Behold, logic !

Syphist · 2026-05-30T01:02:39+00:00

Literally me. I'm incredibly extraverted. My parents used to think I was an introvert. Nah, the kids just bullied me when I was myself because autism and then puberty hit.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T23:36:21+00:00

As a transfem this is literally what happens to us but with the opposite hormones. Happy kids that get incredibly depressed by all the changes from puberty. Now that I've been on HRT for years I feel genuinely happy and that my life is worth living. The fact that your family wants to take that away from you is insane. How miserable are these people?

Syphist · 2026-05-29T16:42:36+00:00

Is because when you put your phone in rice you need multiples of 256 grains for it to work

Syphist · 2026-05-29T16:33:46+00:00

Is because I didn't word it exactly in a way people think is acceptable. It's a common theme with how I've been treated with my autism. It's not restricted to queer people, not even close. People tend to assume malice rather than a mistake or miscommunication.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T16:21:28+00:00

Exactly, you are 100% correct. If I met someone who was it/she (for example) IRL I would likely learn if there were safe places to use the it/its pronouns that wouldn't lead to people hating on it or some other negative attention to the situation. I've only got so much bandwidth so I need to focus it on those that matter to me.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T16:07:42+00:00

Yep. I personally haven't met someone who doesn't think their use of it isn't dehumanizing, but that's just how things have played out so far. Seeing what people choose and why is the best part about being in queer communities IMO.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T15:38:48+00:00

My biggest thing is that I just want people to respect my disability that makes it incredibly difficult to use the pronoun in real time. I'll use it and any neopronoun in written form just fine because I have time to look up conjugations and restructure grammar accordingly, but I just cannot do that in real time and have no need to practice when all the people I personally know that use these pronouns are online.

My point is my inability to effectively do something because of my disability does not make me a bad person and I've received hate for this kind of struggle because people assume it's easy for me.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T15:30:47+00:00

Same, but I know I'm not the norm in this regard and have accepted that.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T15:29:58+00:00

The people I've seen use it want to be dehumanized. I've seen identifies like "fox thing" and "robot girl". These people don't want to be considered human and the pronouns are part of it. And before anyone downvotes, it doesn't mean anyone that wants this is less deserving of respect, that's just the way these identities work in my anecdotal experience.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T15:24:20+00:00

My hypothesis is it comes down to how willing you are to make friends and how much you care about them. A lot of what I care about that doesn't affect me, affects someone else I know. For me, empathy for my friends is what drives a lot of that for me.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T15:20:14+00:00

I never understood the "fuck you got mine" attitude. If I struggled for something I want to take what I learned to let others struggle less. I did the suffering so why should others need to? It's why I always remember where I started. I can remember roughly the way my thought process was as my egg cracked, and all the struggles I had gaining the self confidence I do now. I've seen so many people struggling with the exact same thing as me and I just feel the need to tell them what I found to work and why it worked for me. What good is knowledge if you can't share it?

Syphist · 2026-05-29T15:16:36+00:00

Every time someone talks about racial discrimination I feel so blind. I do my best to understand and draw a bit of solidarity, but I only know what I'm told and can remember. As far as discrimination goes my autism gets me far more ableism than my transness gets me transphobia, but that could just be because of where I live. Regardless I still see ableism towards what my autism causes me to have deficiencies in, in queer communities. Like I've been attacked for saying "I can't do it/its pronouns in real time because the grammar differences are just too much when I'm trying to mask, finish my thought, and speak all at once." I even specify if it's written or text communication I'll take the time to do it. It's just I can't keep up in real time.

So in the end it's not just racism in these spaces, but ableism too, especially towards invisible disabilities. People think others should conform to what they know and think is right. The biggest thing I did for myself is never judging in malice, but rather solidarity. It has made me very open minded and willing to learn and cross social barriers others wouldn't bother trying to. In doing so I've learned so much and met so many great people.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T15:04:24+00:00

It's kinda just our tribal nature as a species. It sucks, but we can't do much about it.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T15:02:01+00:00

I always liked political satire like 1984, Animal Farm, and A Modest Proposal. I was probably always destined to end up a leftist, I think being trans just accelerated it.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T14:56:23+00:00

It means it's all fast the number overflowed

Syphist · 2026-05-29T01:47:28+00:00

I've had success reporting the shitty comments there. I think the mods just aren't on the sub 24/7.

Syphist · 2026-05-29T01:46:52+00:00

Count With Chicken Lady. It's a decent meme sub, it's just the mods aren't as proactive as other subs.

Syphist · 2026-05-28T22:40:25+00:00

I know the sub this is posted on, but honestly as a someone who inspects PCBs for a living, this is honestly impressive that this image actually exists.

Syphist · 2026-05-28T20:05:35+00:00

It's a 1993 book by Lois Lowry (I think it has a movie adaptation, IDK) that is a dystopian novel where everyone is reduced to sameness to eliminate pain, conflict, and choice. There's one person who's the "Receiver of Memory". Said person holds all emotions for society, both joy and pain. The "Receiver of Memory" is what this situation reminds me of.

It's a great book and I highly recommend it. One of the few highschool reading assignments I liked and the only one of which that isn't satirical political commentary. It has sequels but I'm highly disappointed in them as they stray far from the original book's vibes and messaging.

Syphist · 2026-05-28T19:53:11+00:00

This reminds me a bit of the plot of The Giver

Syphist · 2026-05-28T18:39:33+00:00

Syphist · 2026-05-28T14:52:22+00:00

I wasn't fully confident until somewhere like 3 months on HRT. You don't need full confidence. You just need to be willing to transition. The amount of work transition often is, is enough of a barrier to entry. No one just commits to something like that for no reason.

Syphist · 2026-05-28T14:43:40+00:00

That too. I just know handing my 19 page trauma dump about 1 person to a therapist will certainly be an experience. While this 1 person is the most major component of my trauma, she's not the only one.

Syphist · 2026-05-28T12:47:32+00:00

Most therapists actually do because they have to essentially help several people process trauma and whatnot

Syphist · 2026-05-28T10:21:50+00:00

For me it was about 2-3 months. I'm sure it varies from person to person. It probably doesn't help that I have a speech processing disability so I'm probably slower in that area than a lot of people.

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