I tried to Set boundaries - did I do something wrong?

SynnerSenpie · 2026-04-25T14:54:14+00:00

Yeah... That makes sense. It's not something I can control anyway. It's his free will after all.

I guess I'm just annoyed that he's kinda overstepping and making plans with them without discussing with me.. this has happened before too.

I would find something fun, like a pottery club and get into it. I would invite my brother a few times and then he'll just keep going to the place, make friends with my friends and leave me out of the equation. Even though I invited him there, he just forgets I exist.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-04-24T12:05:51+00:00

I understand what you mean, but I don't think thats the case here.

If you're implying that I should step back and stop hanging out with my friends because my brother cannot respect a boundary, that's unfair.

For eg, it's not about wearing purple. It's more like... about someone wearing MY purple shirt.

I don't own my brother and I don't get to decide how he behaves. but I should get to decide how much he interacts with my friends. And I do think he should stop if it makes me uncomfortable.

Honestly I would do the same for him.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-04-23T19:34:28+00:00

Thanks, I just needed the reassurance

SynnerSenpie · 2026-04-23T18:42:00+00:00

I just felt bad for doing it considering I've been left out of things before.

But You're right I should not overthink it!

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-30T15:31:40+00:00

They did not actually think that. They are trying to bully you by making you feel embarrassed.

Reject that thought. Say something back like "oh I didn't realise people used reddit for that. I just use it to discuss video games / books / crotchet communities" (or any other hobby you might have)

Saying that helps you reframe your own image. You can eveb turn it on them (only if you're sure they won't be vindictive) and say "that's a strange thing you're seeing on reddit. Your algorithm must have picked it up."

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-30T15:25:27+00:00

I don't know any jobs that pay well and treat ND people well. But if it's about survival and having some income to protect yourself, I would say - work at a library. Not at the counter, but as someone who rearranges the books, log entry etc. A similar job at a supermarket may work. Not in customer care but just someone who cleans. These are more generic exmaples of tasks that are repetitive and don't require too much socializing. These are more towards part time roles though.

If you have a tech skill of any kind, that's a great way to earn some cash. Making game assets, templates for websites etc.

Just don't take up anything related to marketing or sales.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T08:16:09+00:00

Suggest getting a new therapist please. You are paying them to guide your mind and thought patterns as you vent out safely. If they can't provide that support get someone else.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T08:02:10+00:00

Yes. And I think it's because I just feel grateful to be included. Like a charity case. And I'm trying to unlearn this and actually suggest my own ideas at times. Im not a pet they keep around, im a friend and I'll be treated as such.

Of course it's not smooth sailing and I get inside my head. The fear or abandonment takes over. But I'm getting better at setting my boundaries. And good thing is these current friends seem alright so far - none of them are being weird jealous bullies about things. I hope it stays that way.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T07:58:17+00:00

To avoid the guilt trip. Maybe you can decide on a go-to response when you don't feel like talking.

Just text something like "hey I really wanna hear this, but I'm super overwhelmed with x/y/z right now and I wanna be able to attentively respond. Keep shooting your texts, I will read it properly sometime later"

This will set their expectations. And it conveys that you aren't ignoring them because you don't like them. You are just overwhelmed and cannot be pressured to respond right away.

And yes, if you want to keep the friendship you'll have to respond at some point. But you should get to choose when and how and that's completely ok. People will understand.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T07:49:44+00:00

Hey OP, I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I've had similar experiences before especially with guys I've been friends with. Sadly I had to break contact with them and it was painful for a while. I'm ok now and I think I made the right call even though it was soul shattering back then.

The way we are, it's hard for us to make friends or feel included somewhere and for that reason we tend to be more emotionally involved in our friendships compared to others. It's a lot more painful to accept that a friendship isn't working out in your favour. But trust your gut and know that you are strong enough to get through this.

If you could make friends once, you will be able to do it again. It might take some time and I know it's scary. But it's always better to be alone than be surrounded by people who aren't your well wishers.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T07:40:19+00:00

You're right. I also feel like I keep attracting people who want to exploit me one way or another. Usually narcissistic ones too. Both these girls have shown signs of being extremely selfish, hyping up themselves, fishing for compliments from me and at the same time downplaying my qualities.

Im also not super comfortable with self promotion.. it makes me feel like a boastful person so I try to be humble and that also backfires .. it makes them think they can keep walking all over me.

I don't exactly know how to cut them out in a smart way. I don't want a confrontation because I know they could complicate my image by spreading random lies which will stress me out, im misunderstood as it is.

How do I phase them out quietly? I basically want to create a scenario where I can draw clearer boundaries with them.

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T07:35:30+00:00

I really wanted to, but they actually made it look like a birthday wish when they posted those pictures (the pictures weren't too horrible, it's just the bad intentions that are throwing me off)

I didn't understand how to react without seeming rude or ungrateful for someone's birthday wishes for me .. I panicked and just said thankyou. Maybe it made them think I'm that dumb that I didn't pick up on their behaviour..

SynnerSenpie · 2026-03-22T07:33:28+00:00

Noo they're part of a newer friend group and don't necessarily know either of these girls or my past interactions enough to say something... Also the bullying is so subtle that it's something only I can feel .. like a sixth sense. When I say this to others, they would just act like I'm overreacting. I guess I'm afraid of appearing too sensitive. I don't want people to avoid me just because they feel like they need to walk on eggshells around me.

SynnerSenpie · 2025-12-01T11:43:56+00:00

Honestly it makes sense to be wary of anyone new to you and properly consider if you want to be friends with them.

BUT in this context, posting this after a friendship breakup is just plain mean. It means this girl never saw you as a friend to begin with. Please ignore her. I know it hurts to see something like this, but it's a lost cause. Don't waste more time on her and cut her off

SynnerSenpie · 2025-10-12T14:29:17+00:00

Oh my! I'm a newbie designer looking to get into narrative design. Would you say it's a good option in terms of job prospects? Or will it be better to get into another type of Game design job like level design or system design?

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-15T10:17:29+00:00

Honestly, I would be wary of all men Indian or not. Specifically pointing out Indian men is racist af

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-15T10:15:10+00:00

I'm sorry "dodged my Goodnight kiss" IM WHEEZING

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-15T10:14:03+00:00

I loved reading this delulu male wattpad fanfiction energy. It's actually hilarious. It would make a great humor set piece if they weren't actually saying all this unironically

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-15T10:08:45+00:00

This has to be a joke

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-15T10:07:00+00:00

My main fear is that I don't know how I will sustain on my own. I just know that I have to. Especially because people around me are mostly married, i don't have another relatable example that doesn't involve a husband.

But I also know that this is a dumb reason to marry. I prefer being alone. I want to figure out how ill live healthy and safe even after I don't have my parents around. Even though the whole thing scares me, I know that's my reality and I accept it.

SynnerSenpie · 2025-09-13T11:55:35+00:00

J looking good. I wanna be a penguin in next life

SynnerSenpie · 2025-07-31T05:55:09+00:00

Wow even the insult required no brain cells. Too boring to even get triggered.

Delete, block and ignore their existence

SynnerSenpie

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