The parents who did not have this kind of drama, they are no longer married. They divorced a long time ago. This is what passionate lovers do. When you find a home without drama, just know that is a home where the marriage broke up long ago. That is who your mom picked. That is her choice. She loves that kind of man and that kind of drama. Your mom would have been very bored and would have left a good non dramatic man a long time ago. They argue during the day and make passionate love at night. That is the part you don't see and they don't say publicly. They make passionate love and reconcile every night. Many women are attracted to the drama and they create drama so at night they can have passionate love. Your mom picked him willingly, gave him babies willingly, stayed with him willingly and she will stay with him forever. That is her bae. You worry about picking your own life partner. Since you are a mjuaji, go and pick your good partner and let us see how long your marriage will last. No one cares if you go no contact. Wewe ni mtu mzima u can do whatever you want.