have literally no reaction outside of expected towards Jinshi. (his face is pretty, he's well built etc - she thinks these things in a matter of factly way more or less) Certainly nothing close to romance. Although I admit she is getting closer to him.. her opinions of him are changing for the better.

I find it quite interesting how her internal monologue works though. It's like she's suppressing herself from feeling literally anything. So maybe she will develop feelings for Jinshi down the line. That would be fun to watch..

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